"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Pakwah

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So after 4 months of being a complete ass to my ex, ive let up a little. Yesterday i get a call from her saying she was looking for an old photo album of ours. Saying she cried while looking at it, told me she missed me, told me to put my eyebrow ring back in cuz she 'liked it'.
This coming from a girl who left me for someone else.
What the hell is up with that?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Charm&Style

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bro been there...when my ex did this i instantly knew she wanted to make her self feel better and know that she still had a little bit of control...too bad for her shallow attention loving high maintance as$ i left her message saying "hey babe i miss you more (pause of silence) then i said NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT "

anyways some ex's will never changed and im juss happy i dumped her punk a$$. Dont go into a deep thought itll make things worse.
 

The Sperminator

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She probably does miss you maybe even want to get back with you but whats to keep her from leaving you for someone else again. I've seen this happen many times. Where the girl leaves a guy for some other guy because she thinks this guy is better than you when she finds out that hes not or when the guy dumps her ass she wants to come back to you. Don't do it. She gets what she deserves. She probably thinks she can come back whenever she wants to do not let this happen. If I was you I wouldn't even talk to her anymore.
 

Pakwah

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Yeah she even invited me to the bar 2nite
Saying 'x' is coming and 'y' is coming but 'bf' isnt coming cuz hes being gay
Obviously a little troubled waters over there.
thing is when a girl says they 'miss you' whats the hidden meaning?
 

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i am not gong to lie... i ****ed my ex while she was still with her bf that she left me for.. she wanted me back so she did all of that nasty stuff. And I hate to say but it felt good (she cheated on me with him). If you can stay detached, which i dont know if you can because your looking into to much as it is, just keep her as a FB while looking around. ONLY IF you can stay detached, or say "why dont you skip the bar and just come over to my place". Again i was able to be detached, because i moved a few days later... and i learned how to turn sadness into hatred.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Pakwah

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Livinlifehard, see the first thing i wrote in this post, after being an ass for 4 months....

I never give myself any credit for any old gf to want to get back with me, just cuz i am tired of the 'you'll never do better than me' and 'no one will love you as much as me' bs that people tell. maybe they will, maybe they wont...but i will never believe that i was soooo good that they want me back, even though i try my best to do so

3 days ago, i get a phone text, not an email, saying 'i was making blablabla and i thought of you'

i could read into this if i want, think what i want, until her new bf is done being a jerk...or they are done fighting, and its like it never happened.

Why does an ex go out of their way to go through '4 boxes of crap' to find an old photo album of you and her...say to you that she was specifically looking for it - saying she misses you -THATS putting alot out there for a girl. That really puts the 'guard down'. What guy would do that??....so why would they do it?
 

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A girl that I went out with a few times in July that dumped me for another guy, saying that I was "too shy" for her, after she saw some new chicks leaving me messages on myspace saying they love me and things like that, she sent me a message after 5 months of us not talking of, "So, who are you dating now? just curious". I thought about saying, "not you. I'm "too shy" for you." But, I just told her, "i'm seeing a few ppl." I figure she was just jealous. Chicks are like that when they hear or see you with other chicks.
 
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