"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I miss you -the hamster has spun out of control

Bingo-Player

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now approaching week 4 of NC with HB 8

its difficult to describe HB 8's personality on here

she's a bad girl she smokes pot you name it she's done it

all that turns me on anyway

but then on the flip side she got so many fvcking good qualitys and she's so fvcking hot , i hate to say it but i really liked spending time with her :nervous:

we dated for around 4 weeks over christmas but it came to a head when i realised she wasn't giving me the sort of respect that i wanted and i was running the risk of looking a fool

i ended it without reason and walked away , i knew she liked me and it was going to hurt her but i wanted her to realise what she had lost

she's spent the last 3 weeks trying to get me to break NC

everything from asking why I'm being quite , to claiming she's had speeding tickets from when we've been out on dates

ive ignored it all and today finally her hamster has lost control

i get a message from HB 8 saying " i miss you :("

i feel i should probably respond now

question is with what ......
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If she has admitted her mistakes and even better yet apologized I see no harm in re contacting. You could reply with just "hi" and have a short and sweet chat. Then go nc again for a few days so she wonders what she said in the chat to displease you again. Make that hamster approach cardiac arrest. Then resume contact again and take it where you want.

I like chicks like this too. There is a country song "I like my women a little on the... Trashy side!"
 

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At some point you're going to have to decide what you want to do. If you want to keep punishing her; or if you want to try again. There's going to be a certain point - she'll dissapear if you push this too much longer. If that's what you want or not? Only you know...

The main warning is - even if she fixes herself - it most likely will only be for the short term. Whatever behavior she was doing to make you feel like a fool - will most likely come back. Creating a vicious cycle....
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Show up at her house unannounced and say "Someone missed me?"

Then f*ck her brains out and go NC for another two weeks. It will really drive her crazy.
 

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bukowski_merit said:
At some point you're going to have to decide what you want to do. If you want to keep punishing her; or if you want to try again. There's going to be a certain point - she'll dissapear if you push this too much longer. If that's what you want or not? Only you know...

The main warning is - even if she fixes herself - it most likely will only be for the short term. Whatever behavior she was doing to make you feel like a fool - will most likely come back. Creating a vicious cycle....

yea i know, had nearly every word of this in the back of my mind

i have hit the point where i can take her or leave her .....

replied as follows

HB 8: i miss u:(

me : haha so what u gonna do about it

HB 8 : :(

me:il see u soon

HB 8 : YAY


will leave another week or so and then call her to make a date , see if she's learnt her lesson
 

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You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to bukowski_merit again.

^^ I agree 100% on what Buk said, much props on the NC! I think I've burned out on pot chicks, no pun intended. Bad girls are fun cannot disagree. Good news is you know your respect line....who knows if she's revengeful or not.
 
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