"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i met this girl at a " work thing"

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hey guys. wtf was with the site being down for a week. but anyway. here is my story

( this is taken from my blog.)

a little bit after i sit down to do this ****ty day. the girl next to me commented on my bracelet saying she had the same one. witch i didn't care too much about. that was in the morning.

in the afternoon we was working groups trying to work on our "sales pitch" so i tired pitching my iPhone to one of the peoples in my group. as i try sell this phone to a guy in my group, for 200$ the girl next to me tries to buy the phone of me for real. i step back and think for a second. if i can sell this phone for 200$ i could up grade to the 4g pretty soon ( i have a 3g iphone 8g). so i investigate to see if i can get it at 200$ she says. no 100$. i ain't selling the 800$ iPhone for 100$ so i say no 200$. this goes back and forth for a bit. then we agree on 150, this was with the charger and use cord. so i get her number so i can call her later.

this was on Monday. i haven't called her yet because i been at work and stuff. plus i didn't really want to rush things.i was planning on calling her tomorrow. but i really don't know what to say. or anything. she is pretty hot so.

she doesn't work at the same store as me. it was just a group training day i had to attend. she was flirting with a few guys. i was the lucky one who got her number.

i think i am just going to call her up and get straight to the point. i do have other offers for the phone. but i could try set up for a date also. i really don't know witch angle to play here. what do you think?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i would set it up so she comes to you to get that phone.. then when she comes you guys can discuss things over coffee.
 

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Maybe you're just a bad storyteller, but I don't see any indication that you were flirting with her or carrying on an interesting/exciting discussion. Sounds like you were trying to sell a phone and she gave you her number with the intent of purchasing a phone.

What indication did you have that you built sexual interest in this woman? I don't get it....
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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