"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I met her online and what to do next

ken888

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Hi,

So it goes like this. I met a girl 2 years back in an online game. We have been playing together for 2 years but never really contact each other since we live in different country just side by side. She did sent me some text by her mobile phone.

Few months back she passed by here and we met up for 2 days with another friend. I failed to give a good impression in terms of my clothings. Worst than that, I didnt talk much to her and ended up talking more to her friend.

After she went back, I told her that she is attractive and other hopeless thing through msn(she just got one). Since then, whenever I called her by msn, she always said she is busy.

After sometimes, things get alittle better and we started to contact each other again by msn. She told me that she can only talk to me secretly as she is staying at her BF's house.

About a month ago, her friend told me that she broke out with her BF. We still maintain our contact and talk briefly like every 5-6 days, sometimes we joke and tease around with not so decent stuff.

She told me that she is leaving for overseas work on march and back in 6 months time. I told her that I would like to visit her before she leaves and she told me not now. She said she will visit me again when she come back from work and I can follow her back home if I want to.

So what should I do now so that I can raise her interest level and should I maintain contact with her when she is overseas or should I disappear and hope that she forget my first not so good impression? And any important thing I should do before our next meet up?

Thanks alot.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kailex

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Don't tell me this is the only prospect (aka "plate") you have going on.
Are you serious?

She's basically telling you that she doesn't want to see you NOW, even after you asked her to, which means that she'll MAYBE consider it 6 months from now... in which I guarantee she'll make up a new excuse so that she can't see you again.

Can't you find someone who'll stick around in your area and not resort to "online games"?

And, I hope you learned your lesson about dressing up nicely.
 

5string

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I'd be more concerned about her "secretly" talking to you while living with another man. Get together with her, she may do the same thing to you. Or, something even worse. Just an opinion.
 
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