"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I messed up

kk2004

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Me and my girl where at a Block party yest, and I was in a bad mood all day, first becasue I felt that she was ignoring me and then the next thing for some odd reason just pushed me over the edge, we where walking toward the dance floor and then she hears her favorite song, and she starts to go and dance with her best freind who is a girl. She doesnt even ask me if I wanted to join her, she just lets go of my hand and runns to the floor, while Im on the side, watching for about the length of two songs. I told her afterwards that If she loved me and cared for me, she would have come up to me and dragged me to the dance floor. I siad that she didnt even think about me while I watied on the side, I told her that if she loved me she wold have thought about me and came up to me and said "hey sweeti, come dance with me" but instead she thought that i didnt want to dance because i was standing on the side, and that she thought that if i wanted to dance i would have come on the dance floor, instead of me just standing there. I was standing there to just ask me to join her, i was waiting to see if she cared enough to think about me. She told me she did but said that she thought that I didnt want to.

I got soooo heated, that i told her that i was gonng to leave the party and guess what I did. She was crying the whole 4 hours for the rest of the party. SHe told me "The person who I wanted to stay the most with me, left the earliest" I told her that she didnt care for me, that she didnt think about me, otherwise she would have come up and asked me. She told me that I shold KNOW that she loves me and that she doesnt have to prove herself to me all the time and that if i wanted to dance I could have just walked up to teh floor and done it. I told her it was these little things that mattered, not big things, but just being considerate, and showing it in small ways. I got sooo mad, now all her friends think Im a as*hole, her best freind doesnt like me anymore and her cousins and everyone hate me.

What should i do. I already said I was very sorry.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nishbuk

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uhhh...wow, what?

dude...I don't think you're handling this well.

Have you read the DJ bible? Or at least Anti-dump's machine?
 

kk2004

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yeah

the book says i just just act like it doesnt matter. Be nonchalant aboiut the mistake i made.
 

nishbuk

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Re: yeah

Originally posted by kk2004
the book says i just just act like it doesnt matter. Be nonchalant aboiut the mistake i made.
I think you're caring too much about how she's treating you. It seems like you are being a little needy. Also, I'm not sure why you apologized? What was the reason? Everytime you apologize to a girl, you should have a DAMN good reason to do so. Not for little things like this. You are not showing strength.
 
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