i messed up, what now?

[kman1]

ok, first of all, i know 99% of you guys are going to say "forget it, move on". that's fine. but i want to know if there's something i can do to recover from my stupidity. some of you true pros out there probably know how to make up for your mistakes and get back on track. that's what i want to hear. here's what happened -

- am dating a girl
- i wanted to see her more often and make progress, but played it cool for about 2 months
- whenever i ask her out, she loves to say "let me check" or "maybe"....never gives me a yes right away. (before you get on her for this, keep in mind that she is trying to be a challenge to me, and we are always being taught to do the same to them so fair's fair)
- most of the time, she ends up going out with me, we have a good time, make out, etc.....
- today, called her and things were going well. she even said we should plan a trip away together...said she had an apt that she could hook me up with, etc.
- then, i asked her out for saturday and she again said "maybe", even though she had said she didn't have any plans earlier in the convo.
- i lost it, and got pissed. basically said "fine, let me know" in an angry tone.
- i left her a message to apologize for losing it, and asking her to call me back (i know....HUGE MISTAKE)

now i am waiting. she may not call me, but if she does, how do i handle it?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

First of all if you say she is trying to present herself as a challenge by saying "maybe" or "let me check" why would you get mad when she did this again? That was more strange than AFC in my opinion? I would get a little annoyed if I was dating a girl for a couple of months and she always did this, but you gotta keep your composure, show her that you are the prize and she isn't the world to you.

I don't think she'll cut things off with you, you didn't make a terrible error, yeah its pretty bad but nothing that will break off the relationship. Unless you really ripped it into her. Just give her space now, no more phone calls asking her to call, NOTHING! She knows your sorry, just sit back and give her time. If she doesn't call, then your free of her burden anyway.


Next time be patient and don't get annoyed so quickly, that might scare her for the future.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

oh so you need some quick information then, aight............

You say you know she is being a challenge, and we do it too, so fairs fair huh? Hmmmmmm.......really?

Why do we be a challenge? Huh?

We are a challenge because we have life outside of women, and being a challenge to the woman allows her to see that and makes the time we spend with her valuable. I mean, we dont see her everyday, so when we do, she apprecites it more. You got me.

So fairs fair huh? Why is she a challenge you might ask?

Well, because YOU LIKE HER TOO DAMN MUCH. Thats why. Let me explain.

You ask her out, she says, maybe. Maybe is a **** test that she is giving you. The purpose of the shyt test kid, is to see if you have any backbone. To see if you are a man of control. I am sorry, but you failed that test.

You must be willing to walk away. You must be willing to say like Cartman says on South Park, screw you guys, I am going home! I would rather be home then playing games with a dumb ***** like you. Plain and simple.

So you finally go off on her. Bout time. Then you call her back to apologize. What are you apologizing for, her behavior? She was the jerk not you.

I will tell you what. If she calls you today, dont answer the phone. If she knows where you stay and comes over dont answer the door. By no means at all be in contact with her.

When you do talk to her again, demand to her that you will not tolerate her ****, you are better and have a whole lot more *****es you can go out with. And until you grow the fvck up, I will be spending my time with Rhonda or Sherry, or (just make up a hoes name) and slam the phone down.

She will then respect you and come back to you and then tell her she has to make it up to you. Say she has to buy you something or get you lunch (it does not have to be a sexual thing she has to do, because now she wants to do that anyway. ) You got me.

If that ***** calls today, dont answer the damn phone.

 

[kman1]

ok, 2 votes for "do nothing". i think that's the correct course of action.

question though - does anybody know anything smooth that i could DO to get back on track, rather than waiting? not saying that because i disagree w/the first 2 replies, but sometimes people here have some truly brilliant stuff.

pimpsicle - btw, thanks for the response, i feel better now.

 

[chuchu]

Seems like your interest level is douple of her. All she need is a good challenge.

Never apologise if she calls back. Just ask her how shes doing, make it like you care for her a little bit, but dont talk more than 1 min. Make up an excuse to hang up. Keep doing that everytime she calls.


Dont call her again, give her some space.

 

[Desdinova]

question though - does anybody know anything smooth that i could DO to get back on track, rather than waiting?

In other words, you want the quick fix rather than dealing with patience. I wouldn't doubt if you called her by the time you've read my post.

You're acting like a desperate little puppy wanting a pat on the head from your master. OH MY GOD, what will you do if she dumps you?? Maybe you should kill yourself since you can't survive without her!!!

Go read the DJ Bible.

 

[flexion_]

Do nothing.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

the stuff that you say to women come naturally........say what the fvck you wanna say. Comment on this comment on that just comment on whatever you want.....kid, if you are looking for a script to follow, hell no, never and I do mean never do that. The source is, saying what the fvck you want to say, just dont give her no compliments because she does not deserve that right now. Make fun of her, crack about that guy over there, kid, any damn thing you want to talk about......and you had bet not of called her today either since I last posted........I am, do what you want, if you want her *****, you should kind of listen to me...no I aint God, but your hoe aint either.

 

[tmpgstx]

Good points .. you're already whipped and it's only been a couple of months! She knows this now with that submissive call back. Don't fret it though, any girl who really likes you alot will give you some slack. From now on though, make sure you da man. No more ass kissing. Just say to her when she does that 'maybe' stuff .. give her crap and say either you do or you don't. If it's maybe, then i'll take it as a no!

 

[kman1]

i am so f***ing whipped it's not funny. ARGH! ok, thanks guys for the advice. f*** it, it's her loss.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

You say you are whipped, may I ask you, what are you going to do about it?

a. Forget about her and move on. NEXT.
b. Evolve into a real don juan.
c. Call her up again.

You might be thinking answer a, but you should be thinking answer b.

AFCs say this all the time, when they come here and guys tell them they must not get mad, or not get attached so quickly, damn....its like telling a damn dog to walk. Hes a damn dog, he does not know nor comprendend how to walk like humans.

You are whipped kid! You are frustrated kid! You are an AFC kid! That comes naturally to AFCS, like confidence comes naturally to don juans. REad my thread on, The Truth: The End, evolve into a don juan, and you will be like me, and the only reason you visit this site is to help some other AFC.