I messed up and now I have to make it up to her

[Omen]

So this girl I work with (and I dont need a work speech) i've been flirting with, and a few days ago I said something I shouldn't have said, or at least what I said she took the wrong way. She didnt let it go, and told me to never talk to her again. I explained to her that what I said was different then she interpreted it, but she didnt buy it.

Bottom line is it came out wrong and it was too late once I said it, and she said it really hurt her feelings.

Anyways she told me she wanted a sincere apology and she wanted me to make it up to her and she'd forgive me.

Since I screwed up, and made a mistake, it is only right I do that. I apologized to her face to face, but that isn't enough. A plain sorry wouldn't cut it, and I had no time to really get it across right.

Now here is my problem. I have to make it up to her at work on Monday after we close. I dont work, so it's the only time I can talk to her. I'll have about 5min or so, and that is it, cause she has studying to do for finals this whole next week.

So I need to figure out what I should do with 5min and not much to work with. I like this girl, and I want her to realize that when I screw up, I can make up for it.

I have no one to blame for this one except myself.

I wouldn't have a problem if it was a girl I had been dating for months, cause i'd know many things about her, and I would have so much more to work with.

I'm kind of doing this blind, and I only have a few ideas.

I was going to get us both some ice cream, and then take it to her, and that would give us time to talk as well, and me to admit my mistake better than I initially did. My goal is to get some chat time with her and since it takes time to eat, we can talk as well.

I'm hoping though its simple, and cheap, that it still is enough to make her happy.

Any ideas would help, or what you have done when you've messed up and you know it.

 

[Mavrick]

If you let her know that this got you bugged out, she'll know she has something over you because it affects you. Just apologize, and that's it. It's up to her to accept it.

Never ever show a girl your needy side - no matter what. You don't NEED this girl to forgive you. The more desperate you act about it, the madder she's going to get because she knows she has been handed your power. Personally, I would tell a woman that gets upset with me that she's too sensitive (a neg). Then she'll try to prove that she's not that sensitive. You have to care less than she does. She's not worried about losing you by being upset with you, so you should be even less worried about losing her.

If I were you, I wouldn't lose any sleep over it, and certainly don't let her know that you are.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I said something I shouldn't have said, or at least what I said she took the wrong way. She didnt let it go, and told me to never talk to her again. I explained to her that what I said was different then she interpreted it, but she didnt buy it.

You need to tell us exactly what you said or nobody can help you...what did you say?

 

[DonJuan11]

So this girl I work with (and I dont need a work speech) i've been flirting with, and a few days ago I said something I shouldn't have said, or at least what I said she took the wrong way. She didnt let it go, and told me to never talk to her again. I explained to her that what I said was different then she interpreted it, but she didnt buy it.

Bottom line is it came out wrong and it was too late once I said it, and she said it really hurt her feelings.

Anyways she told me she wanted a sincere apology and she wanted me to make it up to her and she'd forgive me.

Since I screwed up, and made a mistake, it is only right I do that. I apologized to her face to face, but that isn't enough. A plain sorry wouldn't cut it, and I had no time to really get it across right.

You have to tell us what you said for us to help you.

Now here is my problem. I have to make it up to her at work on Monday after we close. I dont work, so it's the only time I can talk to her. I'll have about 5min or so, and that is it, cause she has studying to do for finals this whole next week.

Why do you have to it Monday after work? What if something comes up and you can't "apologize" at that time? What if she has to go before closing? What if she meets a guy at 4:55 pm and goes and sleeps with him and then says everything is ok to you...and that you are just friends? IMHO you can't put all your eggs into Monday's off chance meeting.

Dude this girl sounds high maintenance. You can only apologize to her Monday between 5:00 - 5:05 after she closes and may or may not be paying attention to you? I don't think so. I would stay out of her face until finals are over. I've had girls throw drinks at me and call me jerks and told me to go to hell. I apologize next day, everything is good.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Yeah, approval seeking rears its ugly head, big time!

She has you jumping through her hoops, and you haven't even told us why her opinion (approval) of you matters this much. Does she have the ultimate Super Pusi?

"Let me give you The C0CK as a way to show you I am sincerely sorry."

 

[Touchout]

Haha I've had this same sh1t happen to me, at work and everything. Stop and think about what you did... do you really think it was that bad that an apology isn't good enough, or is just what she's making you think. It's a big sh1ttest.

I did the same thing, I apologized immediately following it, it wasn't good enough. Then the next day, not good enough. So I just said fuk it and forgot about her (cut all contact, ect).

Long story short, two weeks later she called me begging to hang out, and later that week I was hooking up with her. Don't give in to her sh1t dude.

 

[justiceseeker]

Nothing good ever comes from apologizing to a woman. Learn it, Know it, Live it.

 

[Jitterbug]

A full body massage should be sufficient to make up for it. You can offer her that, and if she doesn't like it, then she's too high maintenance, I reckon.

 

[Omen]

You need to tell us exactly what you said or nobody can help you...what did you say?

Well, it was basically a why would I go out with you type of deal. I told her...your cute and all, but so what.

She took it as... "he told me I have nothing else to offer besides my looks" is what she said, and she said it hurt her feelings.

What I was trying to get across, was the fact i'm not after her because of the way she looks, and when I go after a woman, I need a reason. I guess it was basically a way of qualifying her.

I think she initially got the impression it was all based on looks, and since she knows it isn't now, I think it caught her off guard.

I had a bad night, and I sent it as a text, and then she just blew up in my face. She was like... I dont let anyone talk to me that way.

One of those rare times I say something I shouldn't and it gets my ass in trouble.

Basically to her it was... Your blond....your cute...stupid, and what is there to offer me besides the poonani?

Now if I would have said the above that would have landed me a real kick in the ass.

 

[Omen]

Ignore this post. I hit the wrong button.