"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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B-Real

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I met this girl in one of my classes a while back. I never really talked to her before. We just had a "hey" kinda status.

Well I wanted to sweeten the deal a little bit. I was talking to a friend of mine about it and I be dang if he didn't ask her about me. He and her have the same class together.

So after the class he told me she seemed interested in me and I should get her phone number and talk to her and all (which I was gonna do in the first place) So I got her phone number the next day. I was gonna wait a few days to call. Well she ended up texting me!!

Apparently he gave her my phone number and told her to text me. So now she thinks I really like her (which I do) and she knows it. So she is now in control since she knows I like her and all.
I asked her out one night and she said she was busy all week that next week would be better.

My question is: How can I take her off the pedestal? I mean I know I can personally, but I want her to think I have more options than just her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fuglydude

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Get more options than her...go out meet more women! Its a lot easier to do than to pretend...I don't get why guys only pursue one girl at a time.

Always engage multiple targets simultaneously.
 

B-Real

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Well I do have backup girls. Its just that she never sees me with them. Like I said I can do it personally, like she she is off my pedestal, but the whole time we have class together she knows I like her.

I need to do something to show her that I'm not interested in JUST her. Because to me, she has power over me.

I know she has some kind of interest in me because I can catch her looking at me at times while we're in class.
 

Fuglydude

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B-Real said:
Well I do have backup girls. Its just that she never sees me with them. Like I said I can do it personally, like she she is off my pedestal, but the whole time we have class together she knows I like her.

I need to do something to show her that I'm not interested in JUST her. Because to me, she has power over me.

I know she has some kind of interest in me because I can catch her looking at me at times while we're in class.
Go out and screw one of your back up girls...well u dont' have to screw her, but it would be fun! Just date her or whatever, and find a way to bring it up to your target girl in conversation.

I'd also totally accuse her of checking you out during class, to joke around and be like "why don't you pay more attention to the lesson, and less on checking me out"...something like that!

If you're always meeting other girls that are at her level, your interest in her will naturally wane, and that will act in your favor.

Good luck!
 

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Hold up, my friend. You are too much in this control game. So what if she knows you like her, what the hell's going to happen. According to you, she already knows about your feeling, and you did ask her out. Now, try again next week, hear her response, and then it is up to you, simple. Also, you are not desperate for her so why the hell do you feel this insatiable need to demonstrate to her that you have other options. WHY? As your username says "Be Real." Have fun :moon: .
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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