"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

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I made a big mistake, how would it be perceived?

Confused

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This girl I was seeing who I have feelings for isn't interested in me anymore and kind of ended things about a month ago.

I still have feelings for her and it was too late by then to do the NC thing as I already tried it and caved in. Basically I was too afc that she probably would never come back. I saw her on Monday coming home late and I walked her back to her dorms and helped her with her luggage. She said thank you and i was about to leave as i kissed her goodbye but then i started to go into speech about how we used to get on so well and i knew her friends didn't like me.. then i let slip that i was seeing someone. she was like 'its ok u dont need to..' i think she meant explain.

anyway i cut her off and said 'well someoneS' then she looked annoyed and said 'i dont want to hear this..' then walks off saying 'confused this isn't the right time for this..' and im still talking to her from a distance not finishing my sentence.

Granted it was late at night and she was tired and just came back from a trip and wanted to sleep.

I wanted to say that i missed talking to her and she was the only girl who could change me from this pick up lifestyle (she knows i pick up) but i didnt get the chance to.

Anyway I felt that if she hadn't moved onto seeing other guys she definitely would not knowing that i'd moved on.

And unsurprisingly I passed by her last night as she was on a date with my rival who I knew was interested in her previously but I beat him to it. She was surprisingly calm about the whole affair saying 'hi' and waving as if it was no big deal. These girls must be pro's at dealing with awkward situations.

I did my best at acting indifferent saying 'hey hows it going?' but i did turn my head to see what was up as they passed by.

is this at all salvagable?

I did the biggest AFC ever last night after I got drunk and I pretty much said what I said above in text about how she was the only girl who'd change me from that lifestyle of pick up and tried to finish off my sentence of after seeing 'someoneS' else.

Im embarassed now mainly cos she hasn't responded. I really cared about her and she's the only girl i've met in my life out of 100s of girls i dated who i was happy to just chill with and not try to bang at the quickest opportunity. I was actually attracted to her personality.

Is doing stuff like this not going to garner an emotional response from women as they're wired differently to us?

What should I have done instead or was it already too late?

I need to draw a line under these things cos i've made too many AFC mistakes for 2009.
 

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Johnny_Kage

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Find new girls. If she's interested, she'll come back to you. But by then, you probably won't care anymore. ;)

JK
 

SchoolBoy

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here we go again drift_king.. it's time u move on from this girl... seriously..
 

Die Hard

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Is doing stuff like this not going to garner an emotional response from women as they're wired differently to us?
That's what you hope, and that's what I always hope in those situations (been there many times), but the truth is: NO!

Leave her behind you, there is no such thing as "the one", she's just "one of many". Let it go..and don't feel sorry for yourself, don't make this hard on yourself!! Whenever you think of her, make sure there's only one thought in your mind: "She's a C*NT!" You'll be over her before you know it.
 
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