"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I made a big mistake asking out my co-worker last night

DonJuan11

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Kuwi said:
I asked her with a text message, so what excuse can I make up? So it won't be so awkward working with her now, I was gonna say that was my little sister texting you last night not me, do you think that would work?
Screw that. She'll know you are lying and it's saying your ego can't handle it. What if she said "yes" to your text message? Would you still say your sister had text messaged her and it was a mistake?

You have to give us more specifics. What time and day did you message her? What did it say? Did it say "I love you, please go out with me?" Or did it say "I know a cool club where we can dance the night away, pick you up at 7."

I'm guessing it was more of the former.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Best advice is indeed to act like nothing happened. Don't make a drama of it. But i understand that this is difficult in the beginning. Ignore her a littlebit, stay friendly to her and don't start talking about what happened. And no, tell no lies to her.
Asking out a co worker is ok to me. But did you do it out of the blue? Make some connection first.
 

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It'll be awkward whether you make an excuse or not. I have a better idea! Friend zone her!!!
 
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