Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I\'m f*cken lonely,life sucks!

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dreamxhenry

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belividere said:
How old are you?

As much as I\'m against using canned openers during pickups I think that you may be helped by them. If you are 21 or over, spend a few minutes getting some openers and then go to a bar, sit down and have a drink while scoping some targets, then approach. If they dont want to talk, move on to the next target. Not a guarantee that you will get anywhere but it beats sitting in front of your computer and not getting anything productive done anyways.

You really need to just get up and go, even if you are going alone, or else you will just stay in a rut. No one here is going to get you off your ass and get you to do anything in life, you have to do that yourself. There is some great advice floating around here but without action it wont get you anywhere. Good luck and happy hunting
im 17 soon to be 18,but your right about approaching girls is better then sitting hoem and using the computer
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dream,

Did you do anything about it tonight?

Your a young guy and have a lot of opprotunities ahead of you in life. Instead of being put off by your current situation you should strive to achieve things in your future that will separate you from where you are right now.

I'm 27 and trust me that things will change when you get older. The guys who are on top of the world right now will fall, and those on the bottom will rise. One of the most important things in life that I've learned is that the ability to adapt is a thousand times more valuable that the ability to be false.

The best advice that I think I can give you is to stop coming to this site and stop seeking validation from outside sources. You have a lot to discover and you will be happier if you find those things out on your own. Come back to this site when you are older and have the experience to weed out the good from the bad, dont let the guys who post on here influence you until you have some of your own experiences as a counter weight.
 

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I don't club and all I did tonight was play piano and play in a poker tourney for 4 hours.
 

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You're only 17, you got your whole life ahead of you man.

Itishe made a nice point. It's not that you feel lonely because you don't have anything to do. I was at home too yesterday, alone. The difference is that I choose to do so because I wanted to be fit to go skateboard a contest in half an hour right now.

I really think you should choose something purposefull to do with your life. Something you can express yourself in. And don't expect to be a master at it to soon, just choose something you like, commit to it, keep doing it untill it starts to become more and more fun.

Remember: "What you think about is what expands"
At first, there is only a spark of interest in what you want to do, but if you commit to do whatever it takes to get the basics down than it's going to become a great hobby and the rest of your life will follow.
Don't get discouraged if you see other people doing better while you are struggling with what seems the most simple stuff. They've been doing it for a long time and all started as a beginner too.

First, think about different things and decide something that you like.
Next, go do it, as fast as possible.
Here's a great article to get started and keep building, creating the habit into a hobby and eventually a lifestyle

It's usefull for any kind of habit you want to have

http://www.bristollair.com/inner-game/identity-and-beliefs/implementing-a-habit.html

Have faith
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I heard getting a job will make me social,because im tired of spending my life on the computer like 24/7!
 

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Dude hurry up and goto the party just sneak around the back jump the fence they guy will be wasted by now and jsut socialise hurry and and do it then report back here when it's finished.
 

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dreamxhenry said:
spending my life on the computer like 24/7!
That's not a bad thing if you do something useful like:
-make a nice website, get traffic and in time make money from it
-learn poker and play online
-get good at a game and win the world cyber games, thus becoming rich and famous
-learn a programing language and make projects for money
etc
 

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I'm beginning to think our friend Henry here has no friends and no life because he is horribly deformed. One of his hands is some wicked twisting evil claw that is causing him untold depression and misery.

My proof? Check out how many times he hits \ infront of every apostrophe.

Its either that or one hell of a wanker's cramp
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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belividere said:
How old are you?

As much as I'm against using canned openers during pickups I think that you may be helped by them. If you are 21 or over, spend a few minutes getting some openers and then go to a bar, sit down and have a drink while scoping some targets, then approach. If they dont want to talk, move on to the next target. Not a guarantee that you will get anywhere but it beats sitting in front of your computer and not getting anything productive done anyways.

You really need to just get up and go, even if you are going alone, or else you will just stay in a rut. No one here is going to get you off your ass and get you to do anything in life, you have to do that yourself. There is some great advice floating around here but without action it wont get you anywhere. Good luck and happy hunting
Canned lines can work, but confidence during delivery is so important that the people who need smooth lines cant use them properly. Why do you think those people on the mystery workshop failed witht he same lines thta mystery succeds with.

Mystery may not realise this but his lines are simply a placebo. He gets girls because he spent every day aproaching them for 3 years and can now do what he wants around them with out giveing a dam.
 

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Taviii said:
That's not a bad thing if you do something useful like:
-make a nice website, get traffic and in time make money from it
-learn poker and play online
-get good at a game and win the world cyber games, thus becoming rich and famous
-learn a programing language and make projects for money
etc
Yeah dude im gonna work on a website its probaly gonna try to help other teens meet people something like myspace.
 
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