I luv U

[kk2004]

Okay guys yeah i know this whole post is gonna be a sappy one but anyway listin up.

my gf has been saying I lov u for the time that we have been going out. Its only been two months but she says she realli does.

She told me she loved me and i didnt say it back to her. I told her
three or four diffrent things evertime she would say it to me.

her:i louv u
me: yeah i know

or

her: i louv u
me: do u realli? (ten i would kiss her)

her: I luv u
me: that realli makes me happy


Now i figured that she has been saying for a while and I shud say it back to her, cuz its time u know, cuz i cant hold out forever or she would lose intrest.

So it goes

her: I love you
me: well I love you too
her: What, realli, You have never said that before, OMG, Ive been waiting forever for u too say that, you made me so happy
me: (give her a romantic kiss)

Then later on that Day I Swear I dont know what happened TO ME. I felt so angry and bad inside at myself. So i acted mean to her, i avoided her for like 2 hours, (we where at her firends house) I didnt let her touch me, I walked away from her and I avoided eye contact and i would always move away from her. For those two hours I was HATING her. I figured out why. And then i told her too. Turns out that I was afraid of being so attached to someone, cuz when u say I luv u, u are kinda handing over ur balls to the other person. I was afraid of being so close to someone. SO then she tells her friend, she begins to worry why im acting so distant. But then after like 2 hours i grab her hands and i tell her

me: Sweeti, listin, Im just afraid, cuz i have never said this to another gurl before, Im scared of getting hurt again, its like I dont know whats gonna happen you know, I dont want to be hurt again
her: I know, but ur not supposed to know whats gonna happen
me: I know but its just that Ive never siad this before and Im just scared
her: well are u readi to say it then (she meant i luv u), Do u want to slow things down?
me: Yeah im readi for it, i dont want to slow down
her: (looks at me and smiles)
me: U promise u wont hurt me?
her: promise
me: Im sorry, i was acting that way
her: No dont be sorry
me: No its not right, It wasnt right, Im sorry
her: okay
me: Come here (give her a kiss)

Like before this we where close and after this we are still close.

I DID NOT PLAN THE WAY I WOULD FELT, LIKE I DINT PLAN ON BEING A ****, it just happened u know. Now I dont know what to make of it and why i did what i did, but can u guys analize it for me and tell me all the good things I did and the mistakes that i have made and if my relationship was hurt by this or not.

 

[gray_fox_9]

Yo man I run into the same problem with my girl sometimes. Usually I just tell her that I love her but I'm not sure if I'm in love with her. That way she is happy and I retain some of my balls still.....Haha....Hope that helps....

 

[kk2004]

yeah

def, i figured tha if any good would come out of it, it would be that she realizes that this realtionships isnt guarnateed and she will have to put work into it. And that Im liable to bounce at any time. And that birngs challenge and up's her stake in the realtionship.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Two months is a little soon to be saying the "I luv You's." I think it is more of an infatuation thing that can sometimes be misconstrued as love.

She may really care about you, but love, I doubt it in two months. You barely know a person in two months. I don't think you should say it just because you feel pressured. It is almost like she is pulling you strings. It is a little game that girls like to play, just to see if we can get you to say it. We know you don't really mean, but, it is cute to hear you say it, just to make us happy. I did that to my ex, and he said it. Than, just like you, he got pissed. Same thing. Don't fall into the trap. Most importantly, don't say it unless you really mean it!!!!!!!!!

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

You were angry because you lied. Its understandable - two months just isnt enough time.

 

[kk2004]

ic guys

thx guys ur responses have been really helpfull, yeah i guess im not gonna say it until i really mean it. But how will I know when i do love her. hmm isnt that the age old question

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

You will feel it when you are there. You won't have to hesitate to say it and you will feel right about it after you say it. Don't ley her pressure you, all she will do is push you away....

 

[kk2004]

hmm

what do u mean by all she will do is push you away

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Well, I did this same crap to my boyfriend. He began by trying to please me and saying it back. And, he would get pissed at himself for lying. Eventually, it annoyed him that I kept saying it and wanting a response from him. He took a step back..When I cut the bull, he was fine....

 

[jprjrjr]

You sounded like kind of a wuss by asking her if she'll ever hurt you...definitely not DJ behavior...

 

[kk2004]

yeah

yeah i know I did, i did kinda sound like a wuss. but still I really was a jackass BIG time so i needed to cool it off and go the other way, u know by showing some weakness too, cuz if u do it all the time u get f*** too.

I mean yeah it was wussy but i realli dont care too much, ill crack on her later, im confident that im not a wuss and she knows.