jhonny9546
Master Don Juan
"Women do not love men in the way a man would like to be loved"
Nature provides a model for a woman's love for a man, that of a mother's love, which he expects as a standard from all women, later in his life.
A man desires to be loved like a child, without realizing that such love is reserved ONLY for children.
He believes that in romantic love when, in reality, it is maternal love.
Thus, a man's subconscious understanding of love is based on how his mother loved him.
A man whose mother did not love him "so much" as a child is, especially in today's society, at an advantage.
He has no idealization to shatter, as his expectations of women in relationships are more realistic.
Having established this, it is important to recognize that there are individuals who have managed to transition from seeking "maternal" love to experiencing "relational" love - which is also what this forum stands for - and some questions arise from this observation:
1st
This question is for those who have received that "powerful" love that only a truly loving mother can give to a child. Your life has been forever marked by this expectation, and your subconscious is programmed to desire deep love, not only in your romantic relationship, but also on friendship ones.
How have you addressed this need to love? Have you changed, learning to "repress" this desire and control it as if it were merely an emotion? Or do you express it fully but find ways to channel it into other aspects of your life? If so, how?
2nd
Although this is a secondary question, I believe it has not been asked on the forum before (though I could be mistaken). Are there fathers who have loved their daughters deeply? Are there women who have been loved as deeply as a mother loves her male child, and therefore have their subconscious desires programmed for profound emotional connection, like it happen for men? Or does something in their development, later in life, lead them to become "ordinary women," lacking the capacity for deep love and only feeling a kind of respect for their man?
Nature provides a model for a woman's love for a man, that of a mother's love, which he expects as a standard from all women, later in his life.
A man desires to be loved like a child, without realizing that such love is reserved ONLY for children.
He believes that in romantic love when, in reality, it is maternal love.
Thus, a man's subconscious understanding of love is based on how his mother loved him.
A man whose mother did not love him "so much" as a child is, especially in today's society, at an advantage.
He has no idealization to shatter, as his expectations of women in relationships are more realistic.
Having established this, it is important to recognize that there are individuals who have managed to transition from seeking "maternal" love to experiencing "relational" love - which is also what this forum stands for - and some questions arise from this observation:
1st
This question is for those who have received that "powerful" love that only a truly loving mother can give to a child. Your life has been forever marked by this expectation, and your subconscious is programmed to desire deep love, not only in your romantic relationship, but also on friendship ones.
How have you addressed this need to love? Have you changed, learning to "repress" this desire and control it as if it were merely an emotion? Or do you express it fully but find ways to channel it into other aspects of your life? If so, how?
2nd
Although this is a secondary question, I believe it has not been asked on the forum before (though I could be mistaken). Are there fathers who have loved their daughters deeply? Are there women who have been loved as deeply as a mother loves her male child, and therefore have their subconscious desires programmed for profound emotional connection, like it happen for men? Or does something in their development, later in life, lead them to become "ordinary women," lacking the capacity for deep love and only feeling a kind of respect for their man?