"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"I love you"

md3sign

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Just curious what your thoughts are on this. Although I've [foolishly] thrown it out in the past, it's not something I've done or intend to do anytime soon. I have found it's better to show a girl how you feel about her rather than telling her. However, if involved in an LTR there will inevitably come a point when she says those words. And when she does, if you don't reciprocate, how do you proceed? The same as before?

A lesser version of this is a girl telling you she likes you. I learned not to say "I like you too" but rather show it through actions (depending on the setting/situation) and if they bug me about it like "why don't you tell me you like me" I just kiss em or give a little grin or something. Anyway, I'm curious about your thoughts on the subject, particularly those 3 words. Do you EVER say them??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nvictor

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I've said it. Now I'm showing it. She asked me today if I really, I told her with a smile "No". :)
 

JPFromTally

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If you show an XY graph of BJ's to "I Love Yous" you will see that there is a negative inverse relationship between the two. Hence the more "I Love Yous" you say the less BJ's you will get.

BJ's (Y axis)
| -- \
| --- \
| ---- \
| ----- \
| ------ \
| ------- \
| -------- |
| -------- v
|____________
I Love You's (X Axis)---->

Hence you should keep the "I Love Yous" to a minimum. No more than twice a week and NEVER say it first.
 

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JPFromTally said:
If you show an XY graph of BJ's to "I Love Yous" you will see that there is a negative inverse relationship between the two. Hence the more "I Love Yous" you say the less BJ's you will get.

BJ's (Y axis)
| -- \
| --- \
| ---- \
| ----- \
| ------ \
| ------- \
| -------- |
| -------- v
|____________
I Love You's (X Axis)---->

Hence you should keep the "I Love Yous" to a minimum. No more than twice a week and NEVER say it first.
very true.
 
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