"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"I love you" coming up soon - what is the best response?

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Her: I Love you
You: Okay, that's sweet, now put on your panties i have to go, the door is right over there, later!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey guys, what about through instant messaging?

Her: I love you baby
You: ???????

How to avoid that sh!t?

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Hellooooo?

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"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is just not an act but a habit." - Aristotle

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man i swear, no one checks this archived crap out...


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Originally posted by ~The_Chosen~:
man i swear, no one checks this archived crap out...


Heh, I do! Actually this is my first time here. I wonder why people neglect it. I am sure there is some good stuff here in this part of the board.

If I knew a girl was about to tell me she loved me, then I would reply with this after she told me. "Your sweet babe, come with me to X this friday." X being where you would like to take her.

If she replied with a don't you love me or some sort of rebuttle you will need to discuss it anyway then ya can give her the slow down a little I am having fun speech.

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"You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face" -Eleanor Roosevelt

"If you do something, you'll reap rewards."
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Originally posted by ~The_Chosen~:
Hey guys, what about through instant messaging?

Her: I love you baby
You: ???????

How to avoid that sh!t?

LOL, that is so easy!

What you do is ignore it and say something relevant to what you were just talking about.

It is very possible she popped you that she loved you and you accidently closed the window immediately after she sent it to you. Pretty valid excuse if she calls you on it and if she brings it up later you can be like, "I didnt see any I love you message I must have closed the window"


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Originally posted by Pro:
LOL, that is so easy!

What you do is ignore it and say something relevant to what you were just talking about.

It is very possible she popped you that she loved you and you accidently closed the window immediately after she sent it to you. Pretty valid excuse if she calls you on it and if she brings it up later you can be like, "I didnt see any I love you message I must have closed the window"


yea thanks for the advice.

Doesn't work for me beacuse I've done it too many times. Doing it more times will get me caught. Changing the subject works but seems kinda awkward.

I see, I guess I'll just compliment her back, but just don't tell her I love her.

Her: I love you...
Me: Hmmm...oh really? If you do then come me at X..blah blah
- or - if you do then come do X with me baby...blah blah...

That works
Basically play hard to get and play games.



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Easy answer!

Her: "I love you."
You: "And I love your smile."

hahahah

I've come across the issue where a girl has told me she loves me before I felt the same twice now.

Both times I kissed and hugged them tight. Then I expressed how much I really cared for them. I didn't say I loved them just that I really care about them.

The girl should get the hint. But if she presses, which has happend before, hehe. I'll tell her straight out that I'm not in love. That at some point I may fall in love but I don't feel that way yet. Yeah, they don't like to hear that but it's the truth. I've never told a girl "I love you" if I didn't mean it. And I never will say it if it's not true. I tell them how much I care about them. When I'm actually in love, THEN and ONLY then will I say "I love you.".

Word.


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It is hard to dance with the Devil on your back.
They buried my body and thought I'd gone,
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No way guys, no one has given the right answer yet. When a woman says, "I love you" pause for a moment smile an average and sincere smile and say sincerely, "That's great".

If she presses you for an answer look at her and let her feel awkward in her silence with a big amused smile. Believe me, she'll fill it.
 

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saying a simple....

i really care about you but love is too strong of a word...


tbh when a chick last said i love you to me i just said it back even though i didnt mean it... that one didnt end so well
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Don't take it so seriously!

Look into her eyes and smile, or whatever's appropriate. If she makes some sort of communication to suggest that you should complete the ritual, just grin and say, "ahh, it's that way is it..."

You could EVEN say it back. Depends where you are in the relationship. NOT on the sixth date though.:D
 

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Remember...women love drama. They like soap operas and reality TV shows because of the endless dramatic scenarios being presented.

No matter what your response is, keep her guessing. This admission of hers and your vague answer/response will trigger anxiety, vulnerability, trust, etc. Not to mention countless conversations with her various gal pals for weeks.
 

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IWhen these instances show themselves I always look to my main man Han Solo. In this case I'll quote him just before he gets dipped in carbonite:

Leah " I love you. "

Han " I know."


enough said.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Every situation is different. If you love her, tell her, "You know I do too"

If you don't, tell her you want to feel the same way but itll take time for you. Then kiss her.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
IWhen these instances show themselves I always look to my main man Han Solo. In this case I'll quote him just before he gets dipped in carbonite:

Leah " I love you. "

Han " I know."


enough said.
lol i just said that, who "tought" me was David D.
hehehehe
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Charm said:
Every situation is different. If you love her, tell her, "You know I do too"

If you don't, tell her you want to feel the same way but itll take time for you. Then kiss her.

But, when you are on a ****y and funny role you must say in a C+F way...

-"You know I do too"

you say this when you are in a most leveled relationship with her
 

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I love you.


take a gamble, if she likes you it wont put her off.
 
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Her: I love you.
Me: I love me too.

GOLD. This usually makes the girls that like me come to think I'm more a man of "Action" instead of "words", usually will try and tease me, jokingly saying "(laughing) you suck at sharing your feelings, you know that?"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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