"I Love My Husband, But Here's Why I Want to Cheat"

[MatureDJ]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/elloa...heat_b_5909882.html?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000592

I'm one of the lucky ones: I'm married to my soul mate.

my opinion: Her husband should go "cheat". :box:

 

[Tictac]

I think I'm gonna hurl!

 

[In2theGame]

LoL ahhh,...::Sigh::... Women......

 

[VladPatton]

Marriage...it's a motherfücker!

 

[sodbuster]

yeah, I'd be looking for a replacement.... and once I found a good one, "good BYE B1tch"

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear MDJ,
She can't help it....Call her a slvt if you want,but in my book she is obeying an Atavistic urge to procreate with a different Man....This is a deeply rooted Evolutionary Imperative that maintains diversity in the gene pool,her strongest Children will survive and the Tribe prospers...Morals that ignore deeply rooted urges create a great deal of unhappiness in this World!

 

[bmp2cpm]

1) Did anyone actually read the article? It's about a woman acknowledging inappropriate desires and not acting upon them.
2) All men instantly assess every women they see for their reproductive value and how desirable the woman is for sex. We do this without even thinking about it. Married men do this too. Is it really shocking that ALL women assess all men for the potential resources they can provide a woman?
3) Scaramouche is right. To add.....all women's behavior is never for a man or for her true love, it's for the survival of the species.
4) There's so many articles cited here saying bad things about women. Never take anything a woman says as face value. Everything a woman says needs to be translated. Remember, women are the only mammal that hide when they are ovulating. Why? Because it allows them to get the best genes from 1 man while getting the best resources from another. Women are hard wired to be deceitful to her man from day 1, otherwise they would not keep ovulation time secret. Focus on the important stuff when it comes to understanding women. Focus on a women's statements vs their actions, not dumb articles like this. When you translate this article it says "to be faithful you have to recognize your inappropriate desires". Actually it's a good article. Never focus on the headline alone.

 

[dasein]

Oh I read it.

Endless narcissistic wallowing in self-absorption, not all of them do this, just a heavy majority of them. I have never been able to figure out the pathology, the way to cull the chaff out quickly and efficiently. I can't tolerate it any more, not even a whiff of it. Makes me retch. Life is too short. They can look like Sofia Vergara, when they start this up, I see a pile of rancid meat. I can't get away fast enough.

It's not enough to acknowledge and navigate by the simple fact that all people in relationships, marriage or otherwise, have wayward thoughts and then move on past those thoughts because they have something called a cerebral cortex and a conscience to prevent them from doing whatever whenever. No, it has to be an endless, dramatic, indulgent exploration into the wonders of ME and memememymymymymememe feelings about Mememememe. It's like they have no innate self-control that kicks in and simply says "no, everything in the world is not about you and your feelings." These types of women go through life perceiving not people, places or things as ends in themselves, but merely an assortment of mirrors infinitely reflecting back into themselves. Is this a consequence of the biological need to protect offspring at all costs? Doesn't the mind override this rather easily as it does men's inclination to kill and conquer? Seems not. If I can avoid raping women rather easily, why can't they engage their brains in similar fashion and see the world as other than a function Fx of their own bottomless ego pits?

What a living hell having this woman as a wife must be, having this fount of self-indulgent hot air blasting in your face constantly, knowing that every natural human feeling and impulse is going to be magnified in her "mirroring system," and have any mystery or savor of life sucked right out. It's a wonder to me that more shrinks don't kill their patients, and especially their female patients. I feel bad for the truly mentally ill and their loved ones, but somewhere in the last 40 years, some kind of endemic mental illness infected women in wealthy western countries. I don't pity those as they brought it on themselves.

Has ANYONE figured a way to spot these fast? Is it -our- fault? Did men do this to them and ourselves? I sure as f didn't.

Has anyone ever seen anything other than tripe like this published in Huffington Post? Lol

Does anyone other than me associate all the false pat on the back Eatpraylove Dr Swill media messages women receive (you work so hard, indulge yourself, you need some you time, who's taking care of -your- needs? pamper yourself, you deserve it) with this particular female flaw?

I learned over 20 years ago that when women say "men only care about themselves" that translates into "men care about other than ME" Young men pay attention.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear BMP2,
"Remember, women are the only mammal that hide when they are ovulating. Why? Because it allows them to get the best genes from 1 man while getting the best resources from another. Women are hard wired to be deceitful to her man from day 1, otherwise they would not keep ovulation time secret."...sometimes I think it is a waste of time posting on here,then out of the blue like lightning out of a cloudless Summer Sky comes an inspiratonal idea like yours...Thanks!

 

[AttackFormation]

Oh I read it.

You can't really blame her for what you said though. She's writing an article for likeminded females. What's she gonna say, "I wanted to cheat but I didn't"?

 

[dasein]

You can't really blame her for what you said though. She's writing an article for likeminded females. What's she gonna say, "I wanted to cheat but I didn't"?

OK, fair enough. Notice the whole focus of the article is -herself- though, and her own journey into self-absorption. Is there any "I wondered about my husband, and the people in my life, people in my community, people in other cultures and countries in the world? Was their experience of urges similar? different? How would my radical honesty affect the people I care about, how would my inability to master simple human self-control without making a giant feelydeal of it affect the people in my life? Would it cause them annoyance, anger, doubt, boredom, pain that might be avoided if I somehow GROW THE F UP and act like an adult, not drag others into every trivial or even nontrivial feeling I happen to have?" No, it's an endless "mefeelyparty."

But really, is this newsworthy? publishworthy? Is most of the stuff published towards a female audience in this vein worth putting out there or reading?

What is a rational remedy for all these female feeling problems? what do people who aren't entirely self-absorbed do? charity work to enlarge one's own self-absorbed perspective? hard work over time to substitute actual reward and accomplshments for some of the endless self-reflection? An exploration and selection of firm principles that one navigates their life by? any kind of character building program that involves effort and work? I don't see much of those things in this kind of stuff, but lots of "I addressed the issue by emotional wallowing and dragging everyone around me into the vortex of ME."

The "radical honesty" in the article is just a transparent excuse to drag everyone down into the monkey barrel and keep the focus where it belongs, "on me and my neverending feelings!"

 

[sodbuster]

If I were her husband, every nice ass I saw, I'd say " I'd LIKE to f@ch that". SHE wants HONESTY? I'd give it to her 50 times a DAY when we were in the mall.....

There IS certain stuff you DON'T say, she needs to learn that.....

 

[Alvafe]

why would there be an evolutionary urge to create f***** up kids from multiple dads? I work. Does this evolution excuses become another feminist backwards rationalization?

thinking about that and using that logic we could kill the annoying brat and make another to make the tribe strong because he wasn't.

but since we can't.

 

[speed dawg]

I don't see the problem here.

She's just saying what we all knew about them all along. She seemingly told the truth from the female viewpoint. Can't dog her for that. However, if her husband would up his game, she likely wouldn't have been wooed so strongly by this other guy.

Women are what they are. At least she admits it.