I Lost My Cool , Now They Think I Hit My Girl

[bfl]

Dam man i feel like **** right now.

I just came back from work and this is what happened.

Me and my girl were arguing outside, to make this short, we arguing back and forth back and forth, she disrispects me gets up and walks in the kitchen, so i go behind her and i grab her then i tell her screaming dont disrispect me like that, at this point she starts crying.

She is crying as loud as it gets, but only 2 people were there and heared he crying , but then she walked into the clock in area, and thats whhere everybody was at, the funny thing is that right before she walked in she started crying even louder, so she walks in crying at the top of her lungs, i go behind her, hold her and tell her "Lets go" "Lets go".

So i call my friend just a few minutes ago and he telling me that they think that is all my fault cause she is a very quiet girl (yeah right only if they knew her" some of them think i hit her WICH I DID NOT!

man im nervous as hell right now ill come back later to this

 

[spukee]

Don't get into relationship issues at work? That's about the most important thing you should be taking from this...

Still, if you didn't hit your girlfriend, then you've got nothing to worry about. A few people who don't know all the facts jumped to the worst possible conclusion - so effing what? They don't sound like incredibly worthwhile people in that case, anyway.

 

[bfl]

I know my friends were telling me the samething, "You didnt hit her, you aint got nothing to worry about"

they were trying talk to me and be there for me in this situation, you know.

As far as my RL with this girl is concern, i could careless if its over or not, i talked to he on the phone a few mins ago and she said that she forgives me but bwaaa ,she said ill call u back and she aint call back yet.

Plus she never accepts that she is wrong even when its clear as water that she is, but im not gonna sit here and act as if i dont give a f about the RL cause i do, but the maing two things in my mind right now are MY RL with this girl and what people are gonna be saying of me and thinking of me from now on.

 

[CraigMack]

You guys work for the same company???? Now how stupid is that!!!!

You have just proven

why the f*ck you shouldn't date women from your work!!!!

Let your trials serve as a lesson to the next ignorant fool who gets the hots for someone else at work!!

peace,

 

[bfl]

nah easy though, we only in our early 20's very early, and we both in college, its just like a macdonalds job only difference is that we work in a kitchen of a retirement place callemd "The Peninsula"

It still though u right.

 

[CraigMack]

Originally posted by bfl
nah easy though, we only in our early 20's very early, and we both in college, its just like a macdonalds job only difference is that we work in a kitchen of a retirement place callemd "The Peninsula"

It still though u right.

Yeah, I feel you. And it doesn't matter if your running a lemonade stand, you still shouldn't sh*t where you eat.

Good luck on the woman issue.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Bro..drop this girl...

She purposely got louder and louder crying when she knew people were around? Sympathy wanting b*tch.

She's doing this on purpose to 'set precident'. Meaning...once people around your social network, job, and school see how badly you APPARENTLY treat her...it will be easy for her to cheat on you, leave you, talk sh*t behind your back, or have a DJ like myself to use that as ammo to have her on my nutsack.

Looks like she's trying to set you up.

So..what happens next time she gets pissed off at you and screams rape? What then?

Women with crocodile tears like this are dangerous and can destroy your rep very quick.

In your particular situation...I'd drop her now. If people at your work find out you dropped her, they'll have no reason to believe you hit her...if you hit her..she'd leave you will be their attitude.

Hell..I'm sure you're willing to stay with this girl anyway...Thats your call. But I'd still break up with her....let people know that YOU ARE LEAVING HER...let people know that you aren't a control freak and that you're willing to bail anytime..

Damn..just drop her...ferril...more trouble than its worth..

 

[bfl]

yeah thats what got me too why is she gonna get louder and louder with the crying when she sees people around, and there were only 2 people in the kitchen (the diswashers cleaning up the floor) she decided to go to head to the clock in area where ALLLLLLLLL the staff was at waiting to clock out, and right as she is about to go in she increases her crying at top of her lungs.

Now im fukin embarrased of going to work tomorrow with all this peeps thinking and assumng the wrong scenario.

But like my friend told me, tomorrow when i go in, dont talk to nobody, if people ask you dont answer them, only answer the boss if he/she asks you about the incident, you are only going there to work not to make friends, dont give a fuk about what people think , just in do your work and out, aint gotta say a word to noone.

 

[PRMoon]

If you can't maintain a professional relationship while at work then you should just end it now.

I'm not against dating in the work place, but It has to be under the right circumstances with the right type of people. It doesn't seem like you two fit the criteria for an on the job relationship.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Bro..I feel what you are saying..

You're right on the first hand that you didnt do anything wrong other than have an arguement with the gf...and you are right that you shouldn't give a f*ck what your co-workers think...

But..it DOES matter what your boss thinks.

I'd go to work early tommorrow and have a sit down with the boss. Apoligize with him/her that you're sorry for bringing the personal life to work. Let him/her know that it was some stupid arguement that the gf thought you were cheating on her or some other senerio. But point blank...let them know its not gonna happen again.

Also..let them know that she's kind of a drama queen. Let the boss know that you don't care about rumors, back talk, or stuff comming from your co-workers...just let the boss know that you're here to be professional and do your job.

use these words:
"You guys have my word that this personal stuff won't happen at work again...if she starts to bring drama and stuff to work...I'll break up with her on the spot...I don't want the personal messing with the professional"

As a boss...there's no way they can't respect you. And if she does that drama bit again...they'll be on your side.

Yea..she's an attention wh*ro bro. Maybe not in the technical sense..but she wanted EVERYONE to know that you're a bastard. Leave this chick be. You're young and got better women to deal with.

Think about it like this...if she's soooo willing to air dry your relationship laundry in front of your co-workers...think who else she's talking to about you in private??

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by -HPNOTIQ-
use these words:
"You guys have my word that this personal stuff won't happen at work again...if she starts to bring drama and stuff to work...I'll break up with her on the spot...I don't want the personal messing with the professional"

that is a litle one sited. you don't want the boss to pick sides, you might not like the result. just tell him it is personal, that it was a mistake to argue at work, and that it will never happen again.

you don't wana involve the boss into the argument. too unperdictable. All he gives a sh1t about it that it doesn't happen again and that the work gets done.

WHATS WRONG WITH HITING THE BIACH ANYWAY. I perfer just walking away, but sometimes a biach needs to be put in her place

 

[dietzcoi]

Man, do I hate the CPT Sav-a-ho types who always are ready to jump to a woman's defense and assume the man is in the wrong.
CHUMPS! What is wrong with these people? THey think women are defenseless little girls.. the fools!


Break up with her or quit your job. As the others have stated, this is trouble waiting to happen.

Dietzcoi

 

[bfl]

im about to leave for work right now, i will update you all about what happened when i come back.


BTW my "Girl" Called me like round 1am this moorning and we were talking about this and whatnot, it seems like one of the supervisors called her to see if she was ok, and she told him that she doesnt want anything to happen to me, but i dont know man if i get fire for doing nothing oh well, i might quit too cause im sick of that job anyways, people always in everybodys businesses and just so much **** going on at that place.