I long to cry.

[LikRetsam]

Fancy posts have been made. Great words have been spoken. Truths have been said and yet lies they are. Do you question sosuave? I do.
I am what some of you would call a Don Juan. Yes I am only 15 but if that makes you doubt what I just said, then keep reading. This is for YOU. You, the same person who criticized the other guy for being AFC. You, the same person who said that a long term relationship can not be found in high school. You that said that I could not achieve. You who have failed to observe the failure in you which I observe.

This post is to weed out the sh*t. I am not here to re-iterate what all the "Gods of sosuave" have said. I am here to give my view on DJhood. Without further ado, let's get started.



What is a Don Juan?

To many, it is being the God of women. Knowing what to do with women and scoring any woman we want. To others, it is to live a happy life where chicks are not the priority. To an even rarer few, to be a Don Juan is to self improve. To become thy better self.
I'm not here to tell you what a DJ is. To you, it is probably what you want to become. To me it was as well.

Today I am no Don Juan. I am who I am. That is all. Don Juan, to this site, is a set of rules and guidlines. That is what we for long strive to become until one day... We no longer live by the rules... We play by ours . That is the point where you will know that your "training" is complete. Where you have achieved the "DJ" status that is so misunderstood. The day you no longer follow the code. The day you have your very own code.

What is a DJ is not a question but a lesson learned in time.

Baby steps.

I came here to this site as did you and was instantly motivated to go out and be the king of the world. Unfortunatly, that's not how it works. It's like getting into a freezing pool. You jump in head on and you go numb and die. You take baby steps, you slowly get comfortable with the water. Same principle. Take your time. Lesson by lesson. There is no point to reading every post in the bible all at once. You have to take them one by one and apply them one by one.

One thing I must agree with is that the bible really hits it's goal. The general saying to sosuave is "I came here looking for love and I found life". I don't know who said it but I must say it's true. The bible, is not true. It is a lie. Ofcourse, it depends what way you look at it. For it's goal, it is near perfect. To scoring chicks, meh. That collection of posts will really change your outlook on life and get you on the right foot. It teaches you to go against it, funny isn't it?

Average Frustrated Chump

May the fun begin! YOU ARE ALL AFCs. I am AFC, you are AFC, we all are. SUCK IT UP. You don't agree? Good. You're one step closer to the end. Or did you just accept what I just told you? tsk. When will you learn to make your own opinion on things and not be so easily influenced by people?

I come to this site and read the latest topics. I am embarassed. People giving others advice that is so absolutly retarded but since they heard it dished out before, they just re-iterate! People asking for advice over the most retarded things. Let me help you get your afc-ness out of your system.

You have a computer, you have internet. I may assume that much. With that assumption, I can also guess that you eat well and sleep well. Now that we have that settled, think about this:

Most of the world is starving tonight. Tonight millions will die of hunger. A few minutes ago when you were jacking off, some guy watched his family tortured and raped in front of him and when he tried to save them, he got shot and they let him bleed to death.
While you are warm in your house, there is some guy who lost it all. There is some guy who has done all he could do but still failed and is sleeping outside in the cold right now.
Right now, there is a person passing into the spirit world in utter pain. In a few minutes, there will be one soldier left on the battlefield against a whole horde of enemies. He will fight bravely but most likely die.

Think about those examples. Don't brush them off as if it's the 99th time you heard some one rant about this. Cause I was like you. Until I took it seriously and cared.

With that in mind, and I hope to God you feel bad and atleast realise how ****ing lucky you are, how dare you come to this site and call "This chick, X, she didn't look my way today. WHAT DO I DO?!?!" There is a man out there who is pissing himself trying to find food for his family. And you dare worry about some chick looking your way? There are so many posts like this it makes me want to cry. "I talked to this chick and asked what she was doing this weekend. She said nothing and would like to hang. What do I do?" the reply to this went something like "Don't call her back, if she's interrested, she'll call you back TWICE. so make sure you say you're busy the first time"

You know what I call AFC? People like you. People who ask such questions and you people who answer such fucjtarded answers. IS IT SO F*CKING HARD TO SEE!? Jesus. You come here and you seek the approval of others in everything you do. "Is it okay if I asked her this way?" . You need to re-evaluate your life.
You need to stop coming here and acting like you know what you're talking about. Actually, you need to stop coming here and spitting things out your ass without thinking about them logically. You don't even bother thinking anymore! You just spit things out almost like 2nd nature to try to look good in front of the on-looking DJs. Just SHUT UP. You are free to post whatever you like but consider this:

It is best to be quiet and let people think you're a fool then to speak and remove all doubt.

This is indeed a board where we discuss about our girl problems but I hardly consider your posts problems. The other day, I saw a man bleed to death. My problem was "What can I do to help". I'm not asking your posts to be of that level, I'm asking you to kindly post about something worth reading. You can't do that? I'm sorry. You're an idiot. Suck it up.

Think for a second. Look at your life. Look at it closely. Look at yourself in the mirror. Then kindly answer this question: How dare you call your "problems" problems?

Get out and live. Period. This site will eventually teach you that. Eventually, you will realise yourself. You will stop coming here and seeking comfort in having others agree with you. You will go out and act and see what happens. Why?

Time waits for no man.

Your time is dear to you and you may only realise too late. I asked my late grandfather how he felt about life's speed. He told me he blinked and here he was, laying on his deathbed. Enjoy the time you have here. Make the most of it. For one day you will not have any time left.

Get out and LIVE

I'm sorry. But you suck!

Get out and live your life. Make the most of the time you have. You don't have time to see a hot chick, run home and post. Wait for some1 to tell you what to do and run back and apply it to that chick. She will be gone!

There is a time for everything. That is what I have learned over the years. You may have plans but guess what? Sh*t happens and they may not be able to go down right. Don't push them, just postpone. You wanna go on a walk with your girlfriend but it's raining? Don't go anyways, just wait till next weekend. There is a place and time for everything. Do not get so desperate that you want to force a time and place for things. Your plans can WAIT.
This is the single most important thing you must know for the rest of your life.

There is a time and a place for everything!

Blind Sight

We have all been there. We see something that is completly false. BlindSight is the state of seeing/hearing/feeling/smelling/thinking etc something that is not true but it is absolutly perceived to be true by us.

Nature never deceives us, it is we who deceive ourselves. -Jean Jacques Rousseau

You may still be there, but hopefully not so remember that day long ago when your female friend was flirting with you and you fell for her? Yeah. AFC.

That is an example of blindsight. You know she sees you only as a friend but you go ahead and make ideas for yourself. Actually, you got so desperate you actually took notice of something like that. And you felt 100% sure that she liked you! How sad? Very.

Open your eyes. The world is very very simple. You pushed a girl flirtingly. She pushed you back: she's interrested. Period. You asked a girl out she said no. Get the message. No is no. SUCK IT UP. Stop making ideas for yourself. Stop. Stop dreaming, stop fantasizing. Realise what the world is and take it for what it is. That's all. Please, you are emberassing me.

I had a friend tell me on the school bus the other day the most AFC thing I had ever heard. He hosted a party and his cousin was in the country and his cousin saw this one chick who was pretty damn hot. He tells my friend to ask her out to the movies. My front logs onto AIM and she is there. They make quick talk and she has to goto dinner before he can ask her. She says bye and sends an emote kiss. You know those lips on AIM? Yeah that. This is quoting him eh: "I think she likes me". Because of that sole fact. She also rejected him a month earlier. Blind sight, what can I say? It's sad.

 

[LikRetsam]

Onto the most advanced topics

I would love to keep going on and on about the stuff above but the more advanced stuff is more interresting.

This is to aspiring DJs and relationships.

A DJ can hold a relationship but an aspiring DJ or AFC can not. Why? Because you are still in your mindset of the DJ bible and your rules don't yet bend to every situation. The same techniques that got you that uber HB10 will be the same tools that will make you lose her. Getting a girl and keeping a girl is VERY different. Heads up to all the aspiring DJs about to get into a relationship. The rules of sosuave no longer apply. Basic things like "Be a man" or rather "Have some self respect" still apply but hard to get, challenge mystery... all that bullsh*t stays at the door. You can pick it up on your way out.

Getting into a relationship, and I'm thinking long term not those sh*tty relationships that are all about scoring, is hard work. You need to realise that there really is no more Don juan to this. The situation is completly different: There is now not only you, but you, your girlfriend and your relationship. 3 things to take into account in your decision making now. It's no longer about you.

Frankly this is comon sense. But most of us have been heavily brainwashed by sosuave (Not necessarily in a bad way, it just went too far). You get out of a relationship what you put into it. It's no longer "I don't give a ****" or any such bs. It's taking responsibility. It's growing up.

What you need to remember is :
a) You reap what you sew
b) The rules must bend to each new situation

No more excuses

The blame game is over. You know what? I was the biggest fan of excuses until recently. Nothing was ever my fault and I always had an excuse. Until late I decided to take it like a man. I didn't fail that math test because the teacher is a perfectionnist b*tch. I failed it because I suck. Or I didn't work hard enough. Personally, the former makes me want to achieve more then the latter.

Grow up. Take it like a man. Assume responsibility. STOP ACTING LIKE A CHILD.

In case you are not yet motivated, some one who plays the blame-game is a HUGE turn off. Get out of it. Life's unfair. period. Suck it up. You may have a reason for everything that goes wrong but one day you will need to shut up and take it in the ass.

Fear

When you fear, you are controled. It is just that, a system of control. Going against your fears can only make you stronger. It's hard and sometimes you can beat your fear inside your head. Others, you need to beat it physically. For example, fear of insects or fear of approaching. You have to stop being in blindsight and realise that a) the insects are infinitly smaller then you and can't hurt you and b) you have nothing to lose with the chick. She's just as nervous as you are.

Don't you dare tell yourself or me "It's who I am." That tells me you are WEAK. It is disgusting, insulting. You are WEAK. I don't even want to go into this point.

Know thy opponent

In life, the more information you have the better your choices can be. Society taught you alot of bullcrap and horsesh*t. That men crave sex and that's all that matters to them and that women are divine creatures who seek meaningful relationships.

Women crave sex just as much as you do. And men want meaningful relationships just as much as women do.

Question everything you have been taught. Stop acting on your past knowledge. You need to erase your past learnings because they were fed to you to control you. Once you realise that, you can achieve a new level mentally. Mental freedom...
Freedom is not free. You gotta work for it and it's not always easy to see where you are being controlled or not. That's the genius of the system. It works on putting you in blind sight. Break free. I'm not going to hold your hand through every event of your life so figure out how yourself.

Your standards and being desperate

Another lesson I learned was that you should never lower your standards. EVER. When you become desperate, you lower your standards. Not just with women. Say you really want a mercedes but don't have the money. You might want it so bad that you'll buy that sh*tty one for 30k when you coulda gotten a better toyota for 15k.

Never lower your standards. You will never be happy when you lower your standards. NEVER EVER will you be satisfied by this. Never lower your standards. Some people will never learn this lesson. They may get slapped by it day after day but they never seem to get it...Yeah, people are idiots. So are you. So am I.

Life's a b*tch

Yup. That's one thing people were right about. Life is indeed a b*tch.

I think this will be my final point for tonight.

There will be awesome days and there will be HORRIBLE days. This site one day told you that your happiness depended on you alone. I don't think anyone masters this completly but some of us are pretty damn close.

How your days go by depends on you. I no longer gave a f*ck, no longer paid attention to those stupid chicks and their stupid stories (Seriously, some chicks will be head over heels in love with you and 2 seconds later hate you. Don't crack your head trying to figure it out. Just accept it and walk away. I'm serious. Only pain comes from trying to care or figure out why. Just let them be, they will come to you) and basically didn't see my problems as problems anymore. Once you realise your life is divine compared to anothers' you may be happy.

Sometimes things will not go your way. Just smile.
Always smile. I always smile. I'm not a f*g. I'm not some geek smiling all the time for nothing. By smile all the time I mean I always find something funny. Be it AFCs, chicks or someone getting hurt. I laugh. It's funny. A female friend collapsed in my arms crying because the guy she has liked for a year and a half hooked up with another chick. I just smiled. It would of been wrong to laugh so I just smiled. It was funny. People were getting upset over such little things.

Stop getting pissed off for irrelevant things. Realise that the small stuff doesn't matter. One day you will have real problems where you will no longer smile. Until that day, smile at all the retarded crap that gets thrown at you.

Nothing is a work of chance.

Nothing. You read your newspaper? See that title and you think it's just to get you hooked? Wrong. There's a reason behind it. There's a reason behind everything. You don't need to agree, but you just need to look at it my way to understand.
What I just said isn't here by chance eather, it's continuing from above. Look at the title of this post. "I long to cry". Why? Cause I have seen many many great days. I have also suffered many horrible days. Days where EVERYTHING went wrong. My parents divorced, my dog was sick, my gf broke up with me, I was failing school... Same day...

I havn't cried in maybe 2 years. Somewhere, I dream of crying. The last time I cried it was for about an hour. It felt good. It was divine. It made me stronger. Alot stronger. Here I am today and some days go down real bad but I don't cry. I do want to mentally, not emotionally, but I don't. And every time I get stronger. Every time there is an urge to give in and show weakness but every day I deny that feeling and feel greatness and newfound strength.

You too. You may have sh*tty days but you just gotta keep smiling. Life really isn't that bad for you. Realise that what just happened to you really isn't that important. Stay strong and don't ever get "down" or "depressed". Even though you may really want to and it's really easy, I urge you to keep fighting. I urge you to go against all odds and win.

Life will not always be fair and some days some things will happen that are just really nonsense. Things going completly wrong because of retarded misunderstandings. Suck it up. Life ain't fair.

That said, you can make that fairness meter tip in your direction by realising that you have no problems. It's something you can really understand once you've been there.

It's time to stop feeling bad for yourself. It's time to start feeling bad for others. It's time to see how pathetic others are and how great YOU are.

It's time to open your eyes.

Well, I'm getting tired, I'll update this when I have time. Feel free to add or correct me on anything you agree/disagree with.

Lik

-Time waits for no man.
-You reap what you sew.
-There is a time and place for everything.
-Nature never deceives us, it is we that deceive ourselves.
-When we don't have what we love we must look at what we have.

 

[LikRetsam]

Forgot to add this:

True Wealth
By Terry Driscol


I guess it’s all over. Our marriage has failed.
I’m sorry I’m not what you thought you had nailed.
No need to get dirty in times of divorce,
You say you want everything; Baby! Of course!
You take the house the car and the cat
The paintings, the silver, our West London flat
The jewellery, the dinner set, all of the chairs,
the bookcase, the curtains, the French earthenware.
I’ll have the memories, the feelings, the thoughts,
Of days when we’d smile at each other’s retorts.
When words from the heart could tie up the tongue,
And ballads of blue need never be sung.
Go on, go ahead, help yourself, be my guest,
To the silicon implants that hold up your chest.
To the wardrobe of labels of last seasons taste,
The cool diamante, the pearls and the paste.
I’ll keep the gallery that fills up my head,
‘The picture’ ‘The Princess’ the day we were wed.
I’ll relish reminders as I reminisce
The resonant warmth of a once loving kiss.
Keep all the credit cards, take all the cash,
Add it to what you have probably stashed.
The business is yours and all of the shares.
Those hard sweating years, but why should you care.
Imagine the happiness all this can bring,
A ‘material girl’ with material things.
Possessions are allies of simplicity.
For what is true wealth remains within me.

 

[fbplayer06]

call me a smarta$$...

but, you rant and rave and call people idiots and tell them they suck, yet you still have the time to post these things, with all the fancy colors and stuff? You should take a look at *yourself*, kid.

just my opinion...

 

[triple_ultima]

Wow.

All this and you're only 15? You sure have things in perspective man...I'm 18 now and couldn't see this the way you do.

This is just what I needed I think. My stupid little problems really are sh*t. Why do I need to worry about them? I'm just here to make the best out of my life that I possibly can, and goddammit, I'm gonna do it.

Thanks Lik.

 

[triple_ultima]

Re: call me a smarta$$...

Originally posted by fbplayer06
but, you rant and rave and call people idiots and tell them they suck, yet you still have the time to post these things, with all the fancy colors and stuff? You should take a look at *yourself*, kid.

just my opinion...

Calm down man. Let's not start throwing around insults.

 

[fbplayer06]

Re: Re: call me a smarta$$...

Originally posted by triple_ultima
Calm down man. Let's not start throwing around insults.

Yeah I'm cool...no worries

 

[Blowfish]

I REALLY Agree with this article.

I was an AFC (and still is), but now I am becoming someone else, not a Don Juan, but a man. I'm not on message boards typing out problems about my relationships. I acknowledge and accept that rejection is a part of life, that people experience success, yet they also hit rock bottom at times. I also acknowledge that these negative experiences are positive, who wants to live a life too perfect where you don't have stories of failures to tell to people? Like posts such as Kill That Desperation said, Don Juan is not a lifestyle, it is a mindset.

I believe that many newcomers have taken the DJ Bible the wrong way. Posts such as Be a Man and the aforementioned Kill That Desperation post are excellent in that they will prepare you with getting and liviing a life that you want. However, to me, I do not believe that they are posts that make a DJ, because I don't believe in DJs no more. I believe in the mindset known as Don Juan. Newcomers have twisted the idea and destroy the original intension of the bible, to help you live your idea life. We do not see posts such as How to Get Girls in the Bible, we get posts about life management.

Newcomers arrive with questions about girls, this could be a good thing at times, since many of us are confused at first, I assume these people are like me a year ago, lost and confused about life. But then you get questions about the minor problems like the original poster have stated. The answers that people give back are nothing of support. We get things such as "F**k that b!tch! Let her call you back..." or "Wait for her to call you."

To add on to what the original poster have said. I now have a girlfriend, and I realised that some of the things that these people say are truly cruel. You must understand that like the people with a DJ mindset, girls have emotions, they also have a life, girls do move on. So understand these girls, they are not toys for you to play around with. They are living breathing human beings. Don't post sh!t like "F**k her, find another girl." It means that your mindset is wrong, because a real Man is a polite one yet he is tough and knows what he is doing, and being a man means understanding women, and by understanding women you need to acknowledge the fact that they have feelings too.

 

[InsidiousNstinct]

One of the best post ive seen yet....

 

[LikRetsam]

Re: call me a smarta$$...

Originally posted by fbplayer06
but, you rant and rave and call people idiots and tell them they suck, yet you still have the time to post these things, with all the fancy colors and stuff? You should take a look at *yourself*, kid.

just my opinion...

What does my calling people idiots have anything to do with the time I have? Btw, in case you didn't notice there's a tool bar above your text area so you can easily set the font on your text. Did you take offense to my post because I attacked your ego? Yeah... I think you need to reread some parts of my post.

I'm not here to post your wonderful revolutionary tip. I'm here to tell you how it is. To see the world for what it really is: simple. If you, as a human being, the so called greatest species can not ask questions about a REAL topic then I question your humanity.

You can't do that? I'm sorry. You're an idiot. Suck it up.

What I mean by such sentences is that you're just not trying. My calling you an idiot somewhere pushes you to want to prove me wrong. Read between the lines.

Lik

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

Great post Lik. It's nice to know there are some good posts still being put up on the boards. The sad thing is that more than half of the people who clicked to look at your thread just scrolled down, realized it was too long, and punched the back button. You know why? No one cares.

People want simple answers to simple questions. No one wants to change. I'm 15 also, a freshman in high school. I have pretty much just given up posting here. It has become worthless. I spend my time on helping others, but it just gets spammed off the boards by bull**** that has been posted 100 times before.

Props on this post. It was excellent, definetely one of the better ones in the High School Forum. I can only hope a few people got something from it.

I long to cry also...

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Let go...
Just let go...

Of everything....

Do us a favor and let go....

Your grip isn't strong enough anyway.
Just do it.
Let go.

 

[Need-2-B-Pimpin]

Holy fvcking crap dude, that's bible material. You hit the nail right on the head. Beautiful post. Puts crap in perspective, makes all these women troubles psuedo-DJ's (Ones who just go for the chicks and screw everything else...I'm waking up from that) seem like the insignificant retarded crap that they are.

 

[Ace123]

Absolutely Brilliant.

 

[M2k961]

Your post reeks of superiority.

I don't suck, *******.

You took my very mind set and put it into words. Congratulations.

I could have done better.

In your vast rants of the world being simple, you should realize that you're no better than your neighbor. You're in the same system. Lay off the insults. You just understand more than others.

And learn how to write tersely.

 

[Brazilian_Blues_Boy]

Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
Let go...
Just let go...

Of everything....

Do us a favor and let go....

Your grip isn't strong enough anyway.
Just do it.
Let go.

Indeed, Smooth is correct. But, you wouldn't understand.

We're human beings, never settling for the middle ground.
We always have to go to the extreme. We always have to believe that we found something solid, concrete and undeniable...

We climb the highest mountains just to get there, look at the landscape for a while, see nothing but cloud and other mountains far away... so we feel lonely and eventually start going back down...

And when you're actually down, you'll keep climbing other mountains, until the time you realize that thousand feet or the ground are the same...

You have to try and become the "owner of truth", to have all your perceptions washed away by the reality of the universe, and finally realize that you have to let go, and realize that there are no truths... you've been lying to yourself all along, but your own lies are more believable than the other's.
Ego check here.

By making one generalization, you're proving that you're still subject to ego, so you lose your credibility. Now, this sentence is a generalization, so it's probably not true either, but it's all about not expecting any clear answers at all. Just rolling along with what the world feeds to you.

There's no absolute truth, and this is an absolute truth. But, believe it or not, it isn't contradicting, but complementary.

Stop seeing the polarities, the differences on the world as good and bad or right or wrong, because it's all flawed perceptions that YOU give to the things you see.

Darkness and light, sun and moon, fire and water, male and female. They all compliment each other.
Show me a world without evil, and I'll show you a world without goodness.

And your evil's someone's divine.

There's a big big world out there man. I believe that for more than half of the population of this planet, none of your truths are valid.

And who's wrong? Them?
Stop to think about it...

BBB

 

[LikRetsam]

Heh. And so we reach the point I was faintly hoping to reach. I do, now, understand Smooth's post. And I have gone through this process in the past.

This post? Just a build up of what I've felt for awhile and that's all. My opinions will constantly change and through this post I may better understand myself and better see where I want to go. I may only hope that it helps others in the same way.

Who am I or even you to judge what is wrong or right or what is good or evil? The more "truth" points a sentence gets, the more believable it is to others and the longer others will hold on to it. No where do truth [points get you any closer to the truth itself.

It is my belief that we are set here in this world with forces unknown. I also believe that our brains are not fit or simply can not understand the world or how it came to being. I think it is to an extent impossible for us to comprehend how things such as God could have forever existed. But I exist, so why not he?

My points only help me to have an imaginary grasp on the world. For that is all it is in the end, isn't it? But they help me get by day by day and they contribute to my happiness. I am unique and so the unique combination of what makes me happy will only fully apply to myself. This is not here to lay down more rules that I deem are better then the old or the next to come, but they are here to set an example of a stage some will want to reach. And just when you think you've hit the top, there is always more. You will never know it all. I have had my days when I thought I had the world figured out. Especially chick problems. Then bam... problem with girlfriend with no idea how to go about it.

All we can do is create our tool box to hopefully handle most situations best of our ability. Here is part of my toolbox. Once again, there is no 1 tool in my box that will fix any problem. There are also many problems that can not be fixed by any of my tools.

It is my point to let go. Through posts like this to see that this is not the end of the road nor remotly close to it. it is simply the begining of the next part of the journey which will require a new toolbox.

Lik

 

[fbplayer06]

Originally posted by M2k961
Your post reeks of superiority.

In your vast rants of the world being simple, you should realize that you're no better than your neighbor. You're in the same system. Lay off the insults. You just understand more than others.

And learn how to write tersely.

 

[LikRetsam]

Quit repeating yourself fb so that I may quit repeating that they are not direct insults. Instead of picking at little points, go do something creative and worthwhile with your time.

EDIT: This post was not intended in any way to "look down" on others. It was intended to some degree to put things in a "better" perspective, in my opinion.

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Originally posted by M2k961
Your post reeks of superiority.

By the nature of your post I am going to assume you meant something else...

I don't like to assume, but I assume you meant that he spoke in a condescending manner?

I'm baffled.