surfdog
Don Juan
Hi guys, yes..I told my girl that we'd be better off staying as friends, it wasn't an easy decision but it is the right one.
As some of you might know from my other thread(http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=152523)
I took my girl out last friday night for her birthday, we had a great time. Throughou the whole night she could not keep her lips off me and constantly telling me how she loves me...everything went great.
HOWEVER..
She then went on to ignore me for almost a week, she did not call me for the next two days, but we are in the middle of a series of exams for end of high school atm so I wasn't too bothered by it. I was busy studying and I thought she might be too.
NOTE: We talk on the phone almost everyday, she calls me mostly and sometimes I call her..
So I didn't hear from her on Saturday and Sunday, which was a bit odd for someone who demonstrated so much interest on the night.(I am pretty sure I did everything right on the night, C+F, negging, push-pulled, wasn't too clingy, was unpredictable etc...and she absolutely loved me, we ended up having a 30min make out session in a park near the harbour and on the ferris wheel) So I am sure that I did not do anything on the night to make her lose interest..
During my exams I've had other girls that I'm 'friendly' with going out of their ways to come or to call me just to tell me "good luck" or ask me how my exam was or just to tell me "I love you". I was waiting for HER to call me after our exam..but she never called.
I'm pretty sure that she is not too busy studying as she's got a 2 week break between her last exam and her next one, and she is not the 'studying' type from what I've seen. Plus if she really likes me she'd go out of her way to call no matter what. (Big thanks to Shinko and abcd_z who helped me see this..:rockon
Then on Monday night, when I was studying for my next exam, she called me at around 9pm, sounding abit distant. I cut the conversation short, firstly because I was in the middle of studying, secondly to show her that my life does not revolve around her and she can't just call me anytime she wants and expect me tp put down everything for her.
I was also pretty pissed that she didn't call me for liek 3 days after everything I've done for her, but I was polite. She told me that she's going to bed so I just said "ok good night I'll talk to you tomorrow." I think she expected me to say "Oh please stay? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE...?" LOL I can never be that pathetic.
She didn't call the next day(Tuesday), nor Wedesday, and so on till Friday.
I don't know what you guys think but I think that is pretty disrespectful for me, like if she really actually cared about me or has an interest in my life she would have called.
She called me on Friday night, and I asked her why did she not call me for so long, she replied with some BS excuse like "Oh because I thought you were angry at me..." I was like WTF how was I angry? I was firm but polite, (maybe I was a lil angry that she didn't call but I DID NOT show it.)
Plus even if I WAS angry, she should have at least called and ask me what was wrong with me, instead of igoring me. So that was BS.
I really loved this girl, I really do. But I cannot afford to invest any more of my emotions into this when she is obviously not investing any.
So I told her on the phone later, that we should just be friends.
She tried to giggle it off, but I think she was crying. I am sure that she likes me..the question is HOW MUCH does she like me?
I figured what I did here is a win win situation, because
I am pretty sure that she'll come crawling back..
Except what should I do when she does? I would like her back beacuse I do like this girl alot, but I would not have anyone disrespect me like that. So she would have to prove to me that she deserves me.
I know that I have to play abit of hard to get, but to what extent? If I show too little or no interest would she give up and move on? If I show too much interest she'd know that she's got some power over me and she'd treat me like crap again if we get back together.
So DJs tell me what you guys think!:woo:
As some of you might know from my other thread(http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=152523)
I took my girl out last friday night for her birthday, we had a great time. Throughou the whole night she could not keep her lips off me and constantly telling me how she loves me...everything went great.
HOWEVER..
She then went on to ignore me for almost a week, she did not call me for the next two days, but we are in the middle of a series of exams for end of high school atm so I wasn't too bothered by it. I was busy studying and I thought she might be too.
NOTE: We talk on the phone almost everyday, she calls me mostly and sometimes I call her..
So I didn't hear from her on Saturday and Sunday, which was a bit odd for someone who demonstrated so much interest on the night.(I am pretty sure I did everything right on the night, C+F, negging, push-pulled, wasn't too clingy, was unpredictable etc...and she absolutely loved me, we ended up having a 30min make out session in a park near the harbour and on the ferris wheel) So I am sure that I did not do anything on the night to make her lose interest..
During my exams I've had other girls that I'm 'friendly' with going out of their ways to come or to call me just to tell me "good luck" or ask me how my exam was or just to tell me "I love you". I was waiting for HER to call me after our exam..but she never called.
I'm pretty sure that she is not too busy studying as she's got a 2 week break between her last exam and her next one, and she is not the 'studying' type from what I've seen. Plus if she really likes me she'd go out of her way to call no matter what. (Big thanks to Shinko and abcd_z who helped me see this..:rockon
Then on Monday night, when I was studying for my next exam, she called me at around 9pm, sounding abit distant. I cut the conversation short, firstly because I was in the middle of studying, secondly to show her that my life does not revolve around her and she can't just call me anytime she wants and expect me tp put down everything for her.
I was also pretty pissed that she didn't call me for liek 3 days after everything I've done for her, but I was polite. She told me that she's going to bed so I just said "ok good night I'll talk to you tomorrow." I think she expected me to say "Oh please stay? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE...?" LOL I can never be that pathetic.
She didn't call the next day(Tuesday), nor Wedesday, and so on till Friday.
I don't know what you guys think but I think that is pretty disrespectful for me, like if she really actually cared about me or has an interest in my life she would have called.
She called me on Friday night, and I asked her why did she not call me for so long, she replied with some BS excuse like "Oh because I thought you were angry at me..." I was like WTF how was I angry? I was firm but polite, (maybe I was a lil angry that she didn't call but I DID NOT show it.)
Plus even if I WAS angry, she should have at least called and ask me what was wrong with me, instead of igoring me. So that was BS.
I really loved this girl, I really do. But I cannot afford to invest any more of my emotions into this when she is obviously not investing any.
So I told her on the phone later, that we should just be friends.
She tried to giggle it off, but I think she was crying. I am sure that she likes me..the question is HOW MUCH does she like me?
I figured what I did here is a win win situation, because
If she DOES like me alot, she'd come and try to win me back and IF I do take her back I hold all the power and the relationship would be set on my terms.
If she doesn't like me that much, I'd know now and I did myself a favor by getting rid of her and stopped wasting my time
I am pretty sure that she'll come crawling back..
Except what should I do when she does? I would like her back beacuse I do like this girl alot, but I would not have anyone disrespect me like that. So she would have to prove to me that she deserves me.
I know that I have to play abit of hard to get, but to what extent? If I show too little or no interest would she give up and move on? If I show too much interest she'd know that she's got some power over me and she'd treat me like crap again if we get back together.
So DJs tell me what you guys think!:woo:
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