I LJBF'd Her (Mistake) Now Changed My Mind

[Uncharted]

This isn't the thread about the psycho that flipped out when I rejected her, this is another chick.

A few months ago I was being friendly to a girl in one of my classes - not really flirting but probably being indifferent because I didn't care. She's cute but she seemed kind of boring and I wasn't into her. She asked if I had a girlfriend once and I just told her that I wasn't looking for a relationship and just wanted to be friends (massive mistake - I will NEVER say just friends to a woman again unless she is a beast) - should have said ANYTHING ELSE.

I ran into her this weekend in a bar, but I was on my way out so we only talked for a few minutes. She was flirting pretty heavily (eye contact, kino, smiling, etc). I still have her number - I'm just going to call and ask her out.

What do you guys think? I'm not going to bring up the LJBF thing unless she does. If she brings it up, I will just say I changed my mind or maybe that I'm just interested in seeing where it goes with her.

 

[LongLostFriend]

Don't be friends with chicks.

The good news is that if she is still interested, you can frame this as you being a "challenge" to win over to the romantic side.

 

[Uncharted]

Yea I just kind of blurted it out, but will never do that again.

That was my thinking too - I think she was/is interested. Figure worst case if she rejects me back then I know for sure.

 

[TheCWord]

See, you view the LJBF move as a screw-up, but i think it's a positive. Now when you two hang out and things start to get sexual or romantic, she'll see you as a challenge that she is perhaps making some inroads with. And that'll be FUN to her.

 

[Uncharted]

I will keep this thread updated.

Update:

I'm planning a party this Thursday and I sent out an e-mail to a group of people. She was in the group since she's part of my social circle. She responded almost immediately that she could not make it.

I called her last night:

Me: Hey so if you can't make it no big deal, let's meet for drinks. What works better, Tuesday or Wednesday next week?
HB: Oh actually I changed my plans so I will be at the party.
Me: Ah ok cool.

We talked for a few more minutes but we didn't bring up the drinks again.

I will try to game her in person more on Thursday and will report back.