"I like to be chased and wanted"

[slaog]

This is what a girl said to me tonight via email. She was talking about her last date.

:"the last fella made me do ALL the work, I like to be chased & wanted & told I'm cute or whatever, but he said absolutly **** all to me & never offered to take me out"

Now she seems to have a high opinion of herself which makes it even more puzzling.

Has she low self-esteem by needing somebody to tell her she's cute etc??

I don't know was she hinting at something like a date or what and if she was I'd like to get a few opinions on how to go about it as I usually play hard to get.

Thanks

 

[Mavrick]

What a woman says she wants and what she actually wants aren't the same. If she chased the last guy, she'll chase the next. Soon as she's chased, she'll drop him. Always judge a woman by her action (past relationships and what she's typically been drawn to in them).

Don't believe the hype.

 

[slaog]

You know what, she is very much independent and career focused. I reckon she likes having the power in a relationship. Or she thinks that..

 

[Warrior74]

What a woman says she wants and what she actually wants aren't the same. If she chased the last guy, she'll chase the next. Soon as she's chased, she'll drop him. Always judge a woman by her action (past relationships and what she's typically been drawn to in them).

Don't believe the hype.

lol. yup. don't jump thru the hoop of giving her what she SAYS she wants. If she says she wants a nice guy who will listen to every word she says and shares his emotions and will cry at lifetime movies with her....are you gonna start doing that or are you gonna keep on being you?

You know she will chase. this is what they call a 'test'.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

So what makes her different from the majority of women out there? You're not going to find too many women who'll say that they don't enjoy being pursued.

 

[MotownMack]

I'm with Mavarick on this one.

And pay close attention to the fact that she says she "likes to chase and wanted"... she said nothing about whether or not she ends up with those guys who chase and want her, which is more than likely a big fat NO.

It's always a red flag when a girl brings up chasing at all, at least to me. That means she pays attention to it, and has some definite opinions on it. It's your job to find out what they are, and not by asking her. Watch how she responds, that's 1000 times more important.