"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I like this chick, Don't know how to make a move!

Maximummax

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This girl is my recruiter and we been talking through the whole time, like 2 months from now. we met at a party hosted by the company and than she took me to lunch, as a company guesture. She seems cool and she dresses up nice and acts like high class chick( i really don't care about this part).

while on the lunch we talked and she asked me whether i like football, i said yeah, she says if there is another game would you like to go, i said yes and she says i will find out the tickets and let you know. in the mean while i spoke to her few times, called her on cell phone, she picks and she talks regular normal stuff like about how was my week end and other stuff. she even started texting me.

I noticed she pulls back some times, like not getting back to me soon after the email or phone call.

I am going to see a game with her in few days, I like this girl. How can i pull this off. she seems like an LTR material.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sounds like during the game its time to bust out some serious flirting skills and casual contact (there is numerous articles on this site on how to do the latter effectively) if she responds well to your advances, make a move!

Good Luck
 

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I am failing in two things in my life
flirting skills
busting her balls/being funny

Can you refer any particular book or articles out there, i have plenty of time in my hand to go thru them.
 

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Maximummax said:
I am failing in two things in my life
flirting skills
busting her balls/being funny

Can you refer any particular book or articles out there, i have plenty of time in my hand to go thru them.


The main thing with busting walls is confidence, eye contact and body language is huge. Get familiar with the concept of backhanded compliments. Pressing the search button above should provide you with a plethora of information on flirting techniques. This article should be helpful:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/player_400/474_the-player-the-science-of-flirting.html
 

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Truth is recruiters recruit. They are padi to get prospects for jobs and recruit talent. Offering of tickets by way of asking you if you want them typically means you and her are NOT going together unless she specifically invites you to attend with her alone. I deal with recruiters all day. They do whatever is needed to get the clients and resources. Not something new. Texting, calling, talking is all a part of the game to guarantee THEIR source of income. Wouldn't get my hopes up here. Get out of the weeds and look at the graden.

HC
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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yeah you need to be careful with what her intentions are...recruiters are snakes. She is either playing you as a client or genually interested. I'd just play it cool at the game. Make a note of how many times she touches you. After the game maybe take her for a drink...if you put pressure on yourself to flirt, touch her etc it will detract from your experience. Just go along with the vibe that you're there to have a good time no matter what.
 

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We are going alone for sure. she bought the concept of game.
Thats what i was thinking, to play it cool and see te vibe with some kino. and do some flirting.
 

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Your original post does NOT indicate that she asked you to go with her. It actualy speaks directly to your insecuritity because you are posting asking others opinions.It also speaks to hot/cold.

Read your post... what part of reality do you not connect with here?!?

if you read it, you will get it.

Can't wait for your update.... and corresponding details.

HC
 

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alone doest mean anything...as a recruiter you are a commodity to her. You neeed to ascertain as quickly as possibly if she is sexually available...if she isnt then I'd just keep it at a professional level.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Since i will be meeting her in few days
i am preparing to get things clear from her to find out more about her.
i never asked about her relationships before, just little bit about family thats all.

Yes you guys are right, i have to find out soon whether she is available sexually or not, one time she mentioned that she is single to me.
 

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I like this chick Dont know how to make a move

Impressive. Let me pull up another question, if you get this one, then you really are genius unlike 95 of AC-Web.

We did this in school one day:

There are 7 girls on a bus.
Each girl has 7 backpacks and in each backpack there are 7 big cats.
For every big cat there are 7 little cats.
How many legs are there in the bus?

Dont ask why, just answer the freaking question. if you google it, w/e it doesent prove anything but that you are a cheater, and no one should care about that but yourself
 

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haha.. I am good at math buddy.
Since i am a newbie and in the stage of learning the skill, i am pretty sure i will some where do mistakes. its a learning process.

I will concentrate on flirting and being funny.
 

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It looks like that she has put you in the friend zone. You must break out this now. Get very sexual with her. Make sure she knows that you are definitly not just a friend but someone that wants to rail her. Also act like you bang a plethora or different women so she knows you are not some creepy dude.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Cannalixfully said:
Impressive. Let me pull up another question, if you get this one, then you really are genius unlike 95 of AC-Web.

We did this in school one day:

There are 7 girls on a bus.
Each girl has 7 backpacks and in each backpack there are 7 big cats.
For every big cat there are 7 little cats.
How many legs are there in the bus?

Dont ask why, just answer the freaking question. if you google it, w/e it doesent prove anything but that you are a cheater, and no one should care about that but yourself
Did this in my head...its 70.
 

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Cats have 4 legs. 7bags x 7big cats = 49 big cats x 4 for legs

49 x 7 = little cats.

and add 14 legs for the 7 kids.

on to subject:

Max it seems like you don't go out with a lot of girls. That's why your putting this girl on a pedestal and your not even comfortable with the idea of having a date with a girl and that is why your asking us. Re-read the DJ Bible and remember practice makes you better.
 

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iwanttofight said:
It looks like that she has put you in the friend zone. You must break out this now. Get very sexual with her. Make sure she knows that you are definitly not just a friend but someone that wants to rail her. Also act like you bang a plethora or different women so she knows you are not some creepy dude.

should i indicate that i am talking to few chicks and hanging out with them.....
right now i don't have any plates.. but i can lie
 

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You get sexual with her groping her a$$ during the game while guilding her to her seat. If she gets upset just smile and say you couldn't help it, she is really nice.

Telling her about how you think about doing her all day and ask her if she feels horney too and if she's game to doing something inside the washroom with you. If she gets upset, just smile and say, you couldn't help it, she is really nice.

Just remember, you are the cave-man and "you really can't help yourself" to be who you are.

That is how you act like a guy that has allot of plates or options and convey masculne sexiness. They "can't help" being a jerk, but they are successful with the ladies.
 
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