"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There is this girl that I met on an online dating website. We messaged back and forth for a while. Talked on the phone for a bit. Then I took her to a nice Japanese restaurant followed by a movie. We shared a couple of lip locks during the movie followed by a lip lock with full-frontal hug inititated by her in the parking lot after the movie. She's smoking hot and 48. I'm 25. I want to create in her an urgency to see me and to possibly move some stuff around in her schedule so that she has time for me. She told me when I last saw her after the movie in the parking lot that we'll get together sometime soon and watch a movie at her place. She also said to me that it is natural for her to work on a relationship and not let it wither. How do I create in her a sense of wanting and urgency for her to see me and to carve out time for me in her busy schedule?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Quit talking about relationships and "when will I see you again?", just get drunk with her and GET IT ON.
 

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CommunicationsExpert said:
I want to create in her an urgency to see me and to possibly move some stuff around in her schedule so that she has time for me. She told me when I last saw her after the movie in the parking lot that we'll get together sometime soon and watch a movie at her place. She also said to me that it is natural for her to work on a relationship and not let it wither. How do I create in her a sense of wanting and urgency for her to see me and to carve out time for me in her busy schedule?
Why create the urgency? I'd say, be patient. If she's busy, she'll make time for you. You don't need to create any urgency, you just need to take the initiative. It'll happen, a movie at her place to 'relax' is a done deal.

Enjoy her and the time spent, but realize it is not in stone. The best sex I've ever had, was with a gal in her 40's.

If she invites you to her place for a 'movie'. Go. Have fun. :D
 

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Look, I'm almost 51. Had sex a couple thousand times. At 48 she HAS no sense of urgency-and won't develop any. You are going to be her play-toy,just dont think you are calling any shots in this game. When she's horny and wants you,she'll come up with a reason for you to be with her in private.THEN you can go for it. Until then, the games that may work with younger women won't. BUT the games younger women play,will happen[they never quit]
 

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sodbuster said:
Look, I'm almost 51. Had sex a couple thousand times. At 48 she HAS no sense of urgency-and won't develop any. You are going to be her play-toy,just dont think you are calling any shots in this game. When she's horny and wants you,she'll come up with a reason for you to be with her in private.THEN you can go for it. Until then, the games that may work with younger women won't. BUT the games younger women play,will happen[they never quit]
True.
One reason why she has no urgency to commit or be committed to you is because she has had her children long ago - she has no ticking bio-clock.
A 48 year oild woman knows how to make dating work to HER benefit. She has figured out what works and what does not long ago.
You may read all about how older women have no market value and therefore are easy to snare. Not so. Women of her age know exactly how to survive with or without a guy. You will be her distraction and her playmate and you will be jumping though her hoops before you know it .
No 25 year old guy has acquired enough game to be more that a FB for a cougar like this woman.
Just go with the flow on this and enjoy the ride because it may not last very long after she meets a cool 50 year old guy with similar circumstances and values to her's, a superior intellect and considerable "resources".
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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you drive up the urgency for her wanting to see you buy NOT asking when the next time she is available. Keep the conversations fun and throw in a few slightly sexual tidbits, play a little hard to get, but dont go overboard so you come off like a douchebag ;)
 
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All,

Thanks for the feedback.

The advice I'm going to go with is "you drive up the urgency for her wanting to see you buy NOT asking when the next time she is available. Keep the conversations fun and throw in a few slightly sexual tidbits, play a little hard to get, but dont go overboard so you come off like a douchebag".
 

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WHY DONT U DATE WITHIN YOUR AGE RANGE.............she may be hot now, but dude you're 25. Bang her, and move on..........for every 48 year old hottie..........THERE ARE LIKE A BAZILLION 20 something HOTTER CHICS.

U are the prize NOT HER...........your age is a golden ticket that acts like a backstage pass..............the whole cougar craze is soooooooo over-rated.

U DONT NEED ADVICE............SHE ALREADY INVITED YOU OVER TO WATCH A MOVIE............if U actually watch a movie you should be biatch slapped.
This is a sure thing..........its almost like she is naked, lying on her back with her legs spread and up in the air............and you are asking how to proceed.

RECAP-cougars desire cubs.............U are the cub, you can do no wrong.........sit back and wait to be devoured............then for CHRIST sake...........MOVE ON AND GET a 20 something
 
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