"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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I like my date, but am I acting right?

pipe007

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So I met this Puerto Rican chick a month ago, and we have gone out 3 times already

I kissed her the second date, and the third we wend dancing and I got to grab her all over her body... so I think is escalating at a good pace...

anyways I think I like this girl, and we mainly communicate by texting, If I have called her before its been only to make sure she is on her way to the date or to set up the date... nothing more

she initiates most of the text messages...

and the three times I have seen have have been on a saturday night, it seems that she prefers to go out with me on saturdays... should I push to see her on a different day than saturday? or should I treat this as a red flag?

she works and studies, so I understand she is busy, but I don't see why anyone would say no to see a date on a weekday? or friday? I havent asked her out on these days yet..

the other thing that bugs me is that she takes a looooooong time to reply to my messages, she initiates contact, and she agrees to meet up on saturdays, but she will reply to my messages on average after 2 hours, maybe an hour, sometiems up to 4 or 5 hours... is this normal? or should I take it as a red flag?

other than that, she seems into me and is always sending kisses and willing to meet up and make plans...

I like this girl, I would like to see her maybe twice a week instead of just once, is this ok?

I think im just gonna ask her out on a friday, and if she says she prefers saturday, how would you guys handle that? considering you are just getting to know each other, so no pressure on that...

weird situation here
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

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The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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pipe007 said:
and the three times I have seen have have been on a saturday night, it seems that she prefers to go out with me on saturdays... should I push to see her on a different day than saturday? or should I treat this as a red flag?
It's a red flag. Back out!

she works and studies, so I understand she is busy, but I don't see why anyone would say no to see a date on a weekday? or friday? I havent asked her out on these days yet..
Very scary. Very mysterious.

the other thing that bugs me is that she takes a looooooong time to reply to my messages, she initiates contact, and she agrees to meet up on saturdays, but she will reply to my messages on average after 2 hours, maybe an hour, sometiems up to 4 or 5 hours... is this normal? or should I take it as a red flag?
5 hours?!?! Maybe she's a prostitute!

I like this girl, I would like to see her maybe twice a week instead of just once, is this ok?
Have you considered seeing her 1.5 times a week?

weird situation here
The situation seems normal. YOU seem weird.

The girl likes you. She's been out on 3 dates with you. And you've given no indication that she's losing interest. So why exactly are you freaking out and looking for "red flags"? She only goes out with you on saturday - that's a red flag? Maybe she's freakin busy during the week, man. What the hell. It takes 2+ hours to respond to a text? Maybe she has a life.

Some of you guys are serious spazzes. For real.

Good god, man.
 

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Judge nismo sees you're being over-analytical for no damn reason. Stop worrying yourself and understand that this woman got a life. And if you're feeling clingy, stop that sh*t. Go spin more plates if need be. Get this woman off the damn pedestal too! That's my ruling.

Case closed. Leave my courtroom.
 

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thanks for the slap guys
I was starting to get a bit clingy
 
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