Reading these threads, I realize my mistakes!During this past semester in college got close with this girl and became really clingy.
I don't think you do because I bet you if you had another chance with her, you would do the same all over again. Don't be clingy with a girl. That was your first mistake.
I showed a lot attention, bought gifts, asked for dates, etc.
Why were you buying her gifts? Did you buy her stuffed teddy bears? You don't buy girls gifts to get dates.
I helped her for every test and homework of the 3 classes we took together. We even did a few all nighters.
Again, being the nice guy who she just sees as a friend. I knew guys in school that did this and those guys were called "suckers". The girls used them so they would help them pass the class and get the grade and after it was over they became an aquaintance and ignored them. I'm sure they liked the gifts they got tho. Don't do this anymore, it doesn't help you at all getting a girl and she won't like you anymore if you do or don't help her with her homework.
I never got the attention I wanted and complained about it a few time.
Why would you get the attention you wanted? You were giving it all to her. Buying her gifts, doing her work, that's what she wanted you for and that is why you got that attention during that time. She didn't need you after the study buddy time. Complaining about it makes you look even more weak than buying the gifts and doing the homework. Don't complain, buy gifts, or do homework for them.
I even tried the ignore routine to increase attention. It seemed to work,but I ended up getting upset and yelling at her, couldn't keep it up.
You were giving HER attention, she wasn't giving you any, except for your study buddy time, that's all she wanted you for, so why are you getting upset and yelling at her? You were the clingy attention showerer, she wasn't, so why are you upset and yelling?
I fell back into the same routine before, giving her control. I realize gave her so much power and nothing to work for.
Yes, and the fact she saw you as a way to get her grades and thought of you as a study buddy not a f*** buddy.
Now the summer started, I don't see her everyday. She text sometimes. I don't know what approach to take. Since I don't see her everyday, the ignore routine might not work.
You mean you still want to try to get with her after all you went through? After she showed you no attention, you yelled at her, and used you to get her work done? What makes you think that after all that and the unmanly behavior you displayed that this girl is going to want to be with you? You think she will change all that? She is not, and when the semester starts again, she will do the same, and you will be buying the gifts and being the chump. Don't do that and be that way. Ignore her and find another girl and don't do the same mistakes you have done with this one.
Just want the girl and my pride back.
Sorry, but your pride is gone, and you're going to have to swallow it and learn from this mistake and don't repeat them again. She will only contact you when she needs something. When she wants her homework and tests done. She's probably out banging other guys and they aren't buying her gifts or doing her homework for her. Don't do that again. Forget her and find a girl who is worth your time, and a girl who shows you REAL attention, the attention YOU want. Don't be clingy with the next one and buy gifts.
She's on IM now, not sure how to respond if she im me. Haven't replied to her text today.
You don't respond, you ignore her and show her the lack of attention she showed you except when she wanted help with her work to get good grades. We all learn from mistakes, and you can learn from yours, so don't be the "nice clingy guy" that gets nowhere with women.
