i know that youre supposed to lead all of your interactions but what if you dont care

[sebastian11]

like when a girl asks what do you wanna do, i usually couldnt care less so i just say "its up to you" i know this is bad but i truly dont care where we go eat or what movie we go see lol, should i just pretend to have a preference?

 

[DonutMan]

You might come across as boring if you never have anything that you want to do.

 

[bookman]

even if you don't care you have to lead, most of us don't care. hell I don't care either, coffee shop or park or bar... the point is always to see the girl, but make it easier for them, have all the choices decided. Location, time, what to do etc... and let them follow. if you reply with "I don't know what do you want to do" you'll never do anything lol

 

[Jhcl4000]

like when a girl asks what do you wanna do, i usually couldnt care less so i just say "its up to you" i know this is bad but i truly dont care where we go eat or what movie we go see lol, should i just pretend to have a preference?

The man needs to be a MAN and tell her/lead her.

 

[KingofHearts]

"I love you so much, do you wanna get married?" "i don't care, its up to you"
"I want to have a child with you, what do you think?" "eh, if you want"
"honey, the bills are stacking up and we can't pay for everything, should we pay for the house or car?" "that's up to you"

You're probably not thinking in terms like this, but women do. Don't take this personally but if you have no desire to lead, then you are not ready for a serious relationship. Nothing wrong with that if you don't want to get in to an LTR anytime soon. But I do question why you would even want to hangout with a girl anyway. Are you really just happy spending time her?

Me, I've always been the person that leads, makes decisions etc. Its mostly because I'm so busy that when I do have free time to go out, I want to do what I want, not what somebody wants to do. And how do girls react? They love it. After a few times hanging out with me I get a response like "I love it that you know what you want. I hate it when guys ask me out and then they don't know what to do." Seriously, some girls cringe when they have to take charge. They will date you, but they don't respect you. And then they talk crap on you to the next guy they date.

So should you lead just because girls are attracted to that? No, there's more to it. Most feminine girls don't really care where you go out either. And they prefer that the guy makes the decisions. She wants some excitement, another world to get caught up in. Further down the line, you will need to take charge when she emotionally can't handle the pressure. For example when her mom dies and you need to comfort her. She needs some structure & guidance from someone that is not driven by emotions. Plus when you make decisions its one less thing for her to stress about. Women not only want leadership, they need it.

Like I said if you're not going for an LTR, no worries. But if your trying to get a gf, then you better make some changes so you don't get steamrolled in a real relationship

 

[Faded Image]

Just tell her that you want to have sex with her. Because in the end, that's your main intentions anyway right? That way, you'll cutout of all the BS game playing and get straight to the point.

Although she might diss you, you won't waist time or money showering her with attention without knowing the end result.