I Know She Likes Me

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Theres this HB 8.5 (others wouldn't consider her as high so i know shes not as desirable as i think she could be) and i've seen her round college a few times making eye contact every now and then on mondays and fridays (only days i see her around). The last monday she was with her classmates behind me in the library so I thought 'yehh boi this could work to your advantage...make some eye contact'. I did and she was responsive. I saw this thing on sosuave the other day which said if the both of you make eye contact three times she wants to speak to you. I knew this and thought 'lets take this further' so i turned in my swivel chair reading the daily paper pretending to talk to my mate whilst focusing my entire body her way. I knew she was digging this cos whenever I looked up her body was leaning towards me more and was giving me some nice IOI's like REALLY scruffing up with her hair and staring at my crotch and shoes. So after all signs point to yes I still manage to have fear about starting to chat with her. Don't get me wrong i've had my fair share before (nout sexual) and can talk to females well engaging positive responses more often than not...
what's stopping me from appraoching this one...and how can i overcome it cos shes sooo cute. kinda like fit her in your pocket cute and i wouldnt mind a bit of her

 

[Interceptor]

Youre terrified of being wrong. Thats all.

Just go over confidently to her , sit down next to her, and introduce yourself to her. If shes interested she will try to make conversation. If not, she will be awkward, pause, andnot be into it.
Always be cool in the face of EVERYTHING and ANYTHING that comes your way.
Its ok to be attracted to women, its not ok to lose your mind if every single thing in your fantasy world does not happen as you imagined it to be...

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

i won't lose my mind...just confused why shed harder to talk to than all the other girls i know

 

[Interceptor]

Being confused over some stranger is a waste of time.

 

[ProtoMan1]

You are afraid that she will reject you.

 

[nicelife]

Listen man, you are over analysing this.

The only reason shes harder to talk to then other girls is because you like her and you're scared of her reaction to what you have to say.

Next time you see her promise yourself that you'll atleast say hello or..

- Ask her name
- Introduce yourself
- Ask what shes studying
- Ask how her day is going

then pull out your phone,
Tell her "hey ive got to go but your name was HB 8.5 right? whats your number? then hand her your phone,
while shes putting in the number say something like "we could hangout sometime after class or something" - say this very casually like it isnt a big deal.

You say farewell, then walk off into the sunset doing the saturday night fever walk ohhhhhh yeaa



Just be confident and friendly, speak clearly and at a normal pace and try not to react too much to what she says, just be cool.




Talk to her, eye contact can only take you so far.

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Listen man, you are over analysing this.

The only reason shes harder to talk to then other girls is because you like her and you're scared of her reaction to what you have to say.

Next time you see her promise yourself that you'll atleast say hello or..

- Ask her name
- Introduce yourself
- Ask what shes studying
- Ask how her day is going

then pull out your phone,
Tell her "hey ive got to go but your name was HB 8.5 right? whats your number? then hand her your phone,
while shes putting in the number say something like "we could hangout sometime after class or something" - say this very casually like it isnt a big deal.

You say farewell, then walk off into the sunset doing the saturday night fever walk ohhhhhh yeaa



Just be confident and friendly, speak clearly and at a normal pace and try not to react too much to what she says, just be cool.




Talk to her, eye contact can only take you so far.

cheers but do any of you have tips on overcoming the fear/anxiety

 

[Halloween]

cheers but do any of you have tips on overcoming the fear/anxiety

Tell yourself: "This is just practice."

This isn't a mind trick or anything, it's literally true! What are the chances you're going to marry this woman? that you'll even have an LTR with her? You will gain confidence and perspective from approaching, and lose nothing if it fails.

 

[Interceptor]

There really are no 'tips' about over coming fear and anxiety.


What is happening here to the large portion of the entire male population of the world is there is a totally FALSE belief there there are shortcuts, quick fixes, tips and tricks,and magic bullets to instance success with overcoming deeply ingrained fears and anxieties,and behaviors that are deeply ingrained into your mind, method of thinking, behavior, even your adrenal glands, and overall physiology.

Its like asking before you go into combat with the enemy and asking :"Hey, what do you guys do to over come fear of being blown apart by IEDs and having my head exploded by a high powered sniper rifle? Can you give some some tips on that, guys?"

It is MISGUIDED and JUVENILE.

PLEASE STOP THIS SH*T.


There ARE NO "TIPS".



There are no magic bullets or instant qucik fixes for things that are so deeply ingrained and programmed into your psyche that they PARALYZE you.

DO YOU UNDERSTAND THIS???!


Beleifs that are disempowering are programmed into your overall physiology and into your neurology , thus, actually affecting your body organs, such as your adrenal glands and amygdala.


YOU create a negative fedback loop which keeps on a continuious cycle that some stupid insignificant 'tip' is useless.

The ONLY method is to get to the ROOT of the problems and root them out of your mind and body forever.

And you cannot do that by simply thinking 'Hey, Im cool."
After years and years of learned and programmed Behaviors, your body will take time and more time to completely eliminate what YOU TAUGHT it to do and behave and react.

YOu MUST analyze the TRIGGERS to WHAT makes you FEARFUL and WHAT makes you ANXIOUS.

If you DONT KNOW the ROOT of the PROBLEM , THERE is NO FIX for it.

YOu can handle and manage symptoms, but you will not be 100 percent congruent. ANd this is the 'Solidness' that Women TEST US FOR. Any sense of incongruence makes women wary and suspicious, and out come the sh*t tests, and they begin to look for the chinks in your armour. They want you to prove to them you are fake. Do you understand this?
This is how women are wired.
They sniff out the weak ass, punk b*tches and keep looking for the real men. Do you see how important this is?
They are designed to find your flaws and weakensses, and bring them to light.
That is the point to sh*t tests. To find out if you're a Man or not.
If you are what you 'SAY" you are.
They test for character and your integrity and your BELIEF IN YOURSELF.
If you feel unworthy or inadequate in ANY WAY, they will find it instantly and bring it to light, and DISQUALIFY YOU.

If you are not solid and congruent you will get blown out every time.

Understand the roots of the problems first.
Then try to work out a method of reprogramming your self and your subconscious mind, AND.....your Physical Body,which STORES ALL your negative and toxic beliefs inside itself.

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

There really are no 'tips' about over coming fear and anxiety.


What is happening here to the large portion of the entire male population of the world is there is a totally FALSE belief there there are shortcuts, quick fixes, tips and tricks,and magic bullets to instance success with overcoming deeply ingrained fears and anxieties,and behaviors that are deeply ingrained into your mind, method of thinking, behavior, even your adrenal glands, and overall physiology.

Its like asking before you go into combat with the enemy and asking :"Hey, what do you guys do to over come fear of being blown apart by IEDs and having my head exploded by a high powered sniper rifle? Can you give some some tips on that, guys?"

It is MISGUIDED and JUVENILE.

PLEASE STOP THIS SH*T.


There ARE NO "TIPS".



There are no magic bullets or instant qucik fixes for things that are so deeply ingrained and programmed into your psyche that they PARALYZE you.

DO YOU UNDERSTAND THIS???!


Beleifs that are disempowering are programmed into your overall physiology and into your neurology , thus, actually affecting your body organs, such as your adrenal glands and amygdala.


YOU create a negative fedback loop which keeps on a continuious cycle that some stupid insignificant 'tip' is useless.

The ONLY method is to get to the ROOT of the problems and root them out of your mind and body forever.

And you cannot do that by simply thinking 'Hey, Im cool."
After years and years of learned and programmed Behaviors, your body will take time and more time to completely eliminate what YOU TAUGHT it to do and behave and react.

YOu MUST analyze the TRIGGERS to WHAT makes you FEARFUL and WHAT makes you ANXIOUS.

If you DONT KNOW the ROOT of the PROBLEM , THERE is NO FIX for it.

YOu can handle and manage symptoms, but you will not be 100 percent congruent. ANd this is the 'Solidness' that Women TEST US FOR. Any sense of incongruence makes women wary and suspicious, and out come the sh*t tests, and they begin to look for the chinks in your armour. They want you to prove to them you are fake. Do you understand this?
This is how women are wired.
They sniff out the weak ass, punk b*tches and keep looking for the real men. Do you see how important this is?
They are designed to find your flaws and weakensses, and bring them to light.
That is the point to sh*t tests. To find out if you're a Man or not.
If you are what you 'SAY" you are.
They test for character and your integrity and your BELIEF IN YOURSELF.
If you feel unworthy or inadequate in ANY WAY, they will find it instantly and bring it to light, and DISQUALIFY YOU.

If you are not solid and congruent you will get blown out every time.

Understand the roots of the problems first.
Then try to work out a method of reprogramming your self and your subconscious mind, AND.....your Physical Body,which STORES ALL your negative and toxic beliefs inside itself.

great, great, i reprogramme myself over a period of months by which time said girl will be elsewhere

 

[nicelife]

you have to understand your fear before you overcome it

ask yourself why your scared and answer honestly


then think about how this reason is going to effect you in the future and weight it up against the result of you giving yourself a chance with this girl

if you talk to her your giving yourself a chance, who knows it could be 50/50 it could be more than that, but if you dont talk to her you dont get any chance at all.


you need to start living in your own world, you control what effects you and what doesn't, you decide what is in your world and what isnt. You decide whos in your world and who isnt. You decide what matters.