TheWolfMan
Don Juan
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I met this girl at a local bar while her sister was bar tending and we started talking, she then became a bartender there herself and I think that sort of screwed things for me. Anyway I was dating her for about a month and I thought I had finally found something real that could be long-term. It's been awhile since I've connected with someone like that. Felt like we knew each other for a long time.
We instantly clicked and actually hooked up the first night we hung out, shoulda been my first red flag and she was all over me for the first part of it, I could basically do no wrong. We went on dates and even went away for a weekend. She would tell me things like "it's been a while since I've actually been into anybody" and "I have a crush on you, it's pretty damn cool you like me back". I was basically just going with the flow. I think I made myself too available and too agreeable because at one point something changed and she started pulling the whole "I'm not ready for a relationship" and "I want to take things very slow". Also the fact that she was a first time bartender and probably wasn't used to getting hit on all the time probably hurt the situation.
I tried to play it cool and act like everything was normal, said I was cool with not being in a relationship and we went on hanging out, but I stupidly got drunk and brought it up and we argued about it. Still i said I was cool with it, I guess I should have been more honest. She then pulled the plug and said no relationship, no friendship, nothing.
Fast forward a couple weeks and I stop in at the bar and see her hanging out with some 40yr old, she was 25 and I was 26 at the time. I got blackout drunk and basically blew up at her called her out on her games and basically wanted to beat the old dude's ass. I made a scene and she got pissed, she's the kind of girl that goes through this a lot and I'm not the first guy it's happened to "she's the kinda girl that likes to hangout and have fun, she never catches feelings".
I haven't been into that bar since and I have cut way down on my drinking, I now that had a part to play in everything. If I had stayed sober and not brought up the "relationship" talk and then if I had never blew up at her when I was black out drunk it might have been a different story.
Anyway I'm not trying to get this girl back, I know it's over but now I'm bitter towards the dating game and it makes me not even want to try anymore. This girl basically crushed me, ****ed my head up. Any advice for bouncing back from a situation like this? I feel like I screwed my life up and my reputation around town, it's tough.
Sorry for the novel and some of the thoughts are scattered, I just had to get it all out. Had to vent.
We instantly clicked and actually hooked up the first night we hung out, shoulda been my first red flag and she was all over me for the first part of it, I could basically do no wrong. We went on dates and even went away for a weekend. She would tell me things like "it's been a while since I've actually been into anybody" and "I have a crush on you, it's pretty damn cool you like me back". I was basically just going with the flow. I think I made myself too available and too agreeable because at one point something changed and she started pulling the whole "I'm not ready for a relationship" and "I want to take things very slow". Also the fact that she was a first time bartender and probably wasn't used to getting hit on all the time probably hurt the situation.
I tried to play it cool and act like everything was normal, said I was cool with not being in a relationship and we went on hanging out, but I stupidly got drunk and brought it up and we argued about it. Still i said I was cool with it, I guess I should have been more honest. She then pulled the plug and said no relationship, no friendship, nothing.
Fast forward a couple weeks and I stop in at the bar and see her hanging out with some 40yr old, she was 25 and I was 26 at the time. I got blackout drunk and basically blew up at her called her out on her games and basically wanted to beat the old dude's ass. I made a scene and she got pissed, she's the kind of girl that goes through this a lot and I'm not the first guy it's happened to "she's the kinda girl that likes to hangout and have fun, she never catches feelings".
I haven't been into that bar since and I have cut way down on my drinking, I now that had a part to play in everything. If I had stayed sober and not brought up the "relationship" talk and then if I had never blew up at her when I was black out drunk it might have been a different story.
Anyway I'm not trying to get this girl back, I know it's over but now I'm bitter towards the dating game and it makes me not even want to try anymore. This girl basically crushed me, ****ed my head up. Any advice for bouncing back from a situation like this? I feel like I screwed my life up and my reputation around town, it's tough.
Sorry for the novel and some of the thoughts are scattered, I just had to get it all out. Had to vent.
