I kind of messed up

[socalrunner]

So basically I met a girl a month ago, after 2 dates she told me that she really liked me and everything, she would talk to me all the time via texts and I would barely respond at first. Then I started telling her I missed her back (she would say I miss you), and then she didn't seem as interested. She goes to my university and before leaving home for the summer she said "I'm sorry for leading you on...I'm not ready for a relationship yet". But after that she still kisses me on the lips goodbye(while her parents were in the room). Now, its been a couple days and we haven't said anything to eachother..she is living an hour away from me and I have no clue how to liven things up again. I know I messed up really bad with showing my emotions too early...and want to get serious with her when school starts back up again in a couple months. Any ideas what I could do now to start getting her interested/jealous again? Thanks!

 

[reset]

Let her come to you... she already said she wasn't interested in a relationship because you came on too strong too soon.

Sometimes the girl will come back, so who knows. The only way you could get her interested again would is to be unavailable. And trying to make her jealous would make you seem (accurately)insecure. I'd say forget about her for awhile, if she misses you she'll make contact. And even then, I wouldn't "go for her" really. You need to show that you can move on and that your life didn't stop because she wasn't around.

She told you she wasn't interested, so you move on with your life. If you get her great, if you don't, you've moved on with your life, which is great too. By being a challenge, you win either way.

And now you know, not too try to get too heavy too soon. It kills the chemistry. She needs something to earn (your affection/attention/time) and you gave it to her just because she was hot...which is what most AFC guys would do (believe me, I know from personal experience. These lessons hurt sometimes). I know it's hard to hold back, hide your cards, keep your options open... but this is what naturals do. Fake it till you make it.

This is a good article from the front page:http://www.sosuave.com/romance/david/art135.htm

 

[socalrunner]

Reset: Thanks very much for the advice and for the article, I have a feeling it will really help me.

dotcomwill: Good luck with your girl hopefully she'll come crawling back to you!

 

[reset]

No problem. Just remember, (and I need to remind myself of this as well) it's not about the girl. It's about you. The happier you are with your life, the more you have your priorities in order, the more you spend time doing the things you love and are passionate about, the less important these girls become (believe it or not) and the more power you have.

 

[SamePendo]

She is a hor and you started to treat her like a woman. Treat her like a who.re, be even more masculine than she is, aggressive, direct, sexual. Play by your rules now, make your own rules. Your reality, your rules.

 

[socalrunner]

She is a hor and you started to treat her like a woman. Treat her like a who.re, be even more masculine than she is, aggressive, direct, sexual. Play by your rules now, make your own rules. Your reality, your rules.

will do that next time i have the chance..thanks!

but what do you mean by "treat her like a wh0re"?

 

[reset]

I think he means, don't assume she's the wonderful girl your mind is making her out to be. You don't know her too well. And until you do, you kind of have to keep the thought in the back of your mind, that she may have some issues, may not be the "good girl" she wants you to think she is.

This is why women like challenges. They know that you know there's a lot more to this stuff than just the surface.

 

[SamePendo]

will do that next time i have the chance..thanks!

but what do you mean by "treat her like a wh0re"?

You tell me. Would you tell a ***** that you like her, and then call her again and again? Or quite the opposite, you tell me how YOU would treat a who.re.

 

[Last Man Standing]

She is a hor and you started to treat her like a woman. Treat her like a who.re, be even more masculine than she is, aggressive, direct, sexual. Play by your rules now, make your own rules. Your reality, your rules.

Are you saying that she is not a virgin? Not enough info yet! Hold on. maybe there is...

SoCal - Hors always talk emotional shyt and do not mean it - so take it as a grain of salt!! Trust me kid - hors always use words as weapons because they really have no other power over men!!!

Her kissing you on the lips in front of her parents is strange after what she told you - and thus I would put her in the hor category for her contradictory action as it relates to her verbal message!!! Kissing on the lips is personal and thus emotional!!!

Don't call her unless she initiates - hors do love to play games - be careful of her words - as the kiss on the lips - don't take it personally or to heart!!