I sit by this cute girl in math and talk. I walk and talk with her while walking to her dorm, and her friend comes to **** block. She then introduces me as her friend <insert my name>. WTF, I thought friendzoned happened after period of not escalating.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I keep getting friendzoned at the very start
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
we all start as friends little johnny. why havent you kissed her yet? you waiting for the right moment? if the first man waited for the right moment to kiss the first woman there would be no humanity.
what else was she suppose to say? dont be a pvssy and start stressing over labels. either make a move or shut up.
what else was she suppose to say? dont be a pvssy and start stressing over labels. either make a move or shut up.
Mantis Toboggan
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So, have you been officially labeled a troll yet or what?
I mean, there's the possibility that you're such a social retard that you've never seen/heard anyone introduced as "my friend" before. But the possibility is so mind-blowingly small, that I gotta believe you're just a bored kid trolling.
Look, a girl might have f**ked me last night. She'll still introduce me as "her friend" to other people. Because what else is she gonna say? It's how people talk. "Here's my friend Mikey." "This is my friend Kate."
There goes my troll feeding for the day. That should hold you over...
I mean, there's the possibility that you're such a social retard that you've never seen/heard anyone introduced as "my friend" before. But the possibility is so mind-blowingly small, that I gotta believe you're just a bored kid trolling.
Look, a girl might have f**ked me last night. She'll still introduce me as "her friend" to other people. Because what else is she gonna say? It's how people talk. "Here's my friend Mikey." "This is my friend Kate."
There goes my troll feeding for the day. That should hold you over...
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Solomon
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If your not a troll JP post a pic of proof of yourself, if you want you can pm it to me cause right now no one believes you brahJPlaya said:
EvilAgenda
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Lol, how else would she introduce you?
Hi, this is the guy I'm totally into?
She could have left you forgotten and gone off talking to her friends. Instead, she introduced you to them; that's a good thing.
YOU GUYS ARE ALL WRONG!!! JPLAYA IS RIGHT....HOW CAN YOU BE SO BLIND?!!?
Any girl that you JUST MET that ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, will say "Hey, this is Jplaya, the man I'd love to marry. I'm using man loosely of course."
Also, was her friend trying to c0ck block you or was she trying to talk to her friend?
Any girl that you JUST MET that ACTUALLY LIKES YOU, will say "Hey, this is Jplaya, the man I'd love to marry. I'm using man loosely of course."
Also, was her friend trying to c0ck block you or was she trying to talk to her friend?
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Why not?JPlaya said:
If you pay a prostitute for a session, you get straight down to business. You don't sit there talking to her for an hour.
Who says you have to kiss her? All you have to do is make her known that you like the look of her. Flirt with her, compliment her on something she is wearing. After some small talk suggest going for a coffee and pull your phone out to take her number. She might reject you, but who cares? At least you didn't sit there like a chump talking to her about blue waffle. Oh, but wait! You did just that didn't you?
It's ok to make mistakes, just make sure you learn from them, so that next time things go more smoothly.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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You mock me, but complimenting a girl on say something she is wearing scores you more points then sitting there and coming out with "you're really beautiful". Loads of men say that to a woman, they hear it so many times it's boring to them. If you say, I like your dress or whatever, it surprises them because not many men really take notice of that stuff, so already it sets you apart from all the other men and that's what you want to aim for. You want to be different from every other man, you want to stand out.JPlaya said:
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Better question: Why wouldn't you kiss a girl you've only known for an hour.JPlaya said:
I think it's because you're afraid you haven't built enough attraction yet. When meeting a girl, if you simply know that you can kiss her within an hour of meeting her, your demeanor will change, you won't have to try as hard, and that my friend, is what we call a self-fullfilling prophecy.
Just be sure you isolate her before you do it, and be completely confident and non outcome dependent.
HariPoter13
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Hahahaha. Thanks man, I had a really good laugh.Mantis Toboggan said:
Try to close on all of your cold approaches if you don't want to get friendzoned or become passive yourself. I had so many cold approaches when I was at college last spring semester, but I rarely closed out of fear of rejection personally and socially(Now I recognize that sticking point). And I feel like I'm starting from scratch going direct on women and going for a close after a minute of convo lol.