I just want to say thanks

[lazybuttalented]

Tonight I was at a bar with a few friends and there were two really attractive girls that my friend and I had met a month back. Instead of feeling nervous or over thinking what I was saying I felt calm, and at ease, and the conversation showed. Because I was comfortable the talking flowed easily and the girl I was talking to opened up immediately. Touching her didn't feel forced or planned, it just felt like instinct. To sum up, I'll be seeing this girl again real soon.

Now normally after a girl I was talking to had left I would close up for the rest of the night and call it good. This night was different. Instead my friend and I hit up the dance floor and ended up approaching several girls. Yes, I got rejected a few times.. but after pushing through my nervousness I found that rejection is not bad. AT ALL. I have been afraid of something that in reality made me feel nothing at all. I didn't feel embarrassed or down, instead I was completely neutral, even felt happy and laughed it off. I FEARED SOMETHING THAT NEVER EXISTED.

And for this I have everyone on here to thank. Before I found this site, rejection was the main reason why I didn't approach the girls I found attractive. But after reading the threads on here it has opened my mind about a lot of things. I have revoked my NICE GUY membership, and I will never go back. I know I still have a lot to learn, but knowing that this site has helped me get over my fear of rejection and has taught me things I never realized were so important has made me thankful I have found this site.

Quick question though, Both of the girls that my friend and I were talking to seemed to be really into me. One got real close(real close) and there was kino and chemistry was definitely there. But the other one playfully hit me a lot and there was also kino and a lot of teasing each other. What exactly was going on here?

 

[CaptainSaveAh0]

Congrats man ! Glad to hear some success stories instead of ppl coming on here and b1tching about their lives all the time.

Any kind of kino is good. I would say the girl that is hitting you lots was showing interest in you by hitting you and teasing you lots. Did you get at least one of their numbers or escalate with any one of them?

 

[TheException]

I have been afraid of something that in reality made me feel nothing at all. I didn't feel embarrassed or down, instead I was completely neutral, even felt happy and laughed it off. I FEARED SOMETHING THAT NEVER EXISTED.

Amen brother.

You now truly understand the emotion "fear". This is exactly what a lot of guys still struggle with when it comes to insecurities. Whether it be:
-A CWAF scared because his girlfriend has a "guy friend"
-nervous about letting a girlfriend go out without you because you are scared she will cheat
-fear of rejection
-girlfriend talking to other people at the bars

These are all based in UNFOUND FEAR, that their women will cheat on them.

 

[Yewki]

Before you start sucking everyone's d*ck in celebration... let's not get ahead of ourselves here. After you bang one of the girls you met (you did get a number right?), go out and repeat this process a few more times. Then come back here and pop the champagne.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Before you start sucking everyone's d*ck in celebration... let's not get ahead of ourselves here. After you bang one of the girls you met (you did get a number right?), go out and repeat this process a few more times. Then come back here and pop the champagne.

Small victories. Every journey begins with the first step....

 

[Yewki]

Small victories. Every journey begins with the first step....

And don't forget to thank everyone (including the academy) each step of the way!