I just want to crawl in a hole.....

[PokerStar]

no not the main hole we all always think about...

I had an inhouse interview today for a higher sales position.

I screwed up big time. I was telling instead of selling, my voice cracked, started to sweat, no confidence within myself.

It felt like I was the high school nerd trying to ask out the home coming queen.

I wasnt prepared, I didnt believe in myself. Im ashamed because I know I have the ability and skill set, but it fell apart when it was most needed.

BUT....


There will be a next time and when that opportunity comes around Im going to kick its ass so hard that the next person in line will not have a chinamans chance.

Now I just have to get over this feeling of failure and shame.

 

[spider_007]

It's only a faliure if you DON'T learn something from it.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Here's a good exercise to prepare for next time.

Write down everything that went down, but add what you wish had happened after each exchange.

For example:

What he said: so tell me about yourself.

What I said: oh no oh no oh oh panic panic (or whatever you actually said)

What I Wish I Would Have Said: Well, I started college studying blah blah because blah blah (here you write down a great response to the question, as you now have hindsight.

Do this for every single thing that he said, and how you responded, and how you wish you responded.

don't post it, don't just think about it, put a real pen to real paper. Take some time on this.

Then when you are done, look through all your "what I wish I would have done's" and really imagine yourself saying THAT instead of what you really said.

Do this (the imagining part) several times before the next go around.

You'll do much better.

This method also works quite well with dates and first convo's etc, but most guys are simply too goddamned lazy.