"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I just wanna die

illmatic1005

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i just wanna die...everyone who i become friends with always end up flaking on me(guy friends or girls)..some think i am annoying, some think i am too quiet/shy, some say i am too crazy/outgoing for them

wtf?..how can a person be all these at once..if ur shy u cant be outgoing

im just sick of every person (boy or girl, cousin or friend, lifelong buddy or someone i just met) flaking and whatnot...

i can get girls, do stuff with them, have fun, smart, good-looking but i never feel fulfilled in ANYTHING I do..no matter what..i just rather be dead i dont kno what to do!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There must be something thats bothering you here, any specific bad experience that you might want to let us know about in detail?

@ Luke... don't mess with the Man's son. At church they say he loves everybody.
 

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illmatic1005 said:
i just wanna die...everyone who i become friends with always end up flaking on me(guy friends or girls)..some think i am annoying, some think i am too quiet/shy, some say i am too crazy/outgoing for them

wtf?..how can a person be all these at once..if ur shy u cant be outgoing

im just sick of every person (boy or girl, cousin or friend, lifelong buddy or someone i just met) flaking and whatnot...

i can get girls, do stuff with them, have fun, smart, good-looking but i never feel fulfilled in ANYTHING I do..no matter what..i just rather be dead i dont kno what to do!
Tell them to use Head and Shoulders... barring that, the guys should get buzz cuts. When I was younger, that helped, and I haven't had any issues since.

:crackup:

Actually, sometimes it seems that way. Right now, it feels like all the women are choosing to flake out on me personally. I'm telling you, I can't get a woman to hang out as platonic friends in a group right now. And it feels like a lot of friends are doing that to me lately as well. It seems like I'm the one who calls and plans these fun things, and they don't initiate contact. But then I realize:

1) They're generally very flaky spaced out people (a lot of them)

2) It sometimes not personal at all. Sometimes it is, but not always.

3) It's not always true.

On occasion, when it's a bad day, it feels like: "Not 1 woman in the world is attracted to me" Actually, that's not true if I really think about it. There's one that finds me attractive - one of my exes... There's maybe two or three if you count some teen girls that I would never date (cause I'm no pervert). Ok, so there are people who are attracted. Well... so then I have to add in some details and caveats in there. And eventually it starts feeling silly, to have all those details in there.

It went from "No women are attracted to me..." to "Ok, well... no christian woman (who doesn't have baggage) who likes the stuff I like, between the ages of 19 and 30, who doesn't smoke or do drugs, or isn't 400 pounds likes me. Whoa is me."

"Nobody loves me." If you have responsible, decent, parents who are alive, then there's 1 or 2 people that love you. If you have a sister and or brother, and you have a decent relationship, and they're decent people, then you have several more. If you have a niece or nephew, most likely they love you. Add another few. Grandparents? Two more. Got at least one honest true, genuine best friend? Tack on one more. There could be anywhere from 1 to 1000's of people who love you (Granted, it's various types of love, but...).

It could be that.

And yes, the whole Jesus wants to be your friend thing too. But stay away from Luke, because he's probably going to be smited into next week for making a joke at the big guy's expense, and you don't need to get pulled in too.

::lol::
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well if you don't care about life anymore and you'd rather be dead then you surely don't care for peoples opinions of you. You obivously are lacking confidence and have low self esteem and care too much what people think about you so sort it. If you think you're too fat or skinny or whatever then change it and so on and so forth. Read the stuff in the bible and in the book of pook and all that to learn how to become yourself. You can do it if yyou really want to or you can just cry here and look for attention by saying you'd rather be dead. Milk the tities of life as theres plenty of milk to go around ya dig. Take you're share. You deserve it. 1.
 

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Go for it! Do it!

But be sure to join vampirefreaks.com and film yourself doing it. You might get recognized for something...
 

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lolol..i dont wanna really do it..im just wanted to show how much im sick of everyone
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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illmatic1005 said:
i just wanna die...everyone who i become friends with always end up flaking on me(guy friends or girls)..some think i am annoying, some think i am too quiet/shy, some say i am too crazy/outgoing for them

wtf?..how can a person be all these at once..if ur shy u cant be outgoing

im just sick of every person (boy or girl, cousin or friend, lifelong buddy or someone i just met) flaking and whatnot...

i can get girls, do stuff with them, have fun, smart, good-looking but i never feel fulfilled in ANYTHING I do..no matter what..i just rather be dead i dont kno what to do!
Keep trying to meet new people.

If you live in a smaller community where everyone knows everyone, move away.
 

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damn u fool, stop posting on sosuave if thats your attitude!!! go talk to your parents and get serious psychological health, aint nobody here who can relate to you WANTING to die
 

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once I said "I feel like killing myself" to a girl online (a friend)... and she told everybody and the principal and a counselor had to talk to me and I was like... damn it go away! lol I didn't mean that literally...

lesson: watch and pay attention to what you say if it's about yourself.
 

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For you dic|<heads who are telling him to kill hisself and chewing him out for feeling like this, go **** yourself. And i hope YOU die tomorrow.

Whoever said its about self esteem and confidence is right. Do some research on NLP it might help you start out on the right track.

PM anytime if you want some info on getting yourself helped out.
 

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Don't wish for death.

Just search harder and fight to find quality companions for love and friendship.

Lots of worthless SOB's roaming around these days so the search can be tough but you can't search if you're dead.

You have to put a new thought in your head for times like this.

And that thought is perhaps the problem is not you but the people you associate with.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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