Anonymous56
Don Juan
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Ok I read pook's "divine" writings. What I got most out of them, was not really anything geared towards woman. What I got out of them was that I HAVE ****ING NEEDS DAMMIT. And it is so ridiculously stupid to be afraid or scared of obtaining your natural needs in life.
Why the hell would I be afraid of calling a girl?? I realized this when procrastinating and pacing for an hour before calling a chick the other night.
Why would I be afraid of approaching a girl?? Well my personal fear in approaching would be not having much to say.
Well...you know what...why is all the burden of making that work placed on me??? There are two sides to the coin....if a conversation is not going well, a lot of it has to do with how the girl responds. And if I get shot down, I can just move on. I pretty much want to **** the **** out of 65 percent of the girls on this campus anyway. That leaves about 8 or 9 THOUSAND girls that am attracted to. IT WAS JUST ONE GIRL! OUT OF 9 THOUSAND! Think about that...
I finally started to realize this when I actually began to talk to women and get more of a "real life" feel then just trying to be a robot and applying any maneuvers given to me from this site.
I made this post because I just realized, tonight, when I started getting those RIDICULOUS thoughts again. About over analyzing everything..thinking the worst WILL happen before it even happens. They are ridiculous because they are just useless thoughts that don't help you obtain your goal.
Then I just realized that LOGIC, not EMOTION, is the key.....
Logic in that I will only use my brain to help me obtain what I want and need. It is just STUPID to use the part of the brain that injects those stupid thoughts of "self doubt" and "fear". Unfortunately, these emotional thoughts come as a natural process to many and cannot really be controlled.
The trick, as I finally have come to realize, is to acknowledge these thoughts. Acknowledge that it is just natural and you cannot control it. Acknowledge that you cannot control these thoughts, then simply use basic logic to determine the "worst" and "best" case scenario.
As a tip to people that are like me....you shouldn't patrol the board day and night looking for a cure. The truth is, negative thoughts like this come naturally, you just need to realize how to handle them because sadly, there isn't really a cure. The sooner you realize that these thoughts are absurd, the sooner you will get to your goal. Ever notice how after you make an approach or make that phone call, that it feels great afterwards even if you got rejected or it didn't go well?
The only way to do this is to get out there and get experience in situations that bring upon those feelings.
Ok guys just thought id share what I realized as I probably wont be coming here too much anymore. good luck..and merry xmas
Why the hell would I be afraid of calling a girl?? I realized this when procrastinating and pacing for an hour before calling a chick the other night.
Why would I be afraid of approaching a girl?? Well my personal fear in approaching would be not having much to say.
Well...you know what...why is all the burden of making that work placed on me??? There are two sides to the coin....if a conversation is not going well, a lot of it has to do with how the girl responds. And if I get shot down, I can just move on. I pretty much want to **** the **** out of 65 percent of the girls on this campus anyway. That leaves about 8 or 9 THOUSAND girls that am attracted to. IT WAS JUST ONE GIRL! OUT OF 9 THOUSAND! Think about that...
I finally started to realize this when I actually began to talk to women and get more of a "real life" feel then just trying to be a robot and applying any maneuvers given to me from this site.
I made this post because I just realized, tonight, when I started getting those RIDICULOUS thoughts again. About over analyzing everything..thinking the worst WILL happen before it even happens. They are ridiculous because they are just useless thoughts that don't help you obtain your goal.
Then I just realized that LOGIC, not EMOTION, is the key.....
Logic in that I will only use my brain to help me obtain what I want and need. It is just STUPID to use the part of the brain that injects those stupid thoughts of "self doubt" and "fear". Unfortunately, these emotional thoughts come as a natural process to many and cannot really be controlled.
The trick, as I finally have come to realize, is to acknowledge these thoughts. Acknowledge that it is just natural and you cannot control it. Acknowledge that you cannot control these thoughts, then simply use basic logic to determine the "worst" and "best" case scenario.
As a tip to people that are like me....you shouldn't patrol the board day and night looking for a cure. The truth is, negative thoughts like this come naturally, you just need to realize how to handle them because sadly, there isn't really a cure. The sooner you realize that these thoughts are absurd, the sooner you will get to your goal. Ever notice how after you make an approach or make that phone call, that it feels great afterwards even if you got rejected or it didn't go well?
The only way to do this is to get out there and get experience in situations that bring upon those feelings.
Ok guys just thought id share what I realized as I probably wont be coming here too much anymore. good luck..and merry xmas
. Carry on, the Don Juan!