"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I Just Read Some Mystery Method

ROOKIE OF THE YEAR

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Can anywho who read this book tell me the 411 in brief and easy to understand descriptions?
Cuz that book was way too tedious. Also, what is up with all those pictures, it's like a dam math book. I tried to kept awake once in awhile, but it ain't easy task.
Mahalo
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yes, this e-book has a ton of info. in it. when you read through it, try to grasp the main ideas of each phase. have a thorough understanding of that first. this info. for me was sufficient already. then browse through it a second time and pick up all the other info.
 

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It's not really that long of a read, but treat it more like a technical reference manual.

It breaks the seduction process down into phases: Attact/Comfort/Seduce and then breaks each stage down into sub stages like: Open, show value, girl shows interest, you show interest -> comfort stage.

The real benefit I see from it is reviewing it after a night out in a club or doing street approaches. You can review each interaction you had and see which phase you got stuck at, then look at the examples of how to get past it.

Real high overview: Open a girl, demonstrate value while acting disinterested; Once she shows interest, reward it and build an emotional connection with her. Once emotional connection is established, isolate her and get her into sexual state, back to your place.

I wouldn't recommend just reading it front to back like a book though. Read Stage 1 stuff, go practice. Read stage 2, go practice.
 

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ROOKIE OF THE YEAR said:
Can anywho who read this book tell me the 411 in brief and easy to understand descriptions?
Cuz that book was way too tedious. Also, what is up with all those pictures, it's like a dam math book. I tried to kept awake once in awhile, but it ain't easy task.
Mahalo
You're not missing anything, trust me. You're better off skipping the Mystery phase of your dating life altogther; otherwise you're going to have to spend another year 'unlearning' it before you're able to cultivate a healthy relationship.
 

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xblitz44x said:
You're not missing anything, trust me. You're better off skipping the Mystery phase of your dating life altogther; otherwise you're going to have to spend another year 'unlearning' it before you're able to cultivate a healthy relationship.
Good point you made there. Mystery Method serves well for ONS and STRs but not healthy for long-term relationship. Think about it, you're dropping false-time restraints, opinion openers, kino congruence tests, negs. Many in the community believe that the M3 model can be balanced out with Juggler's rapport building techniques in the comfort phase, but I haven't field tested this enough to add my $.02.

It's a non-commital game. You attract enough to seduce and then game other targets. Almost skip the # close and go into full-close after a time bounce to get pizza after the club, then seduction location: her place.

The begining is really inspirational however to get you out of your head and go sarging. Example: how many average days a person lives in a life (in terms of how many days you have left!). Survive and Replicate value shows why AFC nice guys can't hook up and they have to move on to build more alpha traits -- not really far off from becoming a Don Juan to be successful with more ladies. I think there are a few NLP patterns in here as well that he may have borrowed from Ross Jeffries, but don't pin me on that.

Bar and club dynamics: How to approach a mixed set with an opener, disarm the obstacle: (male, war pig, UG, CB) whatever, neg the target, isolate, kino, bounce.

Bottom line: Not healthy for LTRs since you're totally in the player mode.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"The begining is really inspirational however to get you out of your head and go sarging.

This is the key and entire reason the program is 'successful' at all.

Johnny is shy around girls. He doesn't like to approach because he's afraid of getting shot down. He has no confidence or social skills. Johnny then finds Mystery's Method. After reading, he puts CONFIDENCE in the material and it inspires him to get off of his ass and talk to girls. Next thing you know, Johnny is getting laid. He attributes his success to Mystery's Method.

In reality, MM was successful for motivating him to get off of his asss and do something. If Johnny had the same confidence in himself that he had in MM, the relationships he had with women would have be real. But as it stands he'll have to still go and take care of his own securities before he'll truly be able to be successful.
 
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