I had an epiphany as I was falling asleep.
I've been freaking miserable the past few weeks down on my luck with the opposite sex. I've been trying to readjust back to single life after an extremely volatile 1-year relationship. And finally tonight....it hit me.
Been so focused on the endgame (getting laid)....that I forgot the reason why I became single in the first place. To enjoy life without being tied down. And here I am, so desperate to get back in the very position I tried to get out of last year.
I just need to enjoy life, try new places, take up new hobbies, experience the world. Just live a carefree life, free of constantly obsessing over goddamned pvssy. Sex should be the sizzle, not the steak.
I've long viewed dating as a chore and hassle. But only because i was so obsessed with getting laid that I forgot that dating should be about about having fun experiences and trying new things with women. Sex should not be the singular focus. Otherwise, you're definition of a successful dating life will hinge solely on whether you "score" or not.
The caveat is that I need to accept the fact that I must put myself out there. Talk to girls, and KNOW that, some of them (heck most of them) I wont end up with for whatever reason. The most important thing that is harped on here is to SCREEN, SCREEN, SCREEN them. Make them qualify themselves as fun-loving carefree individuals. If she's an agenda-seeking leech then I thank my lucky stars it didn't work out. I just keep it moving and seek out new fun experiences with women who I will click with.
I know this is coming off as talking to myself. But I wanted to share with you guys. I don't claim to have all the answers and for me this area of my life is always a learning process.
Hopefully with my new mindset, i'll stop moping around, be back on track and living life to the fullest.
I've been freaking miserable the past few weeks down on my luck with the opposite sex. I've been trying to readjust back to single life after an extremely volatile 1-year relationship. And finally tonight....it hit me.
Been so focused on the endgame (getting laid)....that I forgot the reason why I became single in the first place. To enjoy life without being tied down. And here I am, so desperate to get back in the very position I tried to get out of last year.
I just need to enjoy life, try new places, take up new hobbies, experience the world. Just live a carefree life, free of constantly obsessing over goddamned pvssy. Sex should be the sizzle, not the steak.
I've long viewed dating as a chore and hassle. But only because i was so obsessed with getting laid that I forgot that dating should be about about having fun experiences and trying new things with women. Sex should not be the singular focus. Otherwise, you're definition of a successful dating life will hinge solely on whether you "score" or not.
The caveat is that I need to accept the fact that I must put myself out there. Talk to girls, and KNOW that, some of them (heck most of them) I wont end up with for whatever reason. The most important thing that is harped on here is to SCREEN, SCREEN, SCREEN them. Make them qualify themselves as fun-loving carefree individuals. If she's an agenda-seeking leech then I thank my lucky stars it didn't work out. I just keep it moving and seek out new fun experiences with women who I will click with.
I know this is coming off as talking to myself. But I wanted to share with you guys. I don't claim to have all the answers and for me this area of my life is always a learning process.
Hopefully with my new mindset, i'll stop moping around, be back on track and living life to the fullest.
