"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i just had an epiphany

Packers2010

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i was talking to my friend about how i ****ed everything up and then it came to me. like the blinding like on the road to damaskus. it hit me like a freight train. What I was doing wrong and why.

i know this is the early stages. I know i have much more work to be done. This is defiantly the right step.

Here are some things I learned.

Life is complicated if you make it.


don't try and change the pass, live the present and change the future.

roll the dice.

if she doesn’t want to talk that’s cool too.

she will let you know if she wants to do things.

Don't over think it.

It’s never over unless I say it is

doing get in that mood

(this is more a personal reminder to me to stop getting in bad moods. like i have been of late.)

i feel like a changed man. Which is what I wanted to do. and yes i know this is ONLY the FIRST step in a long road. At least now I know I am on the right road and not on the wrong one.

If anyone wants to and some more. Feel free
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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that's nice that you had an epiphany, but it's all a bunch of useless words unless you do something about it.
 

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terran2k said:
that's nice that you had an epiphany, but it's all a bunch of useless words unless you do something about it.
why yes. i have to work now. but later i will be able to make a few moves.

this in't talk. this is war!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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