I just got dumped...hooray!

[FutureSpartan]

Haha...I figured throw in a breakup story that was not so gloomy and sad.

Fact is, we had dated for a year and things were going great up until the 8 month mark.

I started getting a little AFC and jealous when I could not see her often because of my accounting internship. Add that to the fact that she began b*tching me out for the smallest little things. Things only got worse as I got the feeling that she was resenting me for not being the "perfect man" It culiminated in her calling me and telling that she could not stand me anymore and that she just wants to be single.

Yeah I was a little upset and I tried reasoning over the phone. But I just gave up and realized that deep down, I sort of wanted the same thing as well. So we said our goodbyes last week and I have not looked back since.

I loved her, always treated her well despite her many shortcomings, made a huge time and money investment in her, never cheated....the relationship was for her benefit.

Its her loss that I am out of her life...and frankly I feel so much more free being single again. Kind of funny how well I am taking it seeing as it was my first relationship and steady lay.

SoSuave helped me keep my emotional investment to a minimum. I knew that I was not going to marry this girl so it would have been ridiculous to get all depressed and sad over something that was going to end eventually.

Glad to be back in the game fellas!

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Hey, no point of being with a girl that doesnt make you happy. From this experience you hopefully learned somethings about yourself and relationships to help improve yourself for what happens next.

Congradulations and enjoy life.

 

[Scribbler]

Haha...I figured throw in a breakup story that was not so gloomy and sad.

Fact is, we had dated for a year and things were going great up until the 8 month mark.

I started getting a little AFC and jealous when I could not see her often because of my accounting internship. Add that to the fact that she began b*tching me out for the smallest little things. Things only got worse as I got the feeling that she was resenting me for not being the "perfect man" It culiminated in her calling me and telling that she could not stand me anymore and that she just wants to be single.

Yeah I was a little upset and I tried reasoning over the phone. But I just gave up and realized that deep down, I sort of wanted the same thing as well. So we said our goodbyes last week and I have not looked back since.

I loved her, always treated her well despite her many shortcomings, made a huge time and money investment in her, never cheated....the relationship was for her benefit.

Its her loss that I am out of her life...and frankly I feel so much more free being single again. Kind of funny how well I am taking it seeing as it was my first relationship and steady lay.

SoSuave helped me keep my emotional investment to a minimum. I knew that I was not going to marry this girl so it would have been ridiculous to get all depressed and sad over something that was going to end eventually.

Glad to be back in the game fellas!

You seem to be handling yourself well. Good job. I came to the same realization after my divorce. A lot of the hurt went away when I realized I'd wanted a divorce for a long time...

Just gotta know what you want, and then do it.

Welcome back.

 

[schttrj]

futurespartan, i may be wrong but i'd like to give you an advice that you might want to consider with.

always be honest with yourself, don't succumb under societal or peer pressure.

and one more ques that stroke me, why would a man, if he really didn't cared about a breakup, would post a whole complete thread on it?

are u sure, at some hidden place inside your heart, you are still not pining over her?

 

[46and2aheadofme]

futurespartan, i may be wrong but i'd like to give you an advice that you might want to consider with.

always be honest with yourself, don't succumb under societal or peer pressure.

and one more ques that stroke me, why would a man, if he really didn't cared about a breakup, would post a whole complete thread on it?

are u sure, at some hidden place inside your heart, you are still not pining over her?

Seems to me like it was more of an "I'm Back" sorta deal more than it is a reach out to anonymous strangers for comfort over a break up.

I've seen people post threads about petty sh1t that they cared a lot about. Why can't the opposite be true?

Don't kick the man off of his stool....

 

[chuchu]

You are not back in the game yet, because I don't see no player here. Hit the field and start enjoying the benefit of a DJ.

Everyone loses in a breakup, you just have to accept your responsibility, learn from your mistakes, wish the best for her and then move on to better things in life.

CC

 

[Alle_Gory]

High five!

 

[scrouds]

There's something enormous to be said about a positive attitude!

 

[FutureSpartan]

Seems to me like it was more of an "I'm Back" sorta deal more than it is a reach out to anonymous strangers for comfort over a break up.

I've seen people post threads about petty sh1t that they cared a lot about. Why can't the opposite be true?

Don't kick the man off of his stool....

Thank you! Go look at every other breakup thread if you want a good sob story.

And I have been back in the game with full force. Already approached 8 girls.

 

[RandallLambert]

"I just got dumped...hooray! Haha...I figured throw in a breakup story that was not so gloomy and sad. "

Nothing even remotely funny here son. YOU got DUMPED. If the relationship wasn't working why weren't you man enough to call time on it? Then you write WHOLE post about it with the 'hooray!' and 'haha'. If you weren't going to marry her, you would have been out there dating other chicks at the same time, then you come here and say you're a back-in-the-game DJ.

I say cop-out. Next time man up and end it first, there's nothing cool about getting dumped son.

 

[Daydream Engineer]

Good job! But next time end it first, but i love your attitude and positivity. I hope you have learned something from this experience.

 

[FutureSpartan]

"I just got dumped...hooray! Haha...I figured throw in a breakup story that was not so gloomy and sad. "

Nothing even remotely funny here son. YOU got DUMPED. If the relationship wasn't working why weren't you man enough to call time on it? Then you write WHOLE post about it with the 'hooray!' and 'haha'. If you weren't going to marry her, you would have been out there dating other chicks at the same time, then you come here and say you're a back-in-the-game DJ.

I say cop-out. Next time man up and end it first, there's nothing cool about getting dumped son.

Well I won't lie...a part of me liked the comfort and steady sex that came with a relationship...so until things were starting to go sour I figured "eh why not"

I thought we could work out our problems and make things good again...so while I had my doubts I still wanted to be with her. Then after she dumped me, I looked back at all her issues, baggage, and shortcomings...from my newfound perspective, and just sighed a breath of relief!

So what if I got dumped? Is your ego that fragile you HAVE to dump her first? I got what I wanted from the relationship....we both had a mutual desire to end it. She ended it and I was cool with it.

I could really care less about being seen as "cool." Man-up and stop the little ego games....son.

 

[FutureSpartan]

And the only reason I felt like posting this b/c I figured the forum was getting riddled with way to many depressing break up posts and my experience would help some of the other newly single guys see that one can look at it from a more positive uplifting perspective and not something to anguish about.

 

[Thatfeel21]

I agree with Fut.Spartan. People need to stop acting like he's less of a man because he got dumped first. Damn. I wonder what world you people live in sometimes...