"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just don't know when and how to approach her...

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Well, I'm new to this forum, and I have a really really awkward problem. There's this girl in my school that I really want to get to know. Shes a year younger then me (Shes in gr10.. making me in gr 11) and shes very pretty and seems like a cool person. I noticed her ever since school began "sept. 08 i think.. "Well i've had an interest in her ever since . Its now about 5 months and I still haven't approached her.
About 3 months ago I moved lockers beside my friend and this locker is sortve nearby her's. Well, I've been seeing her through the halls everyday and we give eachother alot of random eye contact. I don't know whether she feels the same way about me and is waiting for me to approach her or not. MAN, when you guys say just approach her, it doesnt seem that easy :(.. I don;t know how I should approach her. Can you guys please give me some good advice? I just wanna get it over with and break the ice.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Eh... wellI agree with everything soniq said except for asking what shes doing this weekend right after saying hey

Youve never spoken to her before and your gnna go right up to her and be like so what are you doing this weekend?

Instead how about asking her name or something like that
 

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Yeah pass on asking what she is doing this weekend that is little too much too soon. I would just ask her something like "Why do I always see you by yourself, where are you friends? Are you a loner, or something?"
 

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if u see her, look her in the eye, and HOLD IT! hold her eye contact, and just say "hey" and give her a smile. then head over and vibe with her (make conversation), and maybe do it 2 or 3 more times, and then just be like "yo gimme ur #, and we'll see if we can work somethin out this weekend" or whenever you're free
 

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"Why do I always see you by yourself, where are you friends? Are you a loner, or something?"
Just make sure she does have friends, or you'll automatically get yourself into the 'creep' book.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I didnt read your post but im pretty sure i got this...say hi, ask her about her weekend and talk about that. Youre gonna do it tomorrow. Youre welcome.
 

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Damnit, She wasnt even at school today. I was so ready to say hi to her today and ask about her weekend. Well, Do you guys have any examples of things to talk about while having a convo with a complete stranger you don;t know?
 

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Originally posted by fredy
Damnit, She wasnt even at school today. I was so ready to say hi to her today and ask about her weekend. Well, Do you guys have any examples of things to talk about while having a convo with a complete stranger you don;t know?
When youre ready is usually the time when you dont even get a chance, which is why you should be prepared all the time. Talk to her about anything, music, school, jobs, what she does for fun. All you have to do is listen; conversations are like trees, they all have branches that have branches.
 

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Originally posted by cubed
Just make sure she does have friends, or you'll automatically get yourself into the 'creep' book.
If she doesn't have any friends, she probably will be so greatful that someone as cool as you are talking to her. And if she truely doesn't have friends, she probably is pretty creepy and you won't be interested in her.
 

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The key to the approach for you is not only just going up and saying Hi is what your going to say after. In since you are going to be at school to need to pick a time where there isn't a long amount of time. Basically when you approach obviously be confident and don't act like you've never done it before. Sometimes when your at school you don't have to get caught up in routines. Just play off what she says. Though girls talk to guy they aren't going to expect you coming up to them so don't worry about sounding dumb talking to her. Most times a dumb comment will make her laugh depending how you say it.

Just say Hi:

You: Hi, my name is (soandso) whats ur name
Her: Oh hey my name is (soandso)

Know your personality and build off of it. Say things depending on what you know about her. Questions that don't make her feel akward.

-Master

p.s. if you work yourself up all day about wat your going to say its going to be harder and harder for your approach. just try to be smooth and like your having a great day so that you send off a good vibe.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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