I just can't ring her!

[valen]

Lads the topic says it all!
I can't get the confidence to ring a total abbe that i have pulled before!. I only got her numebr the other nite and I just cant get the confidence to call her!, afraid of rejection. its killing me!!!
The wee voice in my head beats me every time!.
Its easy to say go for it!, but its a lot harder to actually do it!

what the frig is going on am I bloody gay!????

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Go wank of to calm down. Then do some relaxation/Meditation and say to yourself, it's just another h0e, a good friend and call her.

 

[xblitz44x]

Think of it this way...

This is an obstacle. I sincerely believe that every single thing we are forced to do in this world, is designed for a reason. The more difficult the situation, the more valueable the lesson. In this case, you're scared to do something as simple as calling a girl. A conversation. Something that is happening RIGHT NOW, a billion times. You've talked on the phone with friends before. It's the same thing. You're just talking to a person and getting to know them. That's IT. Forget the games, and the rules and the tactics. Relax.

If you don't face this down, right now, it will happen again, and again, until you've got what you needed out of this. Your fear demon will always be behind you, scaring you away from the things you want most. You can't let him win. See this for what it is, nothing more than chatting to a friend. Conquer it.

These obstacles aren't designed to bring us down, they are designed to reveal to us strength that we never knew we had. And we can't discover this strength until we're compelled into a situation that requires it.

 

[jetli]

ok, here is what you do,ush in the number and hit the green button, wait until she answers and say: hi

I am curious how you got the nerve to ask her for her number or did she give it to you . What did she say when you gave it to her. Calling a girl is not so hard. You can tell by her voice if she is happy that you are calling or not. It's a lot easier thant talking to her face to face because you don't have to look her in the eyes.

You can also prepair for what you wanna ask her! I assume you wanna see her again. As you may already know you should not talk to her for an hour. keep it short, be funny, be interested, be interesting, etc.

Good luck, so what if she blows you off etc.

 

[NatureGuy]

This is a classic type of anxiety that applies
to alot of situations. Can't do it now? No
problem, forget about it for a few days, do
other things. At some point you'll feel OK,
and when you do, call. After all, it's really
not a big deal, it's just your current
over focusing on it that's the problem.

 

[Monkey]

With the first number I ever got from a girl I spent about 7 hours literally pacing up and down, picking up the phone, dialing in half the number then hanging up, then going for a pep talk to myself, then trying again, over and over. Fricken hilarious thinking about it now.

Finally got the courage and everything went fine. The thought of talking to a girl was a billion times worse than the reality. Went out with this girl for a few months and we had a great time.

Just think about what you could be missing out on by not calling her.

 

[On-top]

Anxiety. Call your mom. Call your grandma and talk for 15 min. Call somebody very non-threatening and just talk about something. They'll appreciated it. Then when you hang up, don't put the phone down...just dial her number and talk for 5-10 minutes and setup your date or whatever you're trying to accomplish. Then hang up, and go about your day.

Try it. If you can't call someone else either, you are probably afraid of the phone and should seek help.

 

[fukkerindaface]

fukkerindaface

he he

 

[Jeremymichael]

just think your phoning bozo the clown!