"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I just can't get hard to modern porn compared to the old stuff.

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That's a typical experience. Porn use (as with any other supranormal stimuli, such as cocaine) desensitizes and habituates you to the activity. That's why people develop increasingly bizarre fetishes, because they need to escalate their tastes over time since vanilla stuff no longer cuts it. Personally, I reached a tipping point where I stopped escalating my tastes and it's been a very slow burn process where 99.99% of it is just awful or boring to me now, and I'm hoping I'll genuinely lose interest in ever viewing it again. That said, the longer you go without it the more exciting it becomes...


You folks need to put a stop to that habit. I mean it.
It's not a habit it's an addiction for majority of men. Btw, before anyone says it, frequency of use is not a reliable measurement to the severity of an addiction.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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That's a typical experience. Porn use (as with any other supranormal stimuli, such as cocaine) desensitizes and habituates you to the activity. That's why people develop increasingly bizarre fetishes, because they need to escalate their tastes over time since vanilla stuff no longer cuts it. Personally, I reached a tipping point where I stopped escalating my tastes and it's been a very slow burn process where 99.99% of it is just awful or boring to me now, and I'm hoping I'll genuinely lose interest in ever viewing it again. That said, the longer you go without it the more exciting it becomes...




It's not a habit it's an addiction for majority of men. Btw, before anyone says it, frequency of use is not a reliable measurement to the severity of an addiction.
I think porn is just a sub catagory of sex. Sex is an addiction that is programmed in us so we have a reason to live. There are people who take psychedelics for personal growth. To some degree it may be done with porn too. It is a way to know oneself better. It is a bit like people who want to get rich even if they think maybe it should not be a big deal. After they become it may be easier to give up on being rich.

Another example at the beginning one wants to own a car because it is extremely exciting for various reasons but after awhile it may become a burden and one gives up on cars or owns a very basic one. That could happen with porn too.
 

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I think porn is just a sub catagory of sex. Sex is an addiction that is programmed in us so we have a reason to live. There are people who take psychedelics for personal growth. To some degree it may be done with porn too. It is a way to know oneself better. It is a bit like people who want to get rich even if they think maybe it should not be a big deal. After they become it may be easier to give up on being rich.

Another example at the beginning one wants to own a car because it is extremely exciting for various reasons but after awhile it may become a burden and one gives up on cars or owns a very basic one. That could happen with porn too.
Porn is not sex. Your brain thinks it is, but it's not. Porn simply hijacks your innate dopaminergic sexual circuitry.

Porn does not make you a better person or get to "know yourself"; it's a poison. I will grant that OLD porn may apply to what you're saying, but modern internet porn is an entirely different beast because it provides free and instant access to virtually unlimited novelty, anytime anywhere. There is nothing else that can come close to that, besides other electronic vices like social media.
 

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I think porn is just a sub catagory of sex. Sex is an addiction that is programmed in us so we have a reason to live. There are people who take psychedelics for personal growth. To some degree it may be done with porn too. It is a way to know oneself better. It is a bit like people who want to get rich even if they think maybe it should not be a big deal. After they become it may be easier to give up on being rich.

Another example at the beginning one wants to own a car because it is extremely exciting for various reasons but after awhile it may become a burden and one gives up on cars or owns a very basic one. That could happen with porn too.
Agreed, but with just OnlyFans content, not regular modern porn.
 

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Porn is not sex. Your brain thinks it is, but it's not. Porn simply hijacks your innate dopaminergic sexual circuitry.

Porn does not make you a better person or get to "know yourself"; it's a poison. I will grant that OLD porn may apply to what you're saying, but modern internet porn is an entirely different beast because it provides free and instant access to virtually unlimited novelty, anytime anywhere. There is nothing else that can come close to that, besides other electronic vices like social media.
Old porn (John Holmes style) had an actual story. Modern porn is just sex. I prefer a story.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Porn is not sex. Your brain thinks it is, but it's not. Porn simply hijacks your innate dopaminergic sexual circuitry.

Porn does not make you a better person or get to "know yourself"; it's a poison. I will grant that OLD porn may apply to what you're saying, but modern internet porn is an entirely different beast because it provides free and instant access to virtually unlimited novelty, anytime anywhere. There is nothing else that can come close to that, besides other electronic vices like social media.
I would like to say it is even better than sex. Back in the time I guess sex was garbage like most things in the past.

I would also like to say porn is what books are in relation to reality
 

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Old porn (John Holmes style) had an actual story. Modern porn is just sex. I prefer a story.
Maybe except to Japanese porn. I like to think they still have stories. Additionally you can include hentai.
 
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