"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I just cant Ex my Ex

DonAlan456

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Ok So the whole reason i came to this site was because of a girl i used to know. Now me and this girl were really close we were close friends for a while and eventually we went out. However, we did not make the great couple and we fought almost every night. One day i decided it was enough so i dumped her. I then made a huge mistake and asked her back out and then when she said no i went crazy over her and obsesed. needless to say its 3 months later and altho she thinks im over her and im dating other girls i cant get over her. How do i get her back
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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oakraiderz2

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You dont. It wont work. Stop trying. Move on. Thanks. Toodles.
 

Pantalones

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Finding something to occupy yourself in your spare time is crucial. It'll help you get your mind off of her, and show her that you have a life.

3 months have passed, buddy. Don't waste any more time on this girl.
 

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I duno if everything ive learned from this website is true, and it works there has got to be a way
 

Skilla_Staz

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The one thing I preach when trying to get your ex back, is to treat her exactly like you did in the first place. So many guys start getting a lovey dovey and "I miss you" and stuff, but that's not the way to go. Treat her as if you just met her and shes a new target.

My ex broke up with me recently, about 2 months ago or so. She ended up calling a few days later, we talked, I ended the conversation during a high note. One point for me. A lot of the time I was busy, so when she would call I'd talk for a bit then have to go. She would IM me occasionally, quick conversations, I'd be on my way to go somewhere. She knew that I was hanging out with other girls. She knew that things were happening. I never once told her that I missed her, never once mentioned getting back with her, never once mentioned that we even went out.

Fast forward to last Saturday. She calls, asks to hang out the next day. I tell her I'm working then. She shows up at work. We chat for a little bit, a little kino. She calls me that night to tell me she broke up with her boyfriend. I didn't make a big deal out of it. We hung out the next night, had a friggin' blast at this game place. Bam. Just like that she was mine. She's now calling me frequently. Drives all the way out to my place since I don't drive. Offers to pick me up. Callin' me baby, hun, all that stuff, talking about how shes going to whoop this girl at my work because girls shouldn't "mess with the guy she likes". What did I do to get her back? Same thing I did to get her in the first place. However, she's going to have to work a little bit harder for a second shot. I just haven't let her know that yet ;)

Thats the key, my friend. There is no "secret ex-retreival" formula. It's the SAME thing as you do to a girl in the first place. Never change your MO. Granted, with LTR theres a few more 'tricks' that need to be used, but nevermind those at this moment.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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toddC

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Ok, I went through almost the exact same thing...I went out with a girl, we broke up, and I obsessed over her. Now she as well thought I was over her, but I wasn't. Now I ended up making out with her again but we never went out again...In your case..I would just realize...Hey its HER loss, not yours. Your the prize, not her. And if she has ANY feelings for you, when she realizes how much of a better time your having with other girls and what not, she'll start to call YOU and start obsessing over YOU. There plenty of other girls in the world, NEXT her.
 

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To beat a dead horse, the key is to not make a big deal about anything. She's just another girl to you. You may think you're head over heels for her, but you're not. Shes just another girl at this moment. The SECOND you two split, she became HB# to you. Now, if you so choose, she's another close waiting to happen.
 
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