I just asked my "Friend" out

[LuisGarcia10]

LMFAO.

What a *****.

She'll soon change her mind when she see's you with other girls.

In my opinion that was an attempt to get you wanting her even more, it wouldn't surprise me if she's really flirty with you next time the pair of you meet.

I could obviously be wrong, but I've a feeling that's what she's doing.

I personally think that if she liked you as a freind but nothing more then she'd tell you that, as apose to just going off leaving you wondering.

 

[MindOverMatter]

girl's screename: i might go saturday

I'd e-mail her and say "hey, just got your aim message, wish you spoke up sooner, i assumed you weren't interested and made plans with someone else. anyway, have a good night, i'll give you a call sometime" and then not call her.

what the f*ck is that all about? MIGHT GO? might bless you with her f'in presence? then logging off? it's obvious that she thinks you're a sucker that will wait around on her. i'd change how i handled things if i were you.

 

[skeeloo]

she's joggling with your balls mate.

 

[Baruch]

haha. yea i figured it was some grade school bs.

ill just let it pass this time. i thought maybe i should give her a call to get a final yes or no, but after reading your opinions I think it is better for me to just let it pass and go there and meet other women.

 

[Baruch]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
I'd e-mail her and say "hey, just got your aim message, wish you spoke up sooner, i assumed you weren't interested and made plans with someone else. anyway, have a good night, i'll give you a call sometime" and then not call her.

what the f*ck is that all about? MIGHT GO? might bless you with her f'in presence? then logging off? it's obvious that she thinks you're a sucker that will wait around on her. i'd change how i handled things if i were you.

The thing is I dont have plans with anyone else, and there is only one person I know would go with me...she isnt attractive though and she has been wanting to sex me as longest I know her.

Lying isnt an option since her older brother will be at that party as well.

 

[Desdinova]

The thing is I dont have plans with anyone else, and there is only one person I know would go with me...she isnt attractive though and she has been wanting to sex me as longest I know her.

Lying isnt an option since her older brother will be at that party as well.

So don't lie. Tell her that she missed out and take the ugly bytch with you. It's called "Social Proof". Her brother will tell her that you showed up with another chick. This will display your value to her and her interest level may go up.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

some of you guys sounds extremely misogynistic... lets recap the situation shall we:
1) She shows interest
2) You b!tch out cuz of her parents
3) She acts b!itchy to get attention and you don't give it to her
4) She finally moves on
5) You ask her to drop everything and go to a party with u
6) You're upset because she is unsure

 

[Baruch]

Originally posted by Desdinova
So don't lie. Tell her that she missed out and take the ugly bytch with you. It's called "Social Proof". Her brother will tell her that you showed up with another chick. This will display your value to her and her interest level may go up.

I thought social proof had to be hot? :\

But I did take your advice and called her up. She sounded like she jumped out of her sit with joy because I know she likes me more than a friend. I clearly told her that I am going there to meet other women and I am only taking her as a friend. She procceeded to ask me if there are gonna be single guys, I said I'll introduce her to my soccer teammates and she sounded happy with that, although I still think she got her hopes up about me.

1) She shows interest
2) You b!tch out cuz of her parents
3) She acts b!itchy to get attention and you don't give it to her
4) She finally moves on
5) You ask her to drop everything and go to a party with u
6) You're upset because she is unsure

1. Yea she did
2. True
3. If she acts *****y and tries to look down upon me as a chump, giving her more attention would be even more chumpish
4. I dont think she completly moved on. I tell you why, she will talk about how she likes this or that guy (to make me jealous), she acts kind of shy at times around me when I see her, but after a few drinks she talks more and wants to dance.
5. I told her that I was going to this party and she should come with me becasue it will be fun event.
6. I am far from upset, I actually feel a relief now that I have asked her out. She clearly knows my intentions, the ball is in her court now and I've done my share. If she decided no to pursue anything beyond friendship, its fine with me, I wont be heartbroken even though I would like her more than a friend. If she decided she wants something more, good for me, I'll have a chance to be her first ever boyfriend.

 

[Freeman]

crazy chick MAn

Listen to Royal Elite Baruch he knows what he's talking about. Let her feel the sting of mindgames!

 

[Baruch]

ok, im nexting her.

I get an email back from her, she replies with is she has to be 21 to go and that she wants to go with her friend Michelle.

Later tonight i log online and she asked me to see her email, i replied that she may not be able to go because you have to be on the list to get in.

then we proceed talking about how she is getting a fake ID and I wanted her to hook me up since its free...somehow this led talking about her new female friend that is hooking her up with it and some "mexican dream" which turns out to be a guy she likes.

So she is a lost cause.

 

[Baruch]

we ended up talking last night, i didnt really initiate it and for the first time she actually seemed keen on talking to me online, she is more responsive in person than she is on AIM, but last night she really seemed eager and giddy to talk to me. When I didnt talk, after a while she would come up with something to talk about, which she never done before.

Anyways, see how she is in person whenever i see her.


I just wanted to post a part of our convo last night.



We were talking about how much it costs to go to the place, which is more the 30$:

me: people that sign up have to pay for themselves, not the person you bring though
girl: oh hmmm
me: i invited ya, but you rejected me offer
me: your loss
me: haha i said i don't know
girl: that wasn't a complete rejection
me: it was though
me: ...incomplete
girl: lol

She kept on bringing up the eventand talking about wanting to go:

me: im sure you could go
me: if you wanted to spend 40 shekels
her: haha yeah right
me: tough luck
me: next time dont be so indecisive when some guy asks ya out
girl: yeah ok
me: what?
girl: i didn't know what was going on saturday
girl: i didn't say yes and i didn't say no
me: lol and then you message me today and log off , i thought it was quite funny
me: if i get "i dunno" its a no for me and most other guys
girl: haha well then i guess that sucks for the guys
girl: bc when i mean i dunno i really don't know
girl: lol
me: if a girl says, "well let me check my bizzle schedule and ill get ta ya" thats diffrent
me: one day some guy will propose to you to marry him
me: and youll go " i dont know"
girl: hahahahahahahahaha
girl: no comment lol

Anyways, she kept bringing up the party and wanting to go but the cost of it was to high for her. Somewhere before all that she mentions me how her new girlfriend is supposed to hook her up with a fake ID and her "mexican jewish dream" which I reply to with "Is that a new name for Peyote?" She procceeds telling me its a human being. Maybe she was trying to make me jealous or maybe she didn't.

For fun sakes, I posted this issue on a rating site forum to get a female perspective, they all dissed me for being an insesitive jerk lol! "You ask her to go, she wasnt sure and you go right ahead and ask someone else out to come with you while she is still undecided..." Typical female bs. I said I was going to be a doormat and wait around, and some guy starts taking the girls side and telling me that I did this and that, so I abandoned the the thread.

 

[Desdinova]

Why did you rub it in? You sounded like a vengeful a55hole. You made yourself look incredibly insecure by trying to make her feel like 5hit for being indecisive.

The point of what you were doing is to make you look valuable and being a challenge. Never discuss what you've done or what you're doing with a woman you're trying to attract.

You'd do well to go over the DJ Bible.

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by Baruch
For fun sakes, I posted this issue on a rating site forum to get a female perspective, they all dissed me for being an insesitive jerk lol! "You ask her to go, she wasnt sure and you go right ahead and ask someone else out to come with you while she is still undecided..." Typical female bs. I said I was going to be a doormat and wait around, and some guy starts taking the girls side and telling me that I did this and that, so I abandoned the the thread.

This is why my pholoshophy is I dont give a sh#t. I'm going to do me, if not I will be at the mercy of an undecided, moody, cant commit chick. Never happen, so I just do me.

I refuse to waste my energy trying to figure out what is going on inside some chick's dome. It's my way or the highway.

 

[Desdinova]

Well, hopefully he's learning from the mistakes he's making. It'll prepare him much better for the next chick.

 

[Baruch]

Originally posted by Desdinova
Why did you rub it in? You sounded like a vengeful a55hole. You made yourself look incredibly insecure by trying to make her feel like 5hit for being indecisive.

The point of what you were doing is to make you look valuable and being a challenge. Never discuss what you've done or what you're doing with a woman you're trying to attract.

You'd do well to go over the DJ Bible.

I did not want to make her feel like ****. I just brought it up to let her know what she was missing on for not wanting to go with me. Maybe it was a mistake though.

 

[Freeman]

Still talking baout her?

Originally posted by Baruch
I did not want to make her feel like ****. I just brought it up to let her know what she was missing on for not wanting to go with me. Maybe it was a mistake though.

Listen Baruch you don't have to tell her what she's missing out on...why dont' you show her...Telling her about what she missed just means that you are still thinking about her..find another chick man! I know its hard to get her out of your head but its somehting your going to have to do if you want to get on with your life.


Rememeber man: We have just as much to offer them as they for us-if not even more!

 

[Desdinova]

you don't have to tell her what she's missing out on...why dont' you show her...

Good point. Women can read body language and actions much better than anything verbal. Don't do the thinking for her, let her do that all on her own.

 

[Baruch]

Re: Still talking baout her?

Originally posted by Freeman
Listen Baruch you don't have to tell her what she's missing out on...why dont' you show her...Telling her about what she missed just means that you are still thinking about her..find another chick man! I know its hard to get her out of your head but its somehting your going to have to do if you want to get on with your life.


Rememeber man: We have just as much to offer them as they for us-if not even more!

ahah alright, ill stop thinking\talking about this chick man. I will only bump this thread when she will get on her knees to give me a bj to show me how appreciative she is for being around me.

 

[Baruch]

ok i know i said i will not bump this thread...but i just had to because the world spins in funny ways.

Remember I mentioned her new girlfriend? Well....that new friend of hers is apperantly a member on Jdate.com just like me. She viewed my profile today and emailed me. I had no idea who it was, i didnt know what the email said, because i have to pay in order to have all the featurs, so I just hotlisted her...

Then the same girl messages me on Myspace.com...She said that she saw me on the girls i was asking out profile and emailed me. lol

I mean, her new best friend is hitting on me via the internet now. I teased her in my email reply about how she is stalking me on two diffrent sites.

So now, I got her new friend telling me that I am cute and there is a high chance ill meet her because i go to the same parties she does lol.

World spins in funny ways.

EDIT:

so she decides she wants to talk to me on aim. and i agree.

HB: Why didn't karena want to introduce you to me?
me: that you will have to ask her
HB: I think you know
HB: I think you should tell me
me: lol
me: i honestly dont
HB: you must be a playa
me: i resent that notion
HB: ha...that's it
me: it is cool...whatever makes you happy
HB: been there done that
HB: I'll still hook you up if you want
HB: but you'll have to behave
me: hah
me: i give you a boy scouts promise
HB sweet
HB: you want to have fun with someone or you want something serious?
me: why do you ask?
me: i havent even met you yet, and you are asking me such intriguing question
HB: well because if you just want to have fun then I will just set you up with my goy friends that are Jew friendly and they will have a field day with you
HB: hmmm...I am not the typical girl . I am extremely honest and blunt and open
HB: so who cares if you haven't met me
HB: you will
me: im not a typical guy. i like to say whats on my mind
HB: thats a good thing
HB: I think that I can say that besides karena I am probably the coolest Jewish chick you'll ever meet
me: i will be the judge of that
HB: I'll take the challenge
me: ok, now you need to practice and practice

 

[CaptainObvious#1]

That's all good. Proud of ya.
But why do you even bother posting here for advice if all you're going to do is ignore it all and do your own thing anyways. If you are so sure of yourself don't post here wasting peoples time. They actually put thought into their posts and all you do is agree then go and do something totally different.

At least Desdinova has a good view of it all, even though you don't need to make any mistakes in the first place seeing as people were giving you good adivce in the first place


Good luck with this new girl by the way.