I hope I don't get flamed for this but...question

[Mike32ct]

She's thinking of getting reamed?
Maybe for a weeks time out of the whole month. During that stage in her already convoluted life.
If you have any insight or facts or theories, I want to hear it.
Please

Sure. I, like some others here on SS, exaggerate to make points sometimes and also for fun .

But in all honesty and seriousness, I think that women view "romance" differently than men. For example, romance novels (that women enjoy reading) almost always are about a rough, edgy guy, not a sweet caring guy. Soap operas and movies like Fifty Shaydes (misspell intentional) are similar in that regard.

I think that women are motivated by LUST and think with their &$@@$ way more than men realize or admit. There's a reason why SS posters often use phrases like "makes her gina tingle."

Now, I'm not big on c&f stuff. My biggest objection to that sort of game advice is it assumes that every guy is or should be a ball buster. But I have no problem with being playful or some banter/ribbing with someone I'm comfortable with. That's cool.

Anyway, my take is guys should try to work the lust angle with women first and foremost. Work out, have good posture, be playful (if you're not a c&f guy per se), send naughty texts with innuendo to get her going, etc.

Then, if she becomes your steady gf, feel free to mix in some romantic stuff. Too many guys think, "I like romance. That should be my key to puzzy." That's the wrong approach.

TLDR: She has to want to bhang you first and be comfortable with you before there is any chance of her loving you romantically or appreciating any romance. Even then, romance is best in small doses.

 

[guru1000]

Sideways:

All jokes aside. You be romantic when YOU want to. If you want to be gushy/mushy at a specific time, then be it.

The focus is not in how to act. This pedestals the woman as WHO is she that deserves such a thought of how to tend to her attraction. Fvck her. Be YOU genuinely, shamelessly, and unapologetically.

The goal is not to win the woman. The goal is not to betray who you are. I have done much over-the-top alpha crap that pushed women away. But, I live in congruency with who I am.

There will always be a woman who appreciates YOU, so be you, unrelentingly. There will be moments in your life, when you embrace pain, and change will occur. Whereas, you will surrender the old YOU, and transcend into the new YOU. But this doesn't change the game plan: again, be YOU.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

No o

I'd bet it was Herpes.
Lol jk guru.
Much respect for all that I read you have accomplished.
But my point in asking is to point out that if only ****y and funny got us there, then that's boring cuz its too formulaic.

No one ever said use only one method or approach. Use what works for you. C & F is a good default setting, unless you arent that funny. Some guys use the shotgun approach and try it on with everybody. Other guys are all about honesty or machiavellan manipulation. Some guys are borderline psycho rapists.
Iif being romantic gets the results you want mote power to you. Assuming all women respond the same is pretty optimistic.

I think the only constant is if you want to meet women you have to talk to women.

 

[_sideways_]

I appreciate you guys taking the time to write something meaningful.
I suppose I started this topic cuz of underlying factors in my game.

Usually the caring empathetic act works and females usually just put me in that box. Even gfs just want to see me in that way, cuz that's what works for them.

Thanks guru for the reset. Yes, it is about me. Its my personal life.

I do agree with the theory of females liking the romance novel guy. I will have to dig deeper in that role.