I have to apologize to my girl..ideas?

[frivolousz21]

gotya...

but the fact of the matter is...I said mean things....I was a complete ******* and jerk for about 2 min...I know I was wrong.

believe me.....I have a edge in me...

if she was being a bytch..then so to bad..but if Im doing shyt to hurt her..then i should say sorry...

if I say hurtful things to my male friends I would say sorry as well.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

Frivolousz21, a lot of men especially on this board believe if you show signs of emotion to anyone especially to your women you are weak. From what I got from a lot of posters is this..

On sosave, a real man or DJ,

Doesn’t Cry,

Doesn’t Show emotion to anyone,

Doesn’t talk about his emotions,

Doesn’t get emotional no matter what the conversation is,

Doesn’t Get emotional period,

Doesn’t say I’m sorry unless is absolutely necessary like if in the wrong but do so only once,

Does not stop being the prize by any means,

Should share his opinions on views about anything without regards to her feelings or thoughts because if she don’t like it then tough and move on,

Doesn’t trust what he may think is love,

Doesn’t fully opens up to his girl,

Protects his heart,

Doesn’t talk about issues it’s all about having fun and no serious talk no matter what the relationship status is.

 

[frivolousz21]

One arm Deejay-

Id rather die..then lived trapped in that box

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

I hear ya bro, but hey I'm just spitin out what are fellow brethren are saying and preaching.

 

[Desdinova]

Frivolousz21, a lot of men especially on this board believe if you show signs of emotion to anyone especially to your women you are weak.

It's not about showing your emotions, it's about letting them control you and your actions. That's how women work.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

I personally believe that in a serious LTR there are going to be times where you need to find out where your women stands on things, issues, way of life and what have you. You need to find out is this the type of women you want to spend the rest of your life with, if that’s what your relationship or how you want things to eventually go. Having fun and games is all good in the beginning but there is a place and time for everything. Can’t have fun all the time.

A man isn’t less of a man if he shows emotion. Who wants to be with a robot, a man with out a heart? I don’t want to want to be with an Ice Queen. Yeah I believe a man shouldn’t act feminine that will be a turn off. But showing emotion isn’t. But there is a balance of how much emotion. You see the point I’m trying to make. Women are emotional they make decisions based on emotions and react off of emotions. A man is rational and logical in all sense however he does have an emotional side. For instance showing emotion when someone you know dies, on your wedding day, watching your kid being born and holding him/her for the first time, talking about a very serious topic or talking about something you normally don’t talk about with your mate. And there are more but those few examples are showing that that’s ok to show emotion on. Won’t make you less of a man. Now crying over something petty or getting all worked up about the little things then no, that’s not cool. Leave that to the ladies

 

[frivolousz21]

It's not about showing your emotions, it's about letting them control you and your actions. That's how women work.

I get why you think that

and that is afc...and my women doesnt control my actions or words watsoever.

LOL all I wanted to know is if a rose was in order for putting her down.

 

[frivolousz21]

I personally believe that in a serious LTR there are going to be times where you need to find out where your women stands on things, issues, way of life and what have you. You need to find out is this the type of women you want to spend the rest of your life with, if that’s what your relationship or how you want things to eventually go. Having fun and games is all good in the beginning but there is a place and time for everything. Can’t have fun all the time.

I agree with you 100 percent.

thats pretty much decribes me and how i live my life

 

[gungho]

Why do you still post on this board and post your emotional problems when you are not looking for "don juan" answers.

You admit you think that the bible and theories are bull**** and written by "nerds", but why do you still post here with your pathetic posts. Reading that email from your girl made me laugh. A dj would read that and go "yah i got this chick wrapped around my finger" but the ironic thing is that you read it and go "oh my love i feel the same way about you". Pathetic. You are not trying to improve your DJ skills but to sit and cry and tell us about how much you love your girlfriend and how much she loves you.

I mean its almost like your trolling because you know what the members on this board are here for and read about and how they will respond to your feminine posts. You don't agree with our philosophies and are almost argumentative when you get the expected response. What are you expecting to hear from us, "oh yes it was so sweet that you almost cried with your GF, i almost began to cry when I read that post". Get the hell out of here and grow some balls, guys like you make me sick.

Go join a board for those that want to share love letters and poems and **** and can discuss ways to improve their love letter writting skills and save us the drivel.

 

[frivolousz21]

You are not trying to improve your DJ skills but to sit and cry and tell us about how much you love your girlfriend and how much she loves you.

haha my DJ skills are legendary.....if you want prooofff

have some of the DJ;s around the st louis, mo area.....come meet up with me for a night..bring a camcorder.

im done with that empty life of hook ups and meaningless sex.

Get the hell out of here and grow some balls, guys like you make me sick.

and guys who pretend be something they arent like you make me sick..its a shame...your just like BI

 

[Wyldfire]

Mind and Cardio...believe it or not...some women actually enjoy discussing things like politics, religion, current events and a variety of other subjects. Smart women get bored with men who can't or won't have meaningful dialogue and discussion with them. We DO actually have opinions and ideas, afterall.

Personally, I would be bored to death with a guy who was unwilling to or afraid to have those kinds of conversations. I'm sure there are plenty of air heads who aren't interested in those things, but unless you're only going to date dumb women, you're going to have to be able to carry on real conversation.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Mind and Cardio...believe it or not...some women actually enjoy discussing things like politics, religion, current events and a variety of other subjects. Smart women get bored with men who can't or won't have meaningful dialogue and discussion with them. We DO actually have opinions and ideas, afterall.

Some women do. Those are the ones that bring up the topics. However, it's a touchy subject, and if you can't discuss it without ramming your opinion down her throat, it's best to leave it alone.

 

[Wyldfire]

Guys...what is wrong with frivolous actually loving someone who loves him back and is making him happy?

I know misery loves company and all...but Christ. He's obviously very happy with the girl he's with so she's obviously doing things right. Why do so many of you feel compelled to try to piss in his cheerios?

Perhaps it's because he's happy and some of you aren't, so you want to bring him down so you can feel better about yourself?

He's not on here complaining about stuff his girlfriend is doing bad. So what's the problem? Instead of hating on him being happy you should be looking at him and thinking "if frivolous can find a great girl that makes him really happy then so can I".

Stop the hating...

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
Some women do. Those are the ones that bring up the topics. However, it's a touchy subject, and if you can't discuss it without ramming your opinion down her throat, it's best to leave it alone.

Well, I agree with you there...no one should try to force their views down anyone else's throats. More people need to realize that it's OK to disagree on things and respect each other's rights to have their own beliefs and views. The touchy topics are my favorites to discuss...but that shouldn't surprise anyone here.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

Originally posted by gungho
Why do you still post on this board and post your emotional problems when you are not looking for "don juan" answers.

You admit you think that the bible and theories are bull**** and written by "nerds", but why do you still post here with your pathetic posts. Reading that email from your girl made me laugh. A dj would read that and go "yah i got this chick wrapped around my finger" but the ironic thing is that you read it and go "oh my love i feel the same way about you". Pathetic. You are not trying to improve your DJ skills but to sit and cry and tell us about how much you love your girlfriend and how much she loves you.

I mean its almost like your trolling because you know what the members on this board are here for and read about and how they will respond to your feminine posts. You don't agree with our philosophies and are almost argumentative when you get the expected response. What are you expecting to hear from us, "oh yes it was so sweet that you almost cried with your GF, i almost began to cry when I read that post". Get the hell out of here and grow some balls, guys like you make me sick.

Go join a board for those that want to share love letters and poems and **** and can discuss ways to improve their love letter writting skills and save us the drivel.

Bro, you’re too caught up on being a "DJ" and its so-called game rules. Guess what? There ain't none. This board talks about what attracts women and what doesn't. What will kill a relationship and what will continue it.

You’re not the only one who is confused by this concept of becoming a DJ and what this site is for. This site is for you to build confidence talking, approaching and just being around hot/average/ugly women. To tell you what and how you've been screwing yourself over with women in the past. Improving yourself and your game.

And it all depends on what you want from this site and for yourself. Whether it’s to hit it and quit it, LTR or w/e it is you want. But the main thing is to improve you and become successful with women. Not remembering some pick up lines and not becoming something your not.

Also there isn't anything wrong telling people that your in love. He doesn't expect you to cry or hug him. Just sharing his experience with his fellow DJ's.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
and I wont...i told her i was sorry 1 time.i wont say it again....

I just think im getting a bad rep here..I mean i love her..im not blinded..ive been around the block...i hurt her feelings..shyt i just wanted to make it good.

Don't let anyone here ruin your happiness. Enjoy what you have and follow your instincts. As long as things are working the way you want you're doing just fine.

 

[frivolousz21]

Don't let anyone here ruin your happiness. Enjoy what you have and follow your instincts. As long as things are working the way you want you're doing just fine.

thanks, you seem like a normal person...

this entire thread was created because I made her cry because I said MEAN things on accident..I got carried away...and i wanted to know if a sorry or maybe a rose was in order.


then i get called a pyssy!

wow

 

[Austizzle]

Man friv, you have your own opinion, if other people don't like it then they shouldn't be so stubborn and just accept that other people view things differently. To appologize about such a petty matter is AFC thinking. Only if you truly did something wrong would I appologize!

AA

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
thanks, you seem like a normal person...

this entire thread was created because I made her cry because I said MEAN things on accident..I got carried away...and i wanted to know if a sorry or maybe a rose was in order.


then i get called a pyssy!

wow

Yeah unfortunately that’s how some people are on this board. Well I too am glad you found someone bro, and hopefully I too will find a women with everything that I'm looking for in one.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
thanks, you seem like a normal person...

this entire thread was created because I made her cry because I said MEAN things on accident..I got carried away...and i wanted to know if a sorry or maybe a rose was in order.


then i get called a pyssy!

wow

No problem...you're the one who was there and you're the one who knows if you behaved in a way that warranted an apology. You clearly believe that it did and acted accordingly. What so many here don't understand is that ANY girl who would dump a guy over something so petty as apologizing over something he felt he was wrong about was never really into him in the first place. Why on earth so many here are hell bent on following all these dumb rules to a tee is beyond me. You'd think that if they were seeing someone who would dump them over nothing they'd rather just weed her out in the first place.

You're doing just fine...you found a girl you can love who loves you back. Spend your time enjoying it instead of sweating over the small stuff.