I have the silliest, AFC question to ask.

[rh79]

Gosh this is such a silly question, but bear with me, please just bear with me. I'm going to prom with this girl that I very much am attracted to and she is attracted to me as well.

She is really beautiful and is resistant to creating relationships i guess. She has never had a relationship with a guy...nor has she even kissed a guy. She's turned down every guy that has asked her to a date or a dance except for me. But to be honest a lot of the other guys are not as good looking as I am (not trying to be egotistical, just the truth)

Anyways I asked her friend if i should kiss her after prom, but she said just hug her. I've already hugged her like a thousands times so I was thinking "wow that is not a special way to end prom at all"

anyways i don't want to scare her off or make her feel uncomfortable, so should I? She is attracted to me, but i guess she wants to take it so should I not? What are some signs I should look for? Just the typical when she is looking into my eyes and lingering around at her doorstep?





thanks for answering the question I know it's a really silly question to ask seeing how we're both 17 and how i've been on this site for so long, but I do appreciate it.

 

[JerryFl08]

I'm going to prom with this girl that I very much am attracted to and she is attracted to me as well.

soooo why don't you wanta kiss her?

i went to prom with a girl just like how you explained yours, and i didnt make a move in the end and i do regret it.. then again my date was a complete drag and basically ruined my prom, lets just say i made a hugeeee mistake and turned really wussy and let her ruin my prom, you can read it in my previous threads if you would like.. But anyways go for it dude kiss her, because then you're going to go living on your life regretting that you didn't kiss your date at prom, and stayed being a little wuss by not making a move.. Also look at it this way, it'll be her first kiss and it'll suprise her and just spice up the moment.. She would feel super attracted to you for sure, unless you really really really sucked at kissing.. but don't worry about it...
typical signs?? dude just kiss her ha, don't worry about it..if it dosn't work out which i doubt this will happen, but if for some reason it dosnt work out, you don't want to be with a girl that can't leave from her shell or have a little fun do you?? i wish i realized what i just said about a week ago when i was at my prom..Just don't make the same mistake i did, don't get whooped an turn all nice guy..cuz then in the end..she's gonna say "i just wanta be friends"..

 

[sageproduct]

@OP no rip on you personally man, but...

Why the FWCK does EVERY single guy asking for help here ALWAYS include "well I'm a fairly good-looking guy" or "I definitely know that I'm attractive"?

http://www.247weight.com/difference (2).jpg

Lol little bit of an exaggeration in the all caps words...but I keep noticing that. and it's not like we can do anything about our looks, besides the obvious like working out and dressing semi-nice.

@OP I don't give advice though...yet

 

[rh79]

Well i'd appreciate some advice sageproduct.And I think most of the guys on this forum are probably attractive (most as in 50%+). We came to this site to try and find girls. Most of us probably read some advice about looks and took it seriously. As a freshmen I was skinny, had yellow teeth, wore sh!tty clothes, and was really, really awkward. Now I have 30lbs of more muscle, have really white teeth, own some pretty nice clothes, and have improved my personality. And i'm 6'2 blonde hair/blue eyes, etc

Oh geez now I feel like i'm being egotistical. I'm not saying i'm brad pitt or anything, i'm just saying that this girl finds me attractive


But i know what you mean I could have left that part out and the whole story would have been the same. I didn't mean to be so self involved in the description, sorry.

 

[888]

Escalate kino from the very beginning, so that she'll get used to physical closeness. Don't necessarily wait for the "perfect moment" where you go in to make your move; establish a frame of physical/emotional intimacy (hugging, hand holding, eye contact, being in her personal space) from the very start and go in for the kiss when you d*amn well feel like it. The idea is to make it feel comfortable and natural for you two to be hooking up. If you don't make it a big deal out of it, neither will she, which is good because she won't have time to stop and logically process the situation.

 

[Captain]

Get some balls and make a move on her. If she is really attracted to you, then she wants you to.

 

[eaglez1177]

This is all the advice you need

EDIT: and i completely agree with what 888 said, that also is very important.

Gosh this is such a silly question, but bear with me, please just bear with me. I'm going to prom with this girl that I very much am attracted to and she is attracted to me as well.

She is really beautiful and is resistant to creating relationships i guess. She has never had a relationship with a guy...nor has she even kissed a guy. She's turned down every guy that has asked her to a date or a dance except for methats a really good sign. But to be honest a lot of the other guys are not as good looking as I am (not trying to be egotistical, just the truth)

Anyways I asked her friend if i should kiss her after prom, but she said just hug her. I've already hugged her like a thousands times so I was thinking "wow that is not a special way to end prom at all"Noooo!!! Damnn you screwed up big right here. NEVER ask a girls friend something like that! Why would you do that? You dont need advice from her stupid friend about a move your gonna make. YOU make your OWN moves, dont ask her friend to see if it'll be okay...you gotta have confidence in yourself and KNOW that you're going to hook up with her. And who says it has to be "after" prom? You have a much better shot at kissing her when the two of you are dancing. Now her friend is probably going to go to your prom date, and tell her what you asked. Not good.

anyways i don't want to scare her off or make her feel uncomfortable, so should I? She is attracted to me, but i guess she wants to take it so should I not? What are some signs I should look for? Just the typical when she is looking into my eyes and lingering around at her doorstep?Your making this WAY too complicated than it really is. Bottom line is that you and this girl are both attracted to her. Theres nothing else to say. The fact that shes into you, and might I add, the fact that youre the ONLY guy shes never turned down, should make the kiss no problem whatsoever. Your just overthinking this whole thing and letting that stupid friend of hers get to you. Another reason why you never shouldve asked her friend that is cuz now its messing around with your head and causing you to doubt yourself. You need to know that kissing her is not big deal, and will come really easy to you. And please, you are WAYYYY better off trying to kiss her as soon as possible at the prom rather than be a fvcking chicken and just build up anxiety by holding off the kiss till the end.





thanks for answering the question I know it's a really silly question to ask seeing how we're both 17 and how i've been on this site for so long, but I do appreciate it.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Do it dawg or else you gonna wonder through life asking yourself why you didn't go for it, don't put so much importance,its just a kiss.Be a man

 

[Bladerunner]

Plus, it'd almost be criminal to let this girl graduate high school without having even been kissed.

 

[Huffman]

Basically what everybody has said.

I'd say spend a couple of minutes alone during prom already (take her for a short walk outside, or in even in the hallway). Just be cool and relaxed, and talk to her like you always would. When you both are smiling at some point just pop the kiss. No romantic eye-staring (unless she starts it), just go in.

BONUS: if it really really doesn't work, DONT STOP THERE! Most of the advice here says "next her and don't look back" - wrong I say! Especially if you feel the chemistry you haven't lost yet! Just smile it off and change topic. Continue the evening as if nothing happened, and try not to worry too much. Because - you are set up to get another chance at the end of the night! Simply do it all over again and go in for the kiss. Persistance like this is sexy as hell.

If she still tells you "no" or rather "i need some time" then well, you tried your best.

 

[CarlitosWay]

So any updates? What happened lol.

 

[schoolfights]

Prom is coming--that monumental, unforgettable night that marks a high point in your high school years. You've chosen the person you'd like to share that memory with, but how do you find out if they want to share it with you? :woo: