I have the ability to be really attractive...but need help. (pic inside)

[Special T]

This is me...http://i47.tinypic.com/2ezin1x.jpg


I'm not a bad looking guy, and I know with the right style, I'll be able to get more interest from females. I'm lacking something right now and I can't put my finger on it. I don't ever expect HBs to walk up to me and tell me I'm hot, but I hope that girls will start giving me noticeable attention.


BODY: 5'10'' and 150lbs (currently working out and eating loads to gain another 20lbs)

FACE: I can't grow a full-beard. The only thing that looks nice on me is a mustache and chin hair or nothing at all. I also have visible acne scars on my cheeks and the occasional breakout. Would a facial improve my skin?

HAIR: I usually keep it short with some texturizer to give me easy waves. But I'm willing to grow it longer and do something wild with it. (Maybe something like this will work well for me... http://i50.tinypic.com/10mqvf4.jpg)

CLOTHES: I like to dress in button down shirts, nice jeans, and nice shoes. I don't like wearing suits and ties. In the summer I wear polo and t-shirts a lot. When I get really dressed, I wear a nice watch. I want to get more accessories (sunglasses, bracelet, etc). I also would like to know some good places to shop for shoes, jeans, etc that'll make me stand out but not break the bank.


The girls I'm most interested in are white and asian girls. I refuse to dress hip hop or talk slang. So many black guys talk and dress this way, and maybe they do get chicks because of their style...but I don't wanna go that route.

Help me out?

 

[Man_CA]

You look like Chris Tucker.

 

[BongDuy]

haha sorry but you really do look like chris tucker. your style is fine anyways, especially if you want a white girl or an asian girl, because most of them don't go for those gangster styles anyways ( atleast the classy ones don't. )

 

[Special T]

You look like Chris Tucker.

I don't believe that. I was just talking to a chick online and she said the same thing.

Is that a good or bad thing?

 

[Man_CA]

I don't believe that. I was just talking to a chick online and she said the same thing.

Is that a good or bad thing?

Hey, he is a celebrity. That is a good thing.

 

[Wasabi_Master]

Holy Sh!t , thats Chris Tucker

 

[Special T]

Anyone know any good online clothing retailers?

 

[Igetit!]

You look like Chris Tucker.

Ha,ha,ha,that's EXACTLY what I thought the second I saw his picture,lol.


You're ok man.



Despite the fact that there has been ten thousand threads swarming around lately about "looks" being more important than anything else to women,if a guy repeatedly has problems with girls,90% of the time it's something in his behavior that needs to be corrected.



Maybe if you can give us an example of how you approach a girl,we can look at it and see what the problem is.




If you can give us a example,please,PLEASE be as detailed as possible.



Tell us....


what you say
how you say it
what type of reaction you generally get from women


when you start to notice problems:is it during the approach,on the first date,or somewhere in between?




If that photo of you is how you normally look,then I seriously doubt your looks are the problem.

 

[Special T]

Ha,ha,ha,that's EXACTLY what I thought the second I saw his picture,lol.


You're ok man.



Despite the fact that there has been ten thousand threads swarming around lately about "looks" being more important than anything else to women,if a guy repeatedly has problems with girls,90% of the time it's something in his behavior that needs to be corrected.



Maybe if you can give us an example of how you approach a girl,we can look at it and see what the problem is.




If you can give us a example,please,PLEASE be as detailed as possible.



Tell us....


what you say
how you say it
what type of reaction you generally get from women


when you start to notice problems:is it during the approach,on the first date,or somewhere in between?




If that photo of you is how you normally look,then I seriously doubt your looks are the problem.

I'm a believer in being "chosen" and it feels like when I'm out in the field, I'm not being selected. That's why I think my coolness factor should be upgraded which will catch a female's eye.

All of my success has been with chicks I met in school or a social activity. I'm itching to be more successful at parties and clubs.

 

[Special T]

What do you mean by "success"? Lay? makeout? peck on the cheek?

All of the above, except for peck on the cheek.

If I made out with a girl, 95% chance I slept with her.

 

[bukowski_merit]

Put on 10-20 more lbs. Lift weights so that you get a nice tone chest/shoulders.... leave a few buttons up top undone so that your chest is exposed.... find a nice tribal necklace (cliche but will set you apart from the chain wearers)...

Very simple.... and about all i have to offer.


You do look like Chris Tucker. You could really use that to your advantage if you felt like it (by impersonating him to be funny)

 

[Igetit!]

I'm a believer in being "chosen" and it feels like when I'm out in the field, I'm not being selected.

Well,you might want to reconsider that "being the chosen one" mentality.


I assume you want women who are hot/attractive. Well "hot" women RARELY approach guys to get dates because they don't have to.



They have guys approaching them all the time,so they have plenty of options without having to risk rejection.




I'm not saying that they never approach guys,but it's rare that they do,and you'd have a heck of a bigger pool to chose from if YOU DO THE CHOOSING instead of just sitting back waiting on a 8 or higher to come approach you.

That's why I think my coolness factor should be upgraded which will catch a female's eye.

I agree with you on this,I just disagree on how to go about displaying that "coolness".


You want to change your clothes.


I think you should upgrade your PERSONALITY.

I guarantee you that you'll get a lot more interest from girls by being a bit more outgoing than wearing "cool clothes".



Women are attracted to energy. If you have no energy,but wear attention getting clothes,you might get a few extra glances from girls,maybe even a comment or two,but once they get to know the PERSON wearing the clothes,they'll lose interest.




If all it took was a new wardrobe to get girls,this forum wouldn't be here.



We'd all just go out and buy new clothes.

Bam...problem solved.

All of my success has been with chicks I met in school or a social activity. I'm itching to be more successful at parties and clubs.

OK,you say you've been most successful at social activities and school. Well,how were you successful at these places?

Was it the clothes you wore that brought you all that success?


I doubt it.


My guess would be that you were probably more outgoing in thoses scenarios. If so,then I say to use he SAME THING that gave you success in those places and use it at the parties and clubs.


You don't have to re-invent the wheel.


Just do whatever it was you were doing in school and at social activities at these parties and clubs.

 

[Pierce]

this mutha****a look like chris tucker

 

[HeyPachuco!]

Lol dude, don't get that hairstyle, its what W-i-ll-i-am does and looks pathetic. Gives off rugged and dirty vibe.

How about some ear studs? But yeah if you worked out, I'm sure you'd get get more of the eyes you want. I'm starting to buff up and I was a little squirt before, getting noticed more than ever.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H-HxR7s7k84&feature=related

 

[Demystify]

I'd say get rid of all the chin hair. It makes you look kind of nerdy.

 

[Joe Stud]

Get confident young man. stand erect. smile confidently. speak deeper & slower, and less often. and get some great smelling cologne. it's a secret weapon, and appeals to a female's sense that sometimes we ignore... her sense of smell. Oh, and although you work hard at looking good, act like you just threw yourself together. The "nice" shoes, "nice" jeans, and a "nice" watch are terms less manly than should be vocalized. When I use the term "nice", I'm usually commenting on something in the line of t!ts :rockon:

 

[Just a Shot Away]

I would just skip all of this looks/confidence crap and just tell chicks that I'm Chris Tucker's brother and that if they play their cards right I may be able to score them a role in Rush Hour 4.

But...that's just me.

 

[SLY]

Well, if you do decide to imitate Chris Tucker, don't do his voice.

And I've noticed no one answered your question,"what's a good store?"

IMO, this is just me but I shop at Buckle. And I'm making this suggestion because these stores can be accessed almost anywhere. But I will repeat what some have already said, it's mainly about confidence.

 

[Special T]

I'd say get rid of all the chin hair. It makes you look kind of nerdy.

I took it all off before and people thought I was 18.

 

[King Turi]

You sure that's you?
'Cuz it looks like Chris Tucker, seriously. ._.
You're like spittin' image of him. ._.

I'd say it'd be more of a behaviour thing as has already been said, do you feel kinda awkward sometimes or something?
'Cuz people pick up on that.

Just cruise around thinkin' "I'm Chris Tucker" and you'll be sweet.