I have some options, but I don't want to hurt anyone.

[Maurizio 2.0]

Ok, so I've got one girl who I've hung out with a bit, made out with several times
(not the best kisser, but okay), been on one "date" (but she paid for herself, she volunteered) and has invited me to her home about 2 hours from campus to meet her parrents and hang out at the beach (SoCal). She's told me she's talked to her parrents and they already know my name. I've known her about ten days, and I know she's already viewing this as a relationship.

She's cool and all, but there's another girl's digits I've been sitting on, who also shows a lot of positive signals. And frankly this seccond girl is more attractive to me -- verrry hot. I was probably going to party with her tonight...

I'm worried about screwing both of my options up since it's a pretty small campus. Should I find out if I can really get places with this seccond girl? Or is it better to let girl #1know that we're just friends before persuing girl #2 -- but then leaving the possibility of screwing up both options?

I just don't want to piss anyone off, because slander gets around on this campus pretty fast.

Thanks.

 

[Revlis]

If you want to be safe then the respectable thing to do is go for the girl that you want (girl #2) and give girl #1 the LJBF speech

You should be honest with girl #1 and say you don't want a relationship and to your surprise she might be cool with that. Weirder sh#t has happened!

 

[Chewy Bagel]

What are your intentions with the girl you're currently with? If you think you want more out of the relationship, then stick with her. If you just want to get laid and kick her out then you'll be perceived as the "bad boy" on the campus who the girls want to tame . If don't like her, then just pull away and call the other girl.

I hope you're not with the current girl just to be in a relationship. That's not healthy for either of you.

You could also try to play both girls and get up in both the NEDENs.

The rules of dating are very flexible. Unless you've made a commitment to one of the girls you can do whoever you want.

Cheers!

CB

 

[Walden]

F*** it , hurt everyone!

Can you tell I'm in a shtty mood today?

 

[honeyshark]

Originally posted by Revlis
If you want to be safe then the respectable thing to do is go for the girl that you want (girl #2) and give girl #1 the LJBF speech

You should be honest with girl #1 and say you don't want a relationship and to your surprise she might be cool with that. Weirder sh#t has happened!

Hell no, this is bad advice. Pursue them both.

Peace.

 

[Halo]

I agree, pursue all options until you have a very good reason to divert all your attention onto just one of them. I did exactly what you are considering, told one girl that my situation has changed blah blah, because I thought I was getting somewhere with another girl. Well a few weeks later things evaporated with that other girl, but I had already shut the door on girl #1. It was a stupid thing to do.

 

[icehot]

dude, never take yourself out of the game.

keep the option open with both girls. Not only will it make you feel more confident, it will also stop you from going all one-itis in the future.

-iceH

 

[Ice Cold]

If you're concerned about your reputation, then give #1 the "i am so busy right now, I'd like to date you and you're all wonderful, but I just can't with all the classes and stuff. Give me some time to work this out, and I'll get back to you ASAP"

Then work on #2. If that doesn't work out come back to #1. She'll still want you by then.

You'll save your reputation AND get a chance with both of them.

 

[Maurizio 2.0]

Thanks for the responses.

I think I'll keep the options open and persue both. Girl #2 is pretty busy, and we haveyet to find some alone time, meanwhile, I'm going to continue just to have fun with girl #1.

After reevaluating the situation, even if I do go for multiple ladies, I've decided that my rep is pretty safe.