"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have problems with masturbating(or something?) I became too paranoid and don't enjoy anything.

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I started here by asking a bunch of ridiculous questions about girls, but after a while, I realized I had major issues myself.

I masturbated from high school until the end of college. I don't know why, but even the slightest intimacy with a girl leaves me so wet you can see through my pants. Also, the two times I've had sex haven't been enjoyable. Besides, I can't enjoy anything anymore.

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I don't know if that's the real reason, but I'm incredibly paranoid and don't really enjoy anything. I've become paranoid even towards my closest friends and I don't feel like I belong anywhere anymore. Imagine you've reached a point where you can't trust anyone, where even your friends being friends with others is ruining you. I even thought about going to a psychologist.
I only enjoy going out with a few friends. I want to be with them all the time. In fact, I'm so attached to them that I'm ridiculously jealous of my friends. I even get jealous of them being close to someone else. But after spending some time outside, I get bored with them too.
It's like I'm dependent on people and I want people to be dependent on me.

Are these the effects of masturbation? I tried NoFap for a week and relapsed. The biggest effect I experienced in a week was anger. My tolerance has decreased, but as I mentioned above, my jealousy towards even my friends has increased. My tolerance has decreased, but at the same time, my jealousy towards the friends I mentioned has increased.. I had a relapse today and I regret it, but it feels like I took a tranquilizer.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BaronOfHair

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I masturbated from high school until the end of college
Non-stop, from the day you began 9th grade -the day you left Strafford "University" with a Bachelor's Entrepenurial Studies, eh? If you achieved such a feat, without Little Nely detaching himself from your torso, I encourage you to contact The Guiness Book Of World Records, ASAP

You've clearly earned your place in human history
 

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There's something fundamental that you have to reframe about yourself, and it definitely extends beyond masturbation.

It's like I'm dependent on people and I want people to be dependent on me.
Yeah dude, it's like you were meant to be a social animal or something. It's as if you're a human being.

In modern society, where men's libido haven't changed much since the dawn of humanity, masturbation is a socially acceptable private endeavor. I believe there's more you want to tell us.
 

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Paaranoid schizophrenia. It comes in degrees, so a lot of people have it at least a little. It makes you think everyone is out to get you and is conspiring against you. My dad has it, so I grew up with it.
 

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Paaranoid schizophrenia. It comes in degrees, so a lot of people have it at least a little. It makes you think everyone is out to get you and is conspiring against you. My dad has it, so I grew up with it.

Yes OP, I have a close friend that has something similar. schizoaffective disorder or something along those lines. You'll definitely want to seek out professional help, you're likely not going to get proper help on here for something like that. Keep your head up, my friend lives a lot better these days now that he's managed his symptoms well
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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To me, it sounds like the effect of living modern lifestyle. Yes, depending on how heavy p0rn usage is, it can cause some heavy psychological effects. I would start reading Way of the Superior Man on audiobook (if u dont like normal) and also Cupid's Poison Arrow by Marnia Robinson. Don't chase h0es. Doesn't sound like it would be good for you at this point. Get ur life together, get a therapist, quit P0rn, minimize masturbation, get a GF and just live a normal life.

The last thing u need is to spend years pursuing meaningless s3x.
 

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I don't know why, but even the slightest intimacy with a girl leaves me so wet you can see through my pants.
This seems like your head is going in the right direction - I'd be more concerned if your body wasn't responding properly to intimacy

Maybe I am missing something

As to your other points, no these other situations removed from sex, the lack of interest, the aggression, are certainly not a response to masturbation. I think they would be a good reason to go see a counselor, though.
 

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Mental health is an important issue, talk to a psychologist about the paranoia. If you catch it and treat it soon you may prevent it from becoming a full blown issue.
 
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