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****, I'm getting 1itis. Help!
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I have oneitis
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Close your eyes, take a deep breath, in fact take several deep breaths. Become relaxed and clear your mind, don't think about the girl.
Just stop talking to the girl. and talk to other girls. Thats the best way to get rid of oneitis. I mean why is this girl so special to you? Is she pretty?
Last two weeks I couldn't stop thinking about this girl, she was very pretty. So I stopped talking to her, and was acting cold towards me. Eh, okay turns out theres another girl in my class even cuter and way nicer to me. I dumped the first girl and have been hanging out with the second girl ever since. True story.
Just stop talking to the girl. and talk to other girls. Thats the best way to get rid of oneitis. I mean why is this girl so special to you? Is she pretty?
Last two weeks I couldn't stop thinking about this girl, she was very pretty. So I stopped talking to her, and was acting cold towards me. Eh, okay turns out theres another girl in my class even cuter and way nicer to me. I dumped the first girl and have been hanging out with the second girl ever since. True story.
Diaforetikos
Senior Don Juan
Dood, you should realize that she isn't special. She isn't anyone. Just some broad you have feelings for. You guys will either break up or get together and break up. Then you'll find another girl and youll forget about the previous one.
Start weening yourself off of her now. Drown yourself in your favorite past time. This really works. I had a girl over my house and every time I started focusing on my painting, she would rub against me to get my attention
When your focus is away from your target, your gain more control.
Always remember, the one who cares the least has the most power.
Start weening yourself off of her now. Drown yourself in your favorite past time. This really works. I had a girl over my house and every time I started focusing on my painting, she would rub against me to get my attention
When your focus is away from your target, your gain more control.
Always remember, the one who cares the least has the most power.
Soyoushave
Don Juan
You know, 2 things come to mind:
1. There's nothing wrong per se with having a oneitis, as long as it's not obsessing you (which, I guess, oneitis is..). There are reasons you like some girls more than others. One is because they're hotter, the other one is if you're looking for something serious. I get the feeling this forum is just about getting laid. Which is good, and you don't have to be so selective for that. If it's a girl and she's hot you're good to go. However, if you're looking for something serious, getting a hot girl only gets you so far too. Take myself for an example; I need a girl with humor, who's a bit crazy, spontaneous and who's smart (and good looking of course). Summary: Oneitis is good up to a certain point, also it's more the act of dealing with oneitis that's "wrong" than having it.
2. Almost every topic on this board has atleast one person bringing up the "pull-push" technique in one way or another. ("Always remember, the one who cares the least has the most power.") A funny thing is that there is not a single topic (or I haven't found it...) about HOW to make the other person care. In the past I've tried this by becoming a semi-psych with some girls. Basically I was THE person they came to when they had something bothering them and they were pretty dependant...the bad thing is that you almost instantaneously get yourself in the friendzone with that.
So I challenge you (new topic if you prefer it? just ask) to give me/us some good ways of getting a girl dependant (without going to FZ).
1. There's nothing wrong per se with having a oneitis, as long as it's not obsessing you (which, I guess, oneitis is..). There are reasons you like some girls more than others. One is because they're hotter, the other one is if you're looking for something serious. I get the feeling this forum is just about getting laid. Which is good, and you don't have to be so selective for that. If it's a girl and she's hot you're good to go. However, if you're looking for something serious, getting a hot girl only gets you so far too. Take myself for an example; I need a girl with humor, who's a bit crazy, spontaneous and who's smart (and good looking of course
). Summary: Oneitis is good up to a certain point, also it's more the act of dealing with oneitis that's "wrong" than having it.2. Almost every topic on this board has atleast one person bringing up the "pull-push" technique in one way or another. ("Always remember, the one who cares the least has the most power.") A funny thing is that there is not a single topic (or I haven't found it...) about HOW to make the other person care. In the past I've tried this by becoming a semi-psych with some girls. Basically I was THE person they came to when they had something bothering them and they were pretty dependant...the bad thing is that you almost instantaneously get yourself in the friendzone with that.
So I challenge you (new topic if you prefer it? just ask) to give me/us some good ways of getting a girl dependant (without going to FZ).
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Diaforetikos
Senior Don Juan
Oh, but there is good sir Soyoushave. (In regards to your #2)
By caring less, she has to care more. She chases after you. Its redundant to create a thread entitled, "How to make her care more than you." As the whole ideology on this forum is to let the women chase you. She is only going to chase something that she feels is worth caring about.
This also goes into oneitis. As you care less, you will acquire something new insights. First, you will notice that you don't care about whether she is interested in you or not, because, well, you stopped caring. TWO! She has gained more interest in you. She becomes and easy target and you soon realize that you could probably do better than her. And three, your oneitis is finally cured, and life once again makes sense.
By caring less, she has to care more. She chases after you. Its redundant to create a thread entitled, "How to make her care more than you." As the whole ideology on this forum is to let the women chase you. She is only going to chase something that she feels is worth caring about.
This also goes into oneitis. As you care less, you will acquire something new insights. First, you will notice that you don't care about whether she is interested in you or not, because, well, you stopped caring. TWO! She has gained more interest in you. She becomes and easy target and you soon realize that you could probably do better than her. And three, your oneitis is finally cured, and life once again makes sense.
Soyoushave
Don Juan
"She is only going to chase something that she feels is worth caring about."
Exactly! This is easy as soon as you have established a base of dependance (her being dependant on you, not the other way around). As soon as you have this base, the entire world is open to you! I also agree that this works in case of oneitis. The only thing is...how to get her dependant/caring/wanting you?
I mean, If I talk to the girl at the cashregister and decide to never shop there again, she's not going to miss me, since there's no dependance from her side.
Now...this is what I meant...how to get that gir dependant
Sure, in a café it's "easy", since you're just strangers and you can pretty much say she's the best and then say she's awful (oh! he likes me, but I apparently have to work for it = instant dependance).
The case in oneitis is that you are depending on her, not the other way around.
What I'm trying to say is..how to get that dependance (in such cases)
Also, I think I have to point out that I mean chasing with the word caring...or any other word that means "making another person dependant on you"
Exactly! This is easy as soon as you have established a base of dependance (her being dependant on you, not the other way around). As soon as you have this base, the entire world is open to you! I also agree that this works in case of oneitis. The only thing is...how to get her dependant/caring/wanting you?
I mean, If I talk to the girl at the cashregister and decide to never shop there again, she's not going to miss me, since there's no dependance from her side.
Now...this is what I meant...how to get that gir dependant
Sure, in a café it's "easy", since you're just strangers and you can pretty much say she's the best and then say she's awful (oh! he likes me, but I apparently have to work for it = instant dependance).
The case in oneitis is that you are depending on her, not the other way around.
What I'm trying to say is..how to get that dependance (in such cases)
Also, I think I have to point out that I mean chasing with the word caring...or any other word that means "making another person dependant on you"
mustfirstregister
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thank you guys. You are the best.
Hey if u dont care about her, then she is going to go out with another guy because she is hot.
Hey if u dont care about her, then she is going to go out with another guy because she is hot.